I am having a breakdown

Pitbull said:
That's exactly it. Why are so many women and men happily married and never go outside of their own bedroom to have affairs? They know each other intimately and share their desires and needs with one another. If you marry a prune that only does missionary position, I can guarantee you it will not last. Unless you both like it boring as hell.

Edit: and that comes with this whole: No sex before marriage bullshyte. I'm not a supporter.
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The 2 aren't mutually exclusive in any way.
 
Ho3n3r said:
The 2 aren't mutually exclusive in any way.
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But they are.

You choose not to have them mutually exclusive. Are you telling me you have never just had awesome sex with someone and not wanting to be with them for the rest of your life and feel all in love again? Come on... seriously?

Don't get me wrong, having sex with someone you love and have an emotional experience with is awesome. But that's not the be all and end all. There are some amazing women and men out there who just enjoy having and that's it. Nothing wrong with it. You can't expect everyone to be happy doing one thing over and over just to please the other party. You end up with a man just shagging his wife because she wants to, or the wife banging her husband just to stop him from nagging and begging. Bullshyte, I will never be able to live like that.
 
Akasha said:
Some people can't separate the 2 though
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And by all means, they don't have to. One needs to understand though that even in a monogamous relationship that the other party might not be the way you are. These things need to be established way before it gets to a point of married life. Thus the reason I say have as much fun and women/men as you want before you get married then. If you find one that likes the things you like and enjoy whatever you're into then there will be no need to mess around.
 
smallearth said:
Having done all kinds of **** in my life, and having enjoyed it, I can tell you that monogamous sex (with the right partner) is still the best.

Edit: And if I want to destroy that all I need to do is cheat on her.
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And I agree. You both into the same kind of freaky shyte or lack there of. What if you weren't with the right woman but for years you though you were?
 
WhiteRaven said:
It is a human thing I agree, but where my argument would come in here is that men don't really run on emotion and heart all the time. They compartmentalize things, everything has a box and they notice when that specific box is disturbed. Woman though have a matrix that is consistently intertwined so a change in behavior in one space will identify a problem/solution in another. So our subconscious or as I put it 6th sense is a bit more in tune with our entire surroundings, not a specific element.

We can debate this should you wish, but I would prefer not to hijack this thread.
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Nah, not too interested in debating it. I do think that your Matrix vs compartmentalisation point is just a general extension of the fallacy that women are multitaskers and men are single taskers.

We are all just very different people and all in tune with who we are, and our surroundings and our subconscious on different levels; and in different ways.
 
smallearth said:
Cheating is not good. But neither is life simple.
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My point I was trying to make is just that it's stupid to say he doesn't love the OP. For all we know he adores her and loves her like nothing else on earth. Just because someone cheats doesn't mean they love the person any less that they are with. I'm not trying to justify cheating in any way or means ;)
 
Pitbull said:
My point I was trying to make is just that it's stupid to say he doesn't love the OP. For all we know he adores her and loves her like nothing else on earth. Just because someone cheats doesn't mean they love the person any less that they are with. I'm not trying to justify cheating in any way or means ;)
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It may not say that he doesn't love her, but it does say that he doesn't respect her or their relationship because he is prepared to do something that he knows will hurt her tremendously.
 
WhiteRaven said:
It may not say that he doesn't love her, but it does say that he doesn't respect her or their relationship because he is prepared to do something that he knows will hurt her tremendously.
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He was probably banking on not getting caught, thus hurting her feelings. But we all know it does come out sooner or later if you do it wrong :D
 
Pitbull said:
But they are.

You choose not to have them mutually exclusive. Are you telling me you have never just had awesome sex with someone and not wanting to be with them for the rest of your life and feel all in love again? Come on... seriously?

Don't get me wrong, having sex with someone you love and have an emotional experience with is awesome. But that's not the be all and end all. There are some amazing women and men out there who just enjoy having and that's it. Nothing wrong with it. You can't expect everyone to be happy doing one thing over and over just to please the other party. You end up with a man just shagging his wife because she wants to, or the wife banging her husband just to stop him from nagging and begging. Bullshyte, I will never be able to live like that.
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I've only had sex with 1 person in my entire life. I guess that makes us disagree by default.

Sounds like you've just been badly hurt to be honest, because I don't experience any of that horrendous crap in the second paragraph. I have empathy for you.
 
Ho3n3r said:
I've only had sex with 1 person in my entire life. I guess that makes us disagree by default.

Sounds like you've just been badly hurt to be honest, because I don't experience any of that horrendous crap in the second paragraph. I have empathy for you.
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I have, she died in a car accident before I tapped it. Since then I never missed an opportunity since. You will always want the one you could never get. So now I have no more "regrets" Just slap that arse and get it out of the way :p
 
Pitbull said:
I have, she died in a car accident before I tapped it. Since then I never missed an opportunity since. You will always want the one you could never get. So now I have no more "regrets" Just slap that arse and get it out of the way :p
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Yowser. Harsh man. My delayed condolences. :(
 
I have to wonder what the husband's reasons for cheating are. Yes, he's still an ass for cheating, but most men don't cheat if they are happy at home and their wife looks after their needs.
 
Ho3n3r said:
I've only had sex with 1 person in my entire life. I guess that makes us disagree by default.

Sounds like you've just been badly hurt to be honest, because I don't experience any of that horrendous crap in the second paragraph. I have empathy for you.
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I'm not sure whether to feel happy for you or just sad.

I personally am happy I had all the experiences I've had. It led me to want I wanted and needed.
 
smallearth said:
I'm not sure whether to feel happy for you or just sad.

I personally am happy I had all the experiences I've had. It led me to want I wanted and needed.
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Why is it sad? I was just lucky to find the best wife I could have ever hoped for at a very young age. It's a blessing.
 
Sensorei said:
I have to wonder what the husband's reasons for cheating are. Yes, he's still an ass for cheating, but most men don't cheat if they are happy at home and their wife looks after their needs.
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It ain't necessarily so. Some people (men and women) will cheat no matter how happy things are at home. They like the adrenalin. Like shoplifters (OMG I almost wrote skirtlifters :wtf:).
 
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