confused :(

[blunomore]

lol please don't start Mrs +6000 no life.

Ooh, we have ourselves a live one here.

Now run off and go have a lovely day.

 

[PsyWulf]

lol please don't start Mrs +6000 no life.

Ugh,-rep for trollpost

 

[Pitbull]

Seems like I'm the new thread killer

Everytime I post in a thread it dies /cry

 

[blunomore]

Seems like I'm the new thread killer

Everytime I post in a thread it dies /cry

Are you surprised?

 

[Nicci]

/me gives pitbull and blu some gloves. /me hands out popcorn

 

[blunomore]

/me gives pitbull and blu some gloves. /me hands out popcorn

No need, Niccia

As mentioned, I am not the one who is into violence.

I am taking Friday afternoon off anyway, so on my way to indulge in some leisurely activities.

 

[Nicci]

LOL! Ok Oh nice early Friday tell me more about the leisurely activities? Sounds fun

 

[eek]

No need, Niccia

As mentioned, I am not the one who is into violence.

I am taking Friday afternoon off anyway, so on my way to indulge in some leisurely activities.

Verbal abuse?

 

[mOOey]

Seems like I'm the new thread killer

Everytime I post in a thread it dies /cry

You kinda capped it with your "shot from the hip" post (touching story btw.). Hey, killing a post because you gave great advice is not a bad thing.

SuperB: The fact that you even asked again later, just shows you're in denial. The only person who can TRULY make you happy is you.

 

[Lino]

Ok those of you who have history with each other etc. Take it out of this thread and solve it via PM!

Back to the topic on hand, I would say rather take things one day at a time. Do not rush him or yourself. You might eventually find out that both of you want to move on separately with your lives.

However at the end of the day it is your choice and no matter what we say here. Your choice and you will live with the repercussions not us. Best of luck to you!

 

[Dolby]

The line between 'clingy' and 'needing you' are slim :/

Some people may dislike a clingy needy girl, but at the same time it's gret to know that she wants to be with you. Yea - one may get irritated wit her phoning 10 times while you're at a pub, but's great to get 1 or 2 SMS's just to let you know you're thouht about.

I agree with some other poted : maybe he just needs time to get hose walls down. It's only January and you say you broke up December? I think it's too soon to say he doesn't love you.

 

[superB]

*nod*

Thank you all for the input.

Some of it has been hard to hear, some of it has been right on the money and some of it has been complete hogwash BUT it has done me a lot of good.

I'm going to give him the space that he clearly wants. I'm not gonna nag and freak out (no promises on that one but i'll try ) and I'm pretty much going to leave it up to him. It is going to super suck, but I guess its my only option. I'm NOT gonna walk away and play hard to get - I love him and I'm not one to play mind games. I'll let him know how I feel in no uncertain terms and leave it at that. If he wants to see me? Awesome. If he doesnt? Well... I guess the punishment fits the crime.

Thanks again!

 

[Pitbull]

*nod*

Thank you all for the input.

Some of it has been hard to hear, some of it has been right on the money and some of it has been complete hogwash BUT it has done me a lot of good.

I'm going to give him the space that he clearly wants. I'm not gonna nag and freak out (no promises on that one but i'll try ) and I'm pretty much going to leave it up to him. It is going to super suck, but I guess its my only option. I'm NOT gonna walk away and play hard to get - I love him and I'm not one to play mind games. I'll let him know how I feel in no uncertain terms and leave it at that. If he wants to see me? Awesome. If he doesnt? Well... I guess the punishment fits the crime.

Thanks again!

Now see, right there is the reason you need to get out there and make some man very happy


Sorry just messing around

 

[remybfg10k]

uhm, i have reverse dejavu, someone on here mentioned they had an ex in a bad place and didn't know what to do

Now superB says she is an ex who was in a bad place...

1 + 1 = 2?

 

[Pitbull]

uhm, i have reverse dejavu, someone on here mentioned they had an ex in a bad place and didn't know what to do

Now superB says she is an ex who was in a bad place...

