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Crossroads, advice needed
- Thread starter requiem
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Ou grote
Honorary Master
I think we need some females to post here and give u some advice.
They'll figure out how to get past this "hard to get" strategy.
I dunno if she want's u to chase her or what's up with with her.
That’s exactly why he needs to act now. I would go moggy not knowing where I stood...I've been there, acted with haste and came away victorious!
cerebus
Honorary Master
Look apart from anything else sending flowers is going to be weird. I don't know why you didn't just take our advice and drive up to see her. I dunno, I think with her ignoring your messages sending flowers is going to really creep out your relationship. She'll always avoid you after that. Whereas if you see her and open up about the situation, even if she turns you down you can at least move on together as friends. Go up and see her, take her for coffee and talk about what happened. Clear the air. Don't drive yourself crazy with this thing.
Look - I mean maybe she was just drunk. That's why you need to see her - being direct and transparent is the best way to take care of her.
Look - I mean maybe she was just drunk. That's why you need to see her - being direct and transparent is the best way to take care of her.
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sand_man
Honorary Master
Marry her, seriously.... she is the one...
I have to agree with cerebus.
You know, there are sometimes situations in our lives where we panic about something to no end…when we eventually get around to confronting the situation, it really is not as hectic as you imagined it to be…Most of our worries and fears never actually materialise.
You know, there are sometimes situations in our lives where we panic about something to no end…when we eventually get around to confronting the situation, it really is not as hectic as you imagined it to be…Most of our worries and fears never actually materialise.
Ou grote
Honorary Master
Yes, also agree with Cerebus.
CodeMaster
Expert Member
I totally agree with cerebus & Ænema, and also suggested a while back that you really need to stand up now, see her face-to-face and tell her exactly how you feel.
She has pulled away from you now because of your reaction to her drunken-confession, and is now trying to protect herself. You need to go out on a limb here, and if you make an @$$ of yourself in the process, then so-be-it.
If you love her as much as you profess, then you wouldn't be so keen to quit as easily as it seems.
She has pulled away from you now because of your reaction to her drunken-confession, and is now trying to protect herself. You need to go out on a limb here, and if you make an @$$ of yourself in the process, then so-be-it.
If you love her as much as you profess, then you wouldn't be so keen to quit as easily as it seems.
Ou grote
Honorary Master
Although we enjoy this thread immensely, we don't want it to get bigger than TK.
We all want a happy ending here.
We're counting on you.
cerebus
Honorary Master
Being turned down isn't the worst thing in the world believe me. It's a lot better than letting the opportunity pass by and regretting it for years afterwards.
pete
Expert Member
I also see Cerebus' comment, and raise him an accelerator pedal.
From a girl's point of view:
Unless you had a relationship before where you sent flowers, now would be a bad time to start. Not to mention that you won't know what to say in the card, and you're going to feel worse if she doesn't reply when she receives it (which she probably won't, as it will confuse her or make her more wary).
Cerebus is right. You do need to see her and talk to her in person. Soon. The more you prolong it, the more awkward it's going to be, and it'll be less likely that you'll do it.
Unless you had a relationship before where you sent flowers, now would be a bad time to start. Not to mention that you won't know what to say in the card, and you're going to feel worse if she doesn't reply when she receives it (which she probably won't, as it will confuse her or make her more wary).
Cerebus is right. You do need to see her and talk to her in person. Soon. The more you prolong it, the more awkward it's going to be, and it'll be less likely that you'll do it.
Pitbull
Verboten
I said this right from the start. Get in your car and drive to PTA, it's only about 50 minutes drive. AND SPEAK TO HER !.
Go to your boss now and ask him for some time off today, tell him you have an urgent personal matter to attend to and drive there. Go to her work, class or house where ever she is and tell her. DO IT NOW !
Go to your boss now and ask him for some time off today, tell him you have an urgent personal matter to attend to and drive there. Go to her work, class or house where ever she is and tell her. DO IT NOW !
joburg_guy
Active Member
Been a quite bystander until now. Requiem take some action now. Leave BT6LW behind. You have had the guts to come out and speak to a group of strangers about it and received some very usefull advice.
You are already feeling the effects of postponing this "date" and it seems to be ripping you apart. The sooner you act on your feelings the better for you both.
Already been there, done that and had my heart ripped into little shreds. At least I know how she felt at the time and have been able to pick up the pieces and move on. In my case the friendship didn't last, I believe in yours it will.
Time for me to climb off of my soap box...
You are already feeling the effects of postponing this "date" and it seems to be ripping you apart. The sooner you act on your feelings the better for you both.
Already been there, done that and had my heart ripped into little shreds. At least I know how she felt at the time and have been able to pick up the pieces and move on. In my case the friendship didn't last, I believe in yours it will.
Time for me to climb off of my soap box...