I dunno what im doing

adamr

adamr

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The girl i like and i miss when ever i leave CT ... told her me and her will not happen simply because im too scared ill hurt her ... now im sad ... :( ... i dunno what the fck i want ... my vent and ill just go cry in my pillow now ... oh btw im flying her into joburg the 5-9 May week so she can spend some time here ...
 
@alf101 .... oh i see

... thing is here I am the one telling the person i really sooooo adore "nah it wont happen" ... weird thing to do ... her worries is distance and i told her even if she was here, im scared i will hurt her ... i like her, am attracted to her, told her this sooo many times, and then i tell her it wont happen cause im scared i will hurt her ... fcked up ... so sad right now ... says she understands ... but i know females never do ... just scared that i made her sad now by saying that, even though she seemed ok on the phone

... asked where she sees herself in 20 yrs from now (she is 21 this year) ... and she answers now she sees herself not married and just taking care of the family ...fck ... i hate having a conscience ...
 
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adamr said:
@alf101 .... oh i see

... thing is here I am the one telling the person i really sooooo adore "nah it wont happen" ... weird thing to do ... her worries is distance and i told her even if she was here, im scared i will hurt her ... i like her, am attracted to her, told her this sooo many times, and then i tell her it wont happen cause im scared i will hurt her ... fcked up ... so sad right now ... says she understands ... but i know females never do ... just scared that i made her sad now by saying that, even though she seemed ok on the phone

... asked where she sees herself in 20 yrs from now (she is 21 this year) ... and she answers now she sees herself not married and just taking care of the family ...fck ... i hate having a conscience ...
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Where you conducting a job interview or something?

The first question you should ask yourself is whether you love her or just like her.
 
Saule said:
Where you conducting a job interview or something?

The first question you should ask yourself is whether you love her or just like her.
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lol .. just wanted to know where she would like see herself in the future, say twenty years from now ... cause i told her i dunno where i want to be or what i want ...

... i do look forward to seeing an sms from her ... miss her like crazy when ever i leave CT ... so i do like her, on love ... not yet ... but im scared that if we are an item i will hurt her ... i did it before to someone else ... scared i will do it again ... not that i want to hurt people willingly ... i just cant help it ... i get tired of things very quickly ... bad really bad trait ... :( ... (lol goes against my quote in the sig ... but that what i am sooo trying to achieve in my life)
 
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lol .. just wanted to know where she would like see herself in the future, say twenty years from now ... cause i told her i dunno where i want to be or what i want ...
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Seriously I am probably too old to be giving advice to you about relationships such as this but from what I can remember I would have been petrified (and I'm sure the same applies to the female of our species) if someone had been talking to me about the next twenty years and marriage when I was 21!!

After reading your posts I think you take things way too seriously when it comes to relationships. As someone said already just live each day to the fullest and stop concerning yourself so much with what the future will bring. Why break things off because you may hurt someone? That is silly! Is the hurt you, and perhaps her, are feeling in the interim s much better than the (perhaps) long term hurt?

If you have a history of hurting girls why do you not perhaps spend more time analysing what issues you have yourself rather than worry too much about her?

A lot of relationships do not work out. If this one with her does not and she is hurt by it then you also cannot blame yourself for this. What I would suggest though is not packing up your things and moving to CT, or even worse vice versa, unless you guys are really serious and this is not just a moment of lust!
 
Carpe Diem, Bra...'n all that.

If you don't grab what you want, NOW, some other bugger's going to

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in 20 years time you'll be scratching your head wishing you had the courage to sieze upon the opportunities that would make your dreams come true.
 
LancelotSA said:
Seriously I am probably too old to be giving advice to you about relationships such as this but from what I can remember I would have been petrified (and I'm sure the same applies to the female of our species) if someone had been talking to me about the next twenty years and marriage when I was 21!!

After reading your posts I think you take things way too seriously when it comes to relationships. As someone said already just live each day to the fullest and stop concerning yourself so much with what the future will bring. Why break things off because you may hurt someone? That is silly! Is the hurt you, and perhaps her, are feeling in the interim s much better than the (perhaps) long term hurt?

If you have a history of hurting girls why do you not perhaps spend more time analysing what issues you have yourself rather than worry too much about her?

A lot of relationships do not work out. If this one with her does not and she is hurt by it then you also cannot blame yourself for this. What I would suggest though is not packing up your things and moving to CT, or even worse vice versa, unless you guys are really serious and this is not just a moment of lust!
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thanks i needed that ... i think i do over analyze these things ... you are so right ... no the moment of lust has passed some time back
 
FlatspinZA said:
Carpe Diem, Bra...'n all that.

If you don't grab what you want, NOW, some other bugger's going to

&

in 20 years time you'll be scratching your head wishing you had the courage to sieze upon the opportunities that would make your dreams come true.
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ag ... maybe she would just be happier with someone else ...

fck not even sure she is the one i wanna be with when i am 102 ....
 
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alf101 said:
Just shag her and get it over with.
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lol ... long story there ... which involved me sending her mum and her the email ... actually hit "reply to all" :D ... ya and one of those emails explaining exactly what i was going to do to her ...
 
adamr said:
lol ... long story there ... which involved me sending her mum and her the email ... actually hit "reply to all" :D ... ya and one of those emails explaining exactly what i was going to do to her ...
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:o
Ok, I take that back.
Sulk away then.
 
adamr said:
lol ... long story there ... which involved me sending her mum and her the email ... actually hit "reply to all" :D ... ya and one of those emails explaining exactly what i was going to do to her ...
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Golden rule for emails: double check who you are sending to before you hit send:D.

Edit: Why had she sent an email to both you and her mum?:confused:
 
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