how expensive is a wedding??

[ebendl]

To be honest, if I did it again, i would elope, ship the family over and have a wedding on the beach with family and a few friends. When you realise how u get @$$raped with prices in cape town, its seriously over the top.

I knew a guy who made the sums and decided than rather than entertain 100 people, he could buy accommodation for 10 in Mozambique for a whole weekend. They ended up getting married on a beach on Friday evening and spending the whole weekend with their friends.

Thing is - after I got married and spend the evening with our guests, I wanted to see my wife - not more guests!

 

[cerebus]

Got married in January. Food is the killer at R240 pp x 80.
R130000, including wedding rings(cheaper than her engagement ring) for both of us, without the honeymoon. It depends on a number of factors tbh. We were not going to skimp on the photographer as well as the venue, although the venue worked out much cheaper than some of the places in Stellenbosch. 1 big piece of advice is to budget and also add some extra cash for miscellaneous expenses.

So..you budgeted and still ended up paying 130k?????

 

[ebendl]

So..you budgeted and still ended up paying 130k?????

Uhm yes, to draw up a budget does not mean cheap necessarily?
What AvOk is saying that he should have budgeted a little bit more for misc expenses. A good budget always have fat built into it - as much as 20% in beginning. You can trim it down as you get actual quotes and start paying for stuff. It also helps to sell the wedding to say parents or a sponsor who will be paying for some items - they tend to breath a little bit easier if you tell them "We budgeted R120k but there's sum fat built into it, so it should be less".

 

[mobilescan]

My wedding cost 50 k 7 years ago and there was 80 guests

 

[tcofran]

we got married at Catello di Monte in Pretoria http://www.castello.co.za/

Was a morning wedding, 20 closest friends / family.

Total cost : R10 000 (excl dress, rings etc)

And that included my SO staying over friday evening, and both of us on saturday

 

[Mike Hoxbig]

we got married at Catello di Monte in Pretoria http://www.castello.co.za/

Was a morning wedding, 20 closest friends / family.

Total cost : R10 000 (excl dress, rings etc)

And that included my SO staying over friday evening, and both of us on saturday

Seems like a nice venue, but they seem to only allow 30 people max.

 

[Beri]

R250 per person is the norm.
hall and decorations and the rest will work out to at least R70 000 for 120 people.

 

[Mila]

(excl dress, rings etc)

Please list the things in he Excl list

 

[Messugga]

We got married last month and had around 80 guests. The total cost was around R100k for the whole thing. We certainly didn't skimp on the photographer and did the traditional white wedding. It turned out to be quite an expensive exercise nonetheless.

 

[Mila]

We got married last month and had around 80 guests. The total cost was around R100k for the whole thing. We certainly didn't skimp on the photographer and did the traditional white wedding. It turned out to be quite an expensive exercise nonetheless.

Liewe doner!!!

I would love to see pics... ( I Know not possible but it would have been a beautifull affair)!!!!!!!


I rather go on a few holidays for that money though..

 

[ebendl]

Oh yes, one more thing (not sure if this has been said): Do NOT marry far away from your home town (unless both of you don't live in the same place - then marry closer to the girl's place). It is way more expensive if you need to drive far to the venue, you have to pay accommodation for some guests and photographers / caterers / florists / make-up artists / DJs / pastors / priests etc. all ask KM fees.

It is a nightmare to arrange! My sister-in-law got married in Clarens last year (we live in Pta) and although it was very fun and nice, it put quite some stress on them and their budget.

 

[Titania]

Keep it tiny and super cheap and SPEND $$$ on your honeymoon. Big wedding is just not worth it. Trust me! We're still paying...

 

[Titania]

30 people should be an awesome wedding - most likely the people who really cares about you.

 

[ebendl]

Keep it tiny and super cheap and SPEND $$$ on your honeymoon. Big wedding is just not worth it. Trust me! We're still paying...

How are you guys still paying - money or by problems or fights or what?

There was a study done that says people feel much more comfortable buying something on credit and then paying it off afterwards if it is something that you will use on a continuous basis. Say you buy a dishwasher for R4,000 - it feels much better buying that on credit and paying R200 every month because you feel you get "use" out of it.

However, stuff like a vacation / honeymoon / wedding is not a good idea to buy on credit, as you don't get "use" out of it after it is finished, yet you still pay for it continuously. One could argue you get your marriage as a use out of it - but it doesn't really feel that way!

This is of course only the emotional side - not even the good money management side!

 

[Snormossel]

So for the whole wedding (catering, venue, dresses, suits all the small little stuff, 128 guests) excluding honeymoon cost us about 110k 2 years ago.
You can get it cheaper if you do it on a Friday, Sunday or in winter. Normally halve the price.

 

[blaaislaai]

Skip the whole wedding ceremony idea and just get married on paper, saves you thousands.

 

[tcofran]

Seems like a nice venue, but they seem to only allow 30 people max.

we had to push to get 22 people in. very nice venue for someting small and intimate. awesome views from the top

 

[Paul_S]

So for the whole wedding (catering, venue, dresses, suits all the small little stuff, 128 guests) excluding honeymoon cost us about 110k 2 years ago.
You can get it cheaper if you do it on a Friday, Sunday or in winter. Normally halve the price.

I got married in winter and the only thing that was half price was the venue hire which was a minor cost (R10K instead of R20K).
The florists, caterers, etc. don't care if it's winter or summer - they charge the same.
I would have been happy with a small wedding but wifey wanted everyone there.
My family and friends < 40 ppl - her family and friends > 80

 

[Lupus]

Wow honestly after seeing all of this and going through the initial stresses last year for the wedding I'm glad we went with a home affairs wedding, R15 and a nice lunch afterwards with the family, total R1515.

 

[Snormossel]

I got married in winter and the only thing that was half price was the venue hire which was a minor cost (R10K instead of R20K).
The florists, caterers, etc. don't care if it's winter or summer - they charge the same.
I would have been happy with a small wedding but wifey wanted everyone there.
My family and friends < 40 ppl - her family and friends > 80

Sorry meant to say Venue will be halve price.
Same problem at our wedding, started out with about 300 people and had to cut down.

Actually one of the girls in our office got married and she had round about 350 people and went on Honeymoon for like 3 weeks. Then again the family she married into was quite rich.