I'm broken...

Mike Hoxbig said:
Calm down, go out, and knob someone else a few times. Let her know about it and tell her that's that - no hard feelings. Let's put the past behind us and build a new future.

Look at it this way - she porked somebody else and then came back to you. Maybe she needed to realise what she had and how lucky she was to have somebody like you. For all you know, the other dude could have treated her like a piece of crap, which scores points for you.

Finally, this obviously seems to have happened due to a lack of communication (or rather a lack of clear communication). Both of you should make it a point to communicate with each other about your needs and desires. If either of you feels that the one-on-one thing is getting stale and you need a bit of fresh meat, then try and come to a mutual agreement on how you can go about pursuing that without hurting each other. Threesomes, swinging, lol I dunno. The thing you need to realise is that sex is just sex - there should be no emotional attachment to it because then things like this happen.
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ignore this ^^

worst advice
 
Well dude take her back if you want but personally if I dated a chick for 3 years and only broke up for a month and she has slept with someone else,I would def never want to see her again(or for a couple years).
 
hurting people, hurt people.

if you honestly believe that going out and "knobbing someone a few times" and then rub it in her face is gonna make it all better, then you are severely mistaken. the only thing you will succeed in, is numbing yourself to what you should be dealing with not avoiding by banging other chicks.

its a common (and quite sad) precedent that men set for themselves, and others, that you dont need to deal with anything emotional. Just bang someone and move on.

It takes more of a man to deal with something head on, that to bang and move on. Would explain why most men dont deal with emotional stuff head on. Too much effort, and they quite simply couldnt be bothered.
 
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HTC_guy said:
ignore this ^^

worst advice
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Would you mind pointing out what was bad about it? They were single when it happened, and they're still single now.

Committed relationships can become very suffocating and lonely. There can be times when you just don't want to be around the other person, and you get pissed off with them for everything and take out your personal sh*t on them because there is nobody else or no other outlet! If you're not completely open with each other then more often than not it leads to cheating, which is far worse.
 
ChilliGirl said:
ok so a brief summary:

you break up = you are both single & free to see/sleep with whom you want
she comes & humps your bones
she humps another guy's bones (she can she is single)
She tells you
you tell her to F-off outa your home coz she cheated on you.

Sorry: NEWS FLASH

She did not cheat on you. She slept around, yes.


besides it should stroke your ego that she humped you both & still prefer you after all this time to the new fresh bones.

20-something does not mean you are mentally mature yet. Grow up & then rethink.
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I think she broke up with him TO get another guy...

I say kick her to the curb.
 
HTC_guy said:
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Why not? It'll help put his mind at ease. From his posts he seems to be regretting his decision not to have shagged other women when he had the chance to. Then telling her about it is not about rubbing her face in it, but letting her know that they both did it, it's in the past now, let's move on.
 
Mike Hoxbig said:
Why not? It'll help put his mind at ease. From his posts he seems to be regretting his decision not to have shagged other women when he had the chance to. Then telling her about it is not about rubbing her face in it, but letting her know that they both did it, it's in the past now, let's move on.
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eish
 
Mike Hoxbig said:
Why not? It'll help put his mind at ease. From his posts he seems to be regretting his decision not to have shagged other women when he had the chance to. Then telling her about it is not about rubbing her face in it, but letting her know that they both did it, it's in the past now, let's move on.
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As someone said, people put too much emotion in sex.
 
Korn1 said:
Well sex a lot different to kissing...imagine another guy having sex with your gf/wife...just wrong man.Though that is diff if your not broken up :)
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I only see it as a problem if you are in relationship.. Because they are broken up, I don't square the blame solely on her. I just see her screwing another guy 3 times as a sign that yu should move on. And I agreed with Mike Hoxbig because honestly, hooking up with someone after a breakup makes you feel a whole lot better.
 
God I want to call so bad right now and discuss this rationally without the screaming. I need to know why she'd do me like that. I need closure.
 
Problemo said:
God I want to call so bad right now and discuss this rationally without the screaming. I need to know why she'd do me like that. I need closure.
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Ask her after you have banged the living shyte out of her. Perhaps you guys need to a see a specialist who can be the ref :D
 
Problemo said:
God I want to call so bad right now and discuss this rationally without the screaming. I need to know why she'd do me like that. I need closure.
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She wanted to leave you for another guy. Didn't work out.. so coming back to you (IMO)
 
Problemo said:
God I want to call so bad right now and discuss this rationally without the screaming. I need to know why she'd do me like that. I need closure.
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What sort of closure are you looking for? I know this might be dick but you got all the information you need from her so leave her be.
You know what you got to do; not get back with her, you broke up in the first place because the relationship took a sour turn, and people who broke up who get back together are too few in between, it is highly unlikely.

If you want to be rational, you have to move on. Stop contacting her, hang out more with your friends and exercise or gym..
Everything takes time mate..
 
boramk said:
I only see it as a problem if you are in relationship.. Because they are broken up, I don't square the blame solely on her. I just see her screwing another guy 3 times as a sign that yu should move on. And I agreed with Mike Hoxbig because honestly, hooking up with someone after a breakup makes you feel a whole lot better.
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True *thinks of new years* :D
 
Believe me, you don't want to drag it out.

She's pretty set on not wanting to be together - so as many have said, move on. DON'T mail, IM, chat, phone, SMS or anything else. Shagging others in the time is up to you - I can't do it personally .... but keeping busy and being out every night should help.

I dragged out my relationship for 12 months AFTER we broke up - and she took full advantage (her right to, as she's single) of having her shags on the side - yet coming to me when she was lonely or needed anything. Looking back now I realise that when it's over, it's over and I was stupid to drag it further
 
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