how expensive is a wedding??

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yoh.. my old thread is back :eek:

edit : and still married :twisted:
 
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here's my take on the cost of things like this. you want to see me get married, well i will be getting married in the court and you may attend to witness the fact. should you want to celebrate the fact that i got married well then i won't say no to a luncheon or dinner at a nice restaurant. i ain't spending no money on a day to splash out on a puffed out wedding dress or feeding people to witness me getting married. i'm going to spend that kind of money on something that will benefit me in the long run i.e. deposit on a house, car, buy furniture etc. get my drift.
 
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Celine said:
here's my take on the cost of things like this. you want to see me get married, well i will be getting married in the court and you may attend to witness the fact. should you want to celebrate the fact that i got married well then i won't say no to a luncheon or dinner at a nice restaurant. i ain't spending no money on a day to splash out on a puffed out wedding dress or feeding people to witness me getting married. i'm going to spend that kind of money on something that will benefit me in the long run i.e. deposit on a house, car, buy furniture etc. get my drift.
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A very mature and sensible approach. Something the women tend not to be when it comes to weddings.
 
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Celine said:
here's my take on the cost of things like this. you want to see me get married, well i will be getting married in the court and you may attend to witness the fact. should you want to celebrate the fact that i got married well then i won't say no to a luncheon or dinner at a nice restaurant. i ain't spending no money on a day to splash out on a puffed out wedding dress or feeding people to witness me getting married. i'm going to spend that kind of money on something that will benefit me in the long run i.e. deposit on a house, car, buy furniture etc. get my drift.
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Divorced?
 
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i'm not divorced thank you very much. i just think that the money would be much more beneficial to me in MY bank or paying something of interest to ME, not paying to feed people to witness me get married.
 
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just to add to my comments about not spending money on a wedding this is what i did to my husband. he kept proposing and i kept saying no. when he kept asking me about who we going to invite and food and dress blah blah i told him to wait. then while i was at work i phoned the courts and got a date. phoned my husband and told him to meet me there on that date at 10.30 in the morning. he asked why and i told him just to be there. i told him to be nicely dressed and he turned up. when he asked me why i had done that i told him flat out that i will never spend money on something i see as wasting. he then asked me what i wanted to do with the money and i told him - house. ain't got no time for stuff like that lol.
 
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Celine said:
just to add to my comments about not spending money on a wedding this is what i did to my husband. he kept proposing and i kept saying no. when he kept asking me about who we going to invite and food and dress blah blah i told him to wait. then while i was at work i phoned the courts and got a date. phoned my husband and told him to meet me there on that date at 10.30 in the morning. he asked why and i told him just to be there. i told him to be nicely dressed and he turned up. when he asked me why i had done that i told him flat out that i will never spend money on something i see as wasting. he then asked me what i wanted to do with the money and i told him - house. ain't got no time for stuff like that lol.
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That has to be the most romantic thing I ever read.

I gotta agree with C here - the last time I got married, it was R5000 in total for everything. And based on how that turned out, I wasted R4900 (the R100 for my beers I can live with).
 
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celine could have booked a ticket to vegas and had a holiday and got married at the same time
 
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People that spends more than they can afford on a wedding is short sighted in my view.It hacks me off (well it is their problem) that they can feel such peer pressure.What is worse is all these fly by night wedding planners ,events companies etc that go with it.If times really get tough(tougher) cant see the events industry being a sustainable one
 
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jambai said:
People that spends more than they can afford on a wedding is short sighted in my view.It hacks me off (well it is their problem) that they can feel such peer pressure.What is worse is all these fly by night wedding planners ,events companies etc that go with it.If times really get tough(tougher) cant see the events industry being a sustainable one
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Maybe time for me to start cheapskateweddings.co.za. Maybe Gary should do it, actually. Pop into his house, quick ceremony, cup of coffee and on your way.
 
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Celine said:
just to add to my comments about not spending money on a wedding this is what i did to my husband. he kept proposing and i kept saying no. when he kept asking me about who we going to invite and food and dress blah blah i told him to wait. then while i was at work i phoned the courts and got a date. phoned my husband and told him to meet me there on that date at 10.30 in the morning. he asked why and i told him just to be there. i told him to be nicely dressed and he turned up. when he asked me why i had done that i told him flat out that i will never spend money on something i see as wasting. he then asked me what i wanted to do with the money and i told him - house. ain't got no time for stuff like that lol.
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In effect the wedding was still all about you, what you wanted to do, when and where you wanted to do it - no need for consultation with your partner?

I actually enjoyed being part of the planning of my wedding… at least to a limited degree. :D
 
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GreGorGy said:
Maybe time for me to start cheapskateweddings.co.za. Maybe Gary should do it, actually. Pop into his house, quick ceremony, cup of coffee and on your way.
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oh no i'll do one better i'll offer cup cakes. you lose lol.
 
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I think having a wedding celebration of some kind is important as you are as accountable to those people are you are to your partner.

Easy in, easy out in my opinion...which is why many of these fly by night spur of the moment efforts just don't last.


That being said you don't need to spend a fortune, or anything at all for that matter...but do include other people even if they end up paying for themselves. If they want to share it with you they'll pay. If they complain then it wasn't worth inviting them in the first place.
 
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The "wedding industry" is a joke. They're completely exploitative of people who are trying to live out a dream they've had since they were kids. I had one photographer quote us R23000 for the day ... Really? R23000?
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We spent what I think would be an average amount for our wedding. Sure, it could have gone towards our bond and all that, but I dont regret it at all.

We didnt go extravagant, but we made sure we had what we wanted and both my wife and I absolutely loved the day. Before the wedding, i wasnt that excited, i was looking forward to the honeymoon. Afterwards, I can say it has been one, if not the, best day of my life.

We shared good food, drink and music with only close friends and family and had an awesome celebration. Then again, I know plenty people who would rather not do this, and the fact that they are spending the money on the wedding will detract from them enjoying it.

So do what you wanna do, from my point of view, I think I would regret not having done the day in the way we did
 
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Sinbad said:
You think R23k is justifiable? Honestly?
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If that photographer is good at what he does and he's getting booked regularly, then yes. Totally justifiable. That's perceived value, the same reason people spend high amounts on designer clothing..

Is it justifiable to spend R20k+ on a dress you will wear exactly once in your life?

Or would you rather spend R2k and have someone shoot with a point and shoot?
 
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