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Hugging: creepy or cool when men/dads etc do it?
- Thread starter Lord Anubis
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I also don't like people stepping into my personal bubble, but when friends do it its fine.
Most of our friends give the "shake-shoulderhug" greeting but then again we are very close after losing 3 of our friends in a short time. Also I have known some of them for 18+ years.
Imo nothing wrong with it unless its making someone uncomfortable.
I never kissed my father when I was growing up, even though i saw some of my friends do it, and I think one still even did it at age 22 (maybe still does at 25) when saying bye - I don't think that is on, it's just weird.
never hugged my dad much either, we are men.
never hugged my dad much either, we are men.
Pitbull
Verboten
I hug and kiss both my folks, and do the same with my kids.
It does get freaky when you are in France get introduced to people you don't know and the men kiss you on your cheek
It does get freaky when you are in France get introduced to people you don't know and the men kiss you on your cheek
blunomore
Honorary Master
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No im not, its just, why on earth would i wanna kiss another guy? it's gross, even if it is my father.
a man kissing another man, is like you kissing a hobo.
kissing your son is OK if he's young, but not when he grows up a bit.
Velenoso
Expert Member
No offense, but this is what's wrong with South African, British and American (to an extent) Culture. (I feel these three are very similar by the way).
This is why children grow up needing psychiatrists, parents get thrown into old age homes, children are disowned, etc. What's the problem with showing a bit of affection? If you kiss another man and find it award, maybe you should reconsider your approach. It shouldn't be sexually weird in any way. It's the same as shaking someones hand.
maybe it's because my dad has a long beard, i dunno...lol 
It's just, why? why? kissing is for your gf/wife.
I'll shake my dad's hand, no worries....but i'm sorry, my lips don't need to be touching his for any reason
Men just don't kiss, klaar.
It's just, why? why? kissing is for your gf/wife.
I'll shake my dad's hand, no worries....but i'm sorry, my lips don't need to be touching his for any reason
Men just don't kiss, klaar.
Moederloos
Honorary Master
When two of the party have pubes, it is creepy.
+1
Men don't kiss, neither do they hug, don't care if someone does it, as long as they don't do it to me, and don't expect me to hug them. I grew up in a house where men don't really show affection, and rightly so. If you hug or don't mind being hugged, more power to ya, but not for me thank you
And hugging, as per the topic? Can men hug if they're family? And if your male friends were close enough to practically qualify as family, having been a part of the household since primary school?
O-gaats! Bring die wors en die witblitz, dis nou vir jou 'n ding...
That seems inhuman to me, since I actually enjoy showing affection and consider it to be a sign of strong individuals who're comfortable with themselves. If showing or receiving affection is not acceptable, then something is clearly wrong. Why should there be any difference between hugging your 2-yr old son, or your 20-yr old son? It's the same person, isn't it?
If bringing someone like a close friend or family-member into your "personal circle" is wrong, is that not like putting up a barrier between you? "Shake my hand, but don't come any closer, because it's wrong?"
Society needs help.
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Really if you enjoy showing affection, good for you, have nothing against it, I don't do it, and that is how I feel about it, but saying my point of view is wrong and yours is right, sorry then your argument does not hold water for me. I dont like people touching me, period, no ifs or buts or weird family upbringing, I don't like it
ok, so when your friends come over, you give them a handshake...and then proceed to hug? that's weird man.... what kinda carebear braai's are you having at your place man?
hugging and kissing any woman = OK
kissing dad when ur a laaitie = OK
Hugging dad = OK(ish)
Hugging buddies = NO. can give him a hug if one of his family members died, but that's it. shoulder bump is as far as it goes.
Kissing DAD after the age of 21, when he's not in an oldage home yet = Big NO
When you have no REAL friends you'll wish you could get a hug.
When your dad is no longer around you'll wish you kissed him at every opportunity.
I just have other ways of expressing my love for my parents, I just have no interest in kissing any men, family or not.
I'd love to see a poll on this though - very interesting how a lot of people think *i'm* the one warped here...
sorry about your dad though, I wouldn't know what that is like, maybe my opinion would of been different if I was in the same situation..
sand_man
Honorary Master
Nothing wrong, it's very Mediterranean for men to hug and kiss members of the family regardless of gender.