confused :(

[Kitten]

Hell call me old fashioned, but if love is there then hold onto it.

 

[Geriatrix]

Hmm, I see what you're saying. No, that's not a healthy relationship either.

But neither is feeling that the other person is ambivalent about you - it really sucks to be in a relationship where you feel that your supposed SO is fine if you come over, but is equally fine if you don't. You do want to feel a bit needed and wanted, so there is a middle ground.

I suspect a lot of these problems are due to communication errors; each side is misinterpreting what the other side actually wants and means. Short of developing telepathy, though, I don't see any way to solve it

True, people need to find a balance.
But telepathy would be a baaad idea.
Most people say things at the wrong time or the wrong way, I suspect people'd have more trouble controlling their thoughts. Imagine the turmoil!

 

[Pitbull]

I disagree pitbull, how do you know what they have isn't the real thing, and that a few mistakes and harsh words ended it?

Listen to what you are saying.

Listen to what the OP is saying.

The guy lives 10 km's from her, but only wants to see her for an hour or 2 a week..... WTF is that ? That is like me visiting my grandma once a week

He's not into her no more. The sooner you all realise that the quicker we can all move on and help superB get the love of her life

 

[eek]

I also believe that if both parties love each other deeply, then they can overcome/work through almost anything! Barring a few things, anything is forgivable. From what I can gather from the posts they seem to both love each other, so good luck.

Oh, I also agree with this...well...kinda anyway up to the bit of "Barring a few things, anything is forgivable". I think everything's forgivable! People make mistakes, which is why it's called a mistake. And for a person to say "I'm sorry", that's a big step and well, admittance of your mistake, and for this that person deserves forgiveness! That doesn't mean all is back to normal and forgotten, but at least you've forgiven a person for his/her actions. What happens next, that is up to you.

But that doesn't give you an excuse to galavant or commit these acts.

 

[Kitten]

Pitbull from personal experience, I adored an ex that I was with but he did something really hurtful (intentional or not) and I too withdrew. Just because I SAID I wanted to see them very little, didn't actually make it truthful. Just remember that when people are hurting or upset, they often say things to protect themselves which can be very far from the truth.

 

[Kitten]

Eek if you're married to someone for 10 years, and then find out they've been sleeping with your best friend for 5 of those years ... are you saying you'd forgive?

 

[blunomore]

Listen to what you are saying.

Listen to what the OP is saying.

The guy lives 10 km's from her, but only wants to see her for an hour or 2 a week..... WTF is that ? That is like me visiting my grandma once a week

He's not into her no more. The sooner you all realise that the quicker we can all move on and help superB get the love of her life

The golden rule - if you're feeling down/lonely/etc/etc, DO something (get a hobby/go out/have fun) even if you don't feel like it and you'll see, eventually you will feel better. If you wait to feel better before you show your face to the world, it will never happen.

Action, not inaction, results in improvement.

 

[Pitbull]

Eek if you're married to someone for 10 years, and then find out they've been sleeping with your best friend for 5 of those years ... are you saying you'd forgive?

I will knock her the fk out, take my kids and leave.

Simple as that

And I expect her to do the same to me.

I don't cheat so I would excpet the same from her. She knows where I stand on this

 

[Nicci]

I say again, SuperB needs some time alone to reflect. She needs to see things from a clear perspective, and sitting there plucking leaves from a Daisy playing he loves me he loves me not is really not going to help. Take a break, look at it from BOTH parties point of view. I have said my peace. /me takes a bow.

 

[blunomore]

I will knock her the fk out, take my kids and leave.

Again the issue of violence towards women .... I have no idea what you get up to at home, but please do not propogate it on a public forum.

Thanks.

 

[Pitbull]

Again the issue of violence towards women .... I have no idea what you get up to at home, but please do not propogate it on a public forum.

Thanks.

bla bla bla,

I knew you would add your 2c.

She messes arround she will get clobbered. I will get clobbered if I do the same. So it's fine for her to hit me according to you i guess

 

[scrypt]

Obviously he wasn't serious about hitting the girl. He was just expressing how he would feel.

So please Mrs. Serious! Have a banana and relax!

 

[eek]

Eek if you're married to someone for 10 years, and then find out they've been sleeping with your best friend for 5 of those years ... are you saying you'd forgive?

I'm saying yes, I'll forgive! I'll be crippled and hurt, but I'll still forgive the person. But forgiveness doesn't mean I won't take any action, I can still leave or do whatever I decide on doing.

 

[Gothan]

Never let your happiness depend on the deeds of others, cause that which is given can be taken away...no hope no fear

Type O FTW!!!!

Remember all of lifes mysteries can be answered by studying heavy metal lyrics

 

[eek]

EEK! PITBULL! no, what kind of advice is "go out and get laid?" ...

Clearly you guys do not know what it feels like to be in this kind of situation. I do, superb does, and many many other people do. Just not you two shhhhhh.

I think going out and getting laid will put an end to anything ever happening between you and the man you love.

ROFL!

Reason why I agree to this is because people tend to make things WAY too serious and in turn look for all these reasons and over-complicate things.

It's like society's become a drama queen!

Love I'm sure will sort out all their problems, but their not both exerting the same amount of love here are they?! Otherwise no distance would be too far too travel, I'm sure he can afford 10km a few times a week too! Not to mention, since when is everlasting and undying love for one another only worth 2 hours per week? No thanks! Not for me!

 

[stoke]

Obviously he wasn't serious about hitting the girl. He was just expressing how he would feel.

So please Mrs. Serious! Have a banana and relax!

No, this is pitbull. For cheating like that, clobbering is in order, both ways.

 

[Nocturnity]

Pitbull from personal experience, I adored an ex that I was with but he did something really hurtful (intentional or not) and I too withdrew. Just because I SAID I wanted to see them very little, didn't actually make it truthful. Just remember that when people are hurting or upset, they often say things to protect themselves which can be very far from the truth.

Ah, and here we get to the crux of the matter. Men and women are not the same. If she said she didn't want to see him that often, maybe she didn't mean it. If he said it, trust me, he meant it.

I don't want to sound negative here but I believe the relationship is over, SuperB. Move on with your life. I did the same thing in December and I responded in the same way.

Never let your happiness depend on the deeds of others, cause that which is given can be taken away...no hope no fear

Type O FTW!!!!

Remember all of lifes mysteries can be answered by studying heavy metal lyrics

Hahaha! Truth!

 

[blunomore]

bla bla bla,

I knew you would add your 2c.

She messes arround she will get clobbered. I will get clobbered if I do the same. So it's fine for her to hit me according to you i guess

I do not advocate violence of any kind from anyone. When you're done with someone, you walk away. No need for violence.

Then again, it's your wife's problem, not mine.

Obviously he wasn't serious about hitting the girl. He was just expressing how he would feel.

So please Mrs. Serious! Have a banana and relax!

Heya, Mr 62 Posts

 

[scrypt]

No, this is pitbull. For cheating like that, clobbering is in order, both ways.

Well then Enjoy Jail and your cellmate 'The Soultaker'.

I'm sure he will love it when the lights go out.

 

[scrypt]

Heya, Mr 62 Posts

lol please don't start Mrs +6000 no life.