My wedding cost R4200:
Two x peace workers to clean up house = R200
Spit Braai for 60 people (in 2002) = R1000
Booze: R3000
60 hammered, well-fed, happy friends. R4200 later. It can still be done for under 10K, provided extravagance and reality play a role:
Dress: get something nice, something she can wear again as evening wear. My wife already had something.
Photos: In this day and age, tbh, the amounts being charged vs the value is ridiculous. In the old days, you could cut up the prints and burn the negatives when you got divorced. Now, you gotta hit facebook and go delete crazy and undo the internet to get rid of the damn things. So rather get a friend with a decent digicam to take a few pics - pics you will not, really, linger over in moments of nostalgia.
Venue: even if your own place is too small or not suited to the event, there are several places that can be secured for R5K.
Food: spit braai and two vegetarian lasagnes has every single guest happy and well fed. Trust me on this.
Oh, and the video? Again, in my day we got value for money: I could record three episodes of South Park over it and actually enjoy it. Now, you get a DVD that you will never watch again. Ever. But you have to store it, ere your betrothed thinks ill of you.