1 + 1 = 2?

Termites ?

Exterminator ?

 

[eek]

uhm, i have reverse dejavu, someone on here mentioned they had an ex in a bad place and didn't know what to do

Now superB says she is an ex who was in a bad place...

1 + 1 = 2?

Ok....but both are women....

 

[remybfg10k]

 

[Delight]

Isnt it a sad,harsh&horrible world when people are too afraid to express and or experience the highest form of order that makes us human?? The term "clingy" is word which describes a man or woman who is not sufficiently loved,cared or protected for by the other partner! Everybody gets a bit clingy or,the REAL term is a loss or lack of self esteem&confidence when you find yourself loving more than you are being loved,caring more than being cared for-so on&so forth.Dont believe for a moment we haven't ALL been on the giving&receiving side at some stage of relationship decline so why blame her for being pushed out of what used to be a place of pleasure&safety just because her typical male boyf doesnt have the balls to either break it off or make an adult decision whichever way.People who mess with another's trust,affection&emotional generosity/vunerability's MAKE ME SICK.Because they make up the mob majority of a cowardly&dissatisfied modern world "culture". What ever happened to WORK LIKE YOU DON'T NEED THE MONEY, DANCE LIKE NOBODY'S WATCHING, LOVE LIKE YOU'VE NEVER BEEN HURT BEFORE?All you wanna-be cool or just plain COLD individuals are so transparently SCARED to love someone,put yr life down on the table&just courageously,nakedly let it all&the real you,hang out..please!i noticed since moving to Joburg that life's great love affairs&passionate relationships are sadly a thing of the past-all you boys take yourselves too friggen seriously-cant make small commitments,small gestures or love for today&you all look so sad&unhappy with yr unimportant lives-you just cant&dont want to see yourselves for who you really are.Do you think,at your death bed you'll be kicking yourself for all the women you loved openly, HONESTLY passionately&attentively?? I can tell you right now you'll regret the things you were too frightened to do,words you were too fragile to say in other words you'll realise all to late mind you,that you didn't bother to live at all&there's no satisfaction there(&you wont remember who thought cold was alluring) because LOVE is all you have,all you need&really,all you want,yr just too busy dying&denying to say&feel what your heart REALLY wants,to be its best.In short,he doesnt deserve you.If yr prepared&able to hang on&brunt the pain,uncushioned emotional exploits&rejections then do-you might teach him love.But NO guarantees-probability says you'll be left out in the cold, feeling used&empty&needing to find yourself again.

 

[Dolby]

Am I reading a different post to the one that you guys are? I see you can't believe that he won't see her ; and that you'd drive to XYZ to see your girl ; and how can someone be like that ... but this is what I read :

My ex and I broke up at the beginning of December.

While we both had a part to play in the events leading up to the break up it was ultimately my actions (and lack of forethought) that ended the relationship.

I then disappeared into a very dangerous situation and cut everybody of worth out of my life. My ex was the only one who cared enough to say something and he basically saved my life.[/

We both agreed that we would need to take it painfully slow in order to have any hope of reconciliation.

What would you do? I know he is trying to protect himself, but I feel like this is more to me than it is to him :/

The way I see it they're already apart ; they have no obligations to each other. Yet he still approached her when he thought she needed help. She didn't want him back in December - but she wants him back now? Should he run back because she said so?

Perhaps he also wants to protect himself from her ; and maybe that's why he's taking it slow? Perhaps after while of taking is slow, they're realise they're not good for each other - or vica versa.

Some of you have mentioned that he wouldn't drive a few KM to see her - but remember they're not together. He may also have driven to the ends of the earth to see her while dating - and done everything in his power to be with her!

Regardless, they've both agreed on slow. I guess they just need to define what 'slow' actually is.

 

[Waaib]

uhm, i have reverse dejavu, ....

Thats called called: vu jàdé

You also get déjà moo - which is when you think you've heard the same BS before.