Crossroads, advice needed

joburg_guy said:
Been a quite bystander until now. Requiem take some action now. Leave BT6LW behind. You have had the guts to come out and speak to a group of strangers about it and received some very usefull advice.

You are already feeling the effects of postponing this "date" and it seems to be ripping you apart. The sooner you act on your feelings the better for you both.

Already been there, done that and had my heart ripped into little shreds. At least I know how she felt at the time and have been able to pick up the pieces and move on. In my case the friendship didn't last, I believe in yours it will.

Time for me to climb off of my soap box...
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Best 1st post ever.

Also, Cerebus has an awesome wife ... so take the man's advice.

Besides, I need your thread to have a happy ending before I can start mine ... :o
 
Nortoise tortoise ... I live in Slummies ... ain't no way in hell i'm driving to Pretoria for some chick :p
 
milomak said:
Voicy - are you requiem?
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BT6LW said:
As promised. I said I would reveal who I was after I did something about it.

So I sms'd her last night, and told her I want to see her for a meal / coffee. She never answers her phone, we always communicate via sms. No Reply so far.

Will see if/when she responds to me. If she doesn't then nothing more I can do. Either she meant what she said / or she didn't. Either she remembers or she doesn't. Each way nothing I do can change the path now.

If she does not respond I will wait till I see her again.


Thank you guys for all the advise.
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You missed that episode.
 
Voicy said:
Nortoise tortoise ... I live in Slummies ... ain't no way in hell i'm driving to Pretoria for some chick :p
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Pretoria chicks are loose. So I don't know why requiem is having a problem at all.
 
Will be leaving here at 16:30 and heading to pta. Wish me luck guys,

Good luck with your plight Voicy :)
 
Ænema’s tips for the “meeting”.

- Dress for success. (No, not a power tie!)
- Wash your face with some warm water, it will help relax you and remove any sleepies you may have. (not that you have been dossing much of late)
- Make sure you brush your teeth well and take some gums with to chew on your way over. (fresh breath for that first kiss)
- Wear an antiperspirant deodorant. (you are going to sweat bullets, so take it with and give a spray before you get there)
- Choose some uplifting music for the trip (personally I would choose some metal, get you revved)
- Don’t plan a “speech” as such, talk from the heart.
- Make good eye contact and avoid tensing up, body language speaks volumes.
- Plan an exit strategy if things go titties up. (don’t get angry or cry if things don’t go your way)
- Enjoy the moment whichever way it goes, events like this are what make life exciting and worth living. You will never forget this day.
- Lastly, GOOD LUCK.

Ænema.
 
Sandman's advise for the meeting..

Be the person you were/are for the last 12 years that the 2 of you have been friends. Don't get all weird and romantic all of a sudden with this person who's been around you long enough to know exactly who and what you're about, just be brutally honest and forthright about your feelings and bugger the consequences. You don't want to die wondering.... Good luck meneer...
 
-relax, act normal. Just talk. If she turns you down accept it, smile, move on and give her a hug afterwards. Even if you have to go round a corner and bawl it out by yourself.
 
Ænema said:
Ænema’s tips for the “meeting”.

- Dress for success. (No, not a power tie!)
- Wash your face with some warm water, it will help relax you and remove any sleepies you may have. (not that you have been dossing much of late)
- Make sure you brush your teeth well and take some gums with to chew on your way over. (fresh breath for that first kiss)
- Wear an antiperspirant deodorant. (you are going to sweat bullets, so take it with and give a spray before you get there)
- Choose some uplifting music for the trip (personally I would choose some metal, get you revved)
- Don’t plan a “speech” as such, talk from the heart.
- Make good eye contact and avoid tensing up, body language speaks volumes.
- Plan an exit strategy if things go titties up. (don’t get angry or cry if things don’t go your way)
- Enjoy the moment whichever way it goes, events like this are what make life exciting and worth living. You will never forget this day.
- Lastly, GOOD LUCK.

Ænema.
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I'm surprised you didn't recommend an enema...:)
 
requiem said:
Thanks guys.
210 minutes to go :)
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Maaan!!!! That's true love. You've practically grown up with this bird yet the consequences and pressure of this meeting are huge for you/her... If all else fails perhaps point her in the direction of this thread. Perhaps it can put things into perspective for her...
 
Been watching this thread for a while now. Good on you for finally going to see her. Face to face is the only way to do things, tones and expression can't be expressed in writing as well as they can be expressed in person.

Whatever you do, if it ends badly DON"T cry in front of her, bite your lip take deep breaths, politely say goodbye, drive away and then you free to express yourself. If she is your friend, she would hate herself for making you cry and could possibly ruin any potential friendship.

Also don't bad mouth her to her friends (and yours) if it doesn't go well, rather come rant on here, that way when you are over it, you can still be friends with her.

Druken confessions are often the truest and she is probably just embarrassed that you know how she feels, and ignoring you is like pretending it never happened, but I can assure you that she has thought about it non stop, just like you.

Good luck!!!!
 
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