Clearly your level of comprehension is on a technical level. So let me pose the questions specifically for YOU so you can perhaps grasp the point that was trying to be made, not the how questions were phrased. Or maybe the best way to avoid such questions was by deflecting them?
1. Do YOU REALLY understand what actually happened in South Africa? Not what YOU read in some book, but actually grasp what happened?
2. Do YOU understand the concept of cultural assimilation and how it was applied to South Africa?
3. Have YOU ever sympathized with anyone in South Africa's lower class (or any class lower than you), be it a poor coloured/black/indian/white person, or do matters outside your boom gate (or where ever you reside) don't concern you? (If YOU) Hired a maid, it doesn't count as "sympathizing". You needed a service, they provided you with one!
4. Have YOU ever visited ANY South African historical monuments (on your own accord and free will, not a mandatory bloody school trip)? From your prior answer, have YOU visited any Apartheid museum, or any monument that aims to make people aware of the realities of Apartheid?
Now did I OD, or is it still hard to comprehend the point that is trying to be made, without you derailing the point? If you need the questions asked on an even more specific level you can ask away and I will do so gladly

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