Do you think she'll break up with me when she's successful?

Quantum Theory said:
I was in the same situation as you, Swag. Met an awesome girl with a good job, while I was bumming around slightly. Found myself a better job and 6 months later an even better one. We are still together after 7 years... engaged and getting married next year. It is time you do something about your own situation.
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You didn't study?

I'm not even sure where to apply to. I think I should study something along the lines of the veterinary sector, that way even if I fail I do have more knowledge to my name, meaning I know more and I can be more valuable to the company. Which means I can ask for increases or give in my CV's at other similar stores.

Perhaps I should take a management course? Even if only a short one. The more I can put on my CV the better yeah?

Anyways, that's a thread for another time, but you are right. I need to focus on my future.

zippy said:
If anything it sounds like her success will make you insecure and that will destroy the relationship.
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I made this thread because I'm afraid of losing her, not because I'm insecure. Even though I might be, it's irrelevant.

She > my fibs

OhYeah said:
Agree fully. I find very often it's the guy whose insecurity that will jump at any slightest/unintended comment/action as another insult to his dwindling manhood so he bounces hard and high and make life miserable for everyone involved. Besides, if a guy doesn't have the self-confidence to be with a woman who makes more than him, she wouldn't/shouldn't want such a guy anyway.
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It's not in my nature to jump at such things let alone against a girl I care about.
 
Be positive about this. Negative feelings will destroy your self-esteem. If you have met your life-partner, consider yourself lucky. Build on the relationship and put negative thoughts away
 
My one mate is a construction plumber and his fiancée a qualified CA. They have been together for 5 years now and still very happy from what I can tell.
 
InternetSwag said:
I made this thread because I'm afraid of losing her, not because I'm insecure. Even though I might be, it's irrelevant.
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It's hardly irrelevant if it's what drives her away.
 
Sometimes I really think psychology students come to MyBB in order to conduct case studies for their theses.
 
The rest of posts ... too long didn't read (tl:dr).

Men's libidos only function when stiff.

Your back should be the same.

Girls don't like a limp spined man.

If you earn peanuts compared to her ... it is her good fortune ... not your incompetence (unless it is your incompetence).

If she chooses to leave you because of this ... tell he to go **** herself because her new boyfriend will probably do the same because he is a CA and considers his job being worth more than anything else.
 
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Don't make up her mind for her. If she leaves you, there's nothing you can do about it anyway. But to have an issue with her because of your own insecurities is just not on.

Newsflash...she picked you. girls never just pick a guy (for more than 1 night at least) if they don't approve of the guy or see an investment in someone they can improve by building on his already good foundations.

Use this as motivation and don't see it as her trying to change you (change != improve) Oh...and ask her what "!=" means if you're not sure. Then call her a geek. :P

Instead of moping on it, show her why she should keep you around. But most importantly, remember that...

Chicks are car guards.™
 
This chick programs (thought they gave up on the idea) so she is not your "normal girl" either (ie. she is bat **** crazy in another way). :p

You'll be fine. If someone leaves somebody because of money it was never meant to be and that person should go **** themselves!

EDIT: and you are either intoxicated, dumb or blessed with big balls to post stuff like this on a forum where techies like her or her class mates hangout.
 
Love is not enough. Money only doesn't matter if you have lots of it. If you love her get your butt into gear and make a success of yourself. Why would any successful woman want to be stuck with a man who can't cut it in the rat race. Sad but true.
 
Wait. I retract my post because I just saw who the OP was.

Dude, you're the guy that doesn't know what he wants to do in life and works behind the counter at the vet shop (or something like that). So you and your gf are like 21 or 22 years old, right?

So one, you guys are young and the chance that you just found true love is very unlikely. If she has any ambition she is gonna be moving around because of her career.

And two, at some stage she is gonna get tired of you not having any ambition. And even if she doesn't, please don't kill her career "in the name of love". I know this girl developer (studied with her) who lives in my hometown and she has no real career because she got married when she was 24 years old and the hubby is the "man of the house" and his career in welding stuff at a workshop is way more important than hers. If they moved to the city she could double her salary and out-earn him. But no, the ego is too strong in that guy. So don't be like him. He is a douchenozzle.

If you had like ambition and the will to go do something with your life then there was hope. But you don't. So there isn't. Not unless you change(d). Same thing I said to you in that other thread. Have a great night.






...and pray to whomever it is you pray to that she doesn't read this thread/post.
 
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Hamster said:
And two, at some stage she is gonna get tired of you not having any ambition. And even if she doesn't, please don't kill her career "in the name of love". I know this girl developer (studied with her) who lives in my hometown and she has no real career because she got married when she was 24 years old and the hubby is the "man of the house" and his career in welding stuff at a workshop is way more important than hers. If they moved to the city she could double her salary and out-earn him. But no, the ego is too strong in that guy. So don't be like him. He is a douchenozzle.
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Wow ... you've got a knack for saying things as it is.
 
InternetSwag said:
I'm not even sure where to apply to. I think I should study something along the lines of the veterinary sector, that way even if I fail I do have more knowledge to my name, meaning I know more and I can be more valuable to the company. Which means I can ask for increases or give in my CV's at other similar stores.
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Who thinks like that. You are thinking of failing before you even committed to starting. You're not like this around her are you?

And no, you cannot go ask for increases for something you failed when you tried to study it. Think positive and get your career going.
 
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