Dilemma

[Neptuner]

I don't know if she's constantly looking for dick, in fact I doubt that very much. It's an advanced stage organ failure btw

You can’t rule it out, you mentioned she has a great personality. She probably knows how to work all types of men you no exception, make you feel like you the only one on her mind. If it were me I was not going to touch her, but if I found myself in the spur of the moment I would do what was bothering me and ghost her and move on.

 

[Fulcrum29]

Kelly is hot.

 

[Craig_]

The last thing he needs is to find out his friend is fucking his wife.

This, you might just be the cause that the oke finally kicks the bucket.

She will get laid - Why can't he be the nice guy helping her out ? I'm sure he's friend will be happy that he's keeping his wife happy.

How would you feel if you were the husband? Stuff like this is never a good idea, this will bomb in his face some time or the other. In fact, you've been in this situation, surprised you'd give advice like this.

You should make a copy of this thread for when she does it to you. Karma being karma.

This, once a cheater always a cheater.

 

[epah]

...An invisible man
Sleepin' in your bed
Ow, who you gonna call?
Nutbusters!

…Lemme tell ya something
Bustin' makes me feel good!

Now you messed up my song boo.

This gave me a good chuckle, I just spat my pizza out. Thanks boo.

 

[I.am.Sam]

Hey who says I am lonely, I have my hands dont I?

but you dont have a c1 to watch Pron on

 

[epah]

but you dont have a c1 to watch Pron on

I use my wild imagination.

 

[RunningFromFat]

@Senor : If you can live with it and keep a lid on it, then you most probably can do it without it eating at you for the rest of your life.

 

[Gone Fishing]

You know what comfort sex is, right? She had as many enemies as she had frenemies, she would get in bed with anyone close to you... Quite the she-devil, but the two of us got along great until the day we weren't friends any more, and it was probably for the best. Nothing bad happened, it is just that people move on and become distant. She tried to reconnect with me just before the pandemic, invited me to her birthday, but I declined and haven't heard from her since.

I know a couple of people who rebound. Yearning for the ex in a new or another person, though I have seen some healthy, but rare relationships coming from it.

People make their own decisions, but they should also live with the consequences.

I do things simple. I do me and you do you.

People are complicated and there are a lot of unique relationships and situations out there. I remember years ago being torn up about the divorce of my wife at the time, but I was still trying to live "normally" and how the rest of the world defined relationships, partnerships, families, etc. Turns out if I just gave people the respect and space they deserved for just being people, everyone was happier - and the people that couldn't understand or adjust to my new way of not being normal moved on.

 

[Pak Fa Fui]

Kelly is hot.

Never thought of you as a Kelly fan

 

[The_Librarian]

One word - don't.

 

[Craig_]

Touche, son, touche.

I have this old lass that I'm servicing. Whenever I hear my door opening, my dick is like

What a good way to ensure that I will never stop by you in future.

 

[backstreetboy]

One word - don't.

That's two words.

 

[saor]

That's two words.

Well actually...

 

[pinball wizard]

I use my wild imagination.

I just realised, when I said "**** Paul", you, were like "yes please", not like, well, **** paul.

 

[Fulcrum29]

Never thought of you as a Kelly fan

You think I klap it with Bring-en-Braai treffers?

 

[S_L_Y_G_U_Y]

as soon as i saw the name of the thread I could only think

Nelly - Dilemma​

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[pinball wizard]

as soon as i saw the name of the thread I could only think

Nelly - Dilemma​

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You need to up your game then.

 

[Fulcrum29]

as soon as i saw the name of the thread I could only think

Nelly - Dilemma​

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I love this formula.

 

[PatchTuesday]

Nike

 

[Daisy Cloudskitter]

So I find myself in a position that I just ca not decide what to do. I welcome any and all comments, opinions, criticism, whatever.

I'm divorced and have been single for the last 5 years. Divorced for 11 years though.

A friend of mine that I used to be quite close to years back, in that we would go out together etc, even when he met his wife, I was there and spent time with them as well.

Fast forward 15 years, the friend, whom I now rarely see or visit is quite ill, and in and out of hospital etc. His wife though has remained in contact with me almost throughout. Never forgetting birthdays and stuff.

There was this one time a few years back when she visited me at home, unexpectedly , and we ended up having wine and just kissing and touching etc.. Nothing more, clothes never came off. Never did that again or even met alone since, but remained in contact.

Now, she's totally wants to hook up, but I feel guilty about pursuing this. There's kids and a terminally ill husband involved. She's also under pressure trying to keep everything together at home.

Would I be helping her and everyone by just comforting/destressing her, or is this something that I should just stay away from. It does feel wrong to me....let that much be clear.

But damn I'm tempted...so very much.
She's like quite hot as well... Slim, tall, terrific personality...

Sounds like you already know what (not) to do.

Consider the kak guilt you felt for years after what was basically ( basely?) a quick snog on the sofa. Caving in to lust now would likely multiply that guilt X100 by adding the current misery of a terminally ill old friend and his kids to the mix.

And be honest with her about where you’re at. The mutual attraction thing aside, you’re apparently also a long time trusted friend, so she may even appreciate the simple assurance that your support's there for her - just from a distance for now?