I'm cheating on my girlfriend.

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I cheated when I was young and stupid back in 1st year. Back then it was about trying to rack up as many conquests as you could. Got to a point where 4 different women thought I was their bf because I didn't how to tell them that I wasn't looking for anything serious, but at the same time trying to get into their jean pant. It was getting so out of hand and taking up all my free time that I had to cut my losses and settle for 'just' 1. Poon is nice, but free time to do whatever you want is better.
 
confused nerd said:
I wish I understood life.

I've been single for almost a year, about two months ago I was so lonely I thought to myself, 'damn I don't care how she looks I just want a girlfriend.' I want someone to spend my time and energy on. Someone to give all my emotion and love.

And then I actually found someone, the perfect candidate for a long and meaningful relationship. 18 years old, pretty, a little insecure and a virgin. I swept her off her feet, told her what she wanted to hear. I took her virginity and believe me it meant a lot to her. She is absolutely madly in love with me. I am not in love with her, I think it's nice that's she's so serious about me and I love the fact that I actually have someone in my life again.

But... Jesus. I swear, as soon as you get a girlfriend you give off a pheromone or something that attracts girls. Within the first 3 days of me getting a girlfriend an old highschool friend confronted me saying she wants me and she kept inviting me over. I was at the time still very much fresh in love with my girlfriend so I declined.

That's not where it stopped though, work colleages I had known before starting hitting on me. And this is where I folded. I cheated on my girlfriend with a girl from work. This girl was extremely sexual, that's what attracted me to her. I could not pass up such an opportunity. But I don't know her intentions yet, I don't know if she would want a relationship with me.

I could not fathom that so many people would want me at one time, I mean... me? Nerdy little old me that had been single for almost a year? Nerdy little old me that yearned for a girlfriend so long? Now I'm cheating on one? What the actual ****? I look at myself in the mirror and think why, I don't even find myself that attractive, what is it about me that would lead to such a sudden interest?

Heh, then there's more. I confide in a friend about my current situation and she tells me, 'leave both of them and take me instead'. She said it jokingly, but she meant it. I asked her if she really wants to complicate my life even more and she said no, she'd only go for me if I left both of them. I did want to sleep with this girl, but I did not want to pass up these two girls either... I'm enjoying it too much.

I don't know what to do, at the moment I still sit here trying to process everything. At times I actually want to record the events to prove to myself that they're actually happening.

I don't love either of them, but I very much enjoy both of them. I'm being very selfish I know.

I don't know what to make of any of this. It just happened.

Now if ANY of these girls showed interest at one point or another during my life I would have loved it and dated them without any doubt in my mind. But why does it all happen at once?
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And a few years and divorces behind you, you'll wonder why you relationships never last.......
 
Wow, OP, you're an @sswipe for taking your girlfriend's virginity, and then cheating on her! :mad: I hope someone kicks you in the balls! :mad:
 
miz_pimp said:
Wow, OP, you're an @sswipe for taking your girlfriend's virginity, and then cheating on her! :mad: I hope someone kicks you in the balls! :mad:
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Not taking his side, but virginity is overrated. The sooner you get it over with, the sooner you can start enjoying everything that a relationship has to offer. There are far too many women who ruin relationships because they're so hung up on virginity.
 
This thread has been a real eye opener to me.

I need to get my priorities straight.

Sometimes you need a push in the right direction, even if you do get knocked over.

Thank you, all of you. You have made me a better person.
 
You are only young once ,,,ride the wave and enjoy it .but try to be a bit caring and sensitive at the same time and dont let it go to your head you will wake up with a bump.
 
Shame, I feel sorry for the OP, he will be lonely irrespective of how many girls he thinks he 'has'. As for advice, I don't give advice to trolls.
 
Mike Hoxbig said:
Not taking his side, but virginity is overrated. The sooner you get it over with, the sooner you can start enjoying everything that a relationship has to offer. There are far too many women who ruin relationships because they're so hung up on virginity.
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100% correct.

Madonna was never my favourite (although I like some of her early nude pics) but she got it right with the following two remarks:
"I always thought of losing my virginity as a career move"
"It is difficult to believe in a religion that places such a high premium on chastity and virginity"

The OP is obeying nature's first law which states that a dick has a hole in it so that air can get to the brain.

There is actually a difference between love and sex but very few people (male and female) learn to appreciate it or that monogamy is a concept imposed on the world by religious leaders.
 
Mike Hoxbig said:
Not taking his side, but virginity is overrated. The sooner you get it over with, the sooner you can start enjoying everything that a relationship has to offer. There are far too many women who ruin relationships because they're so hung up on virginity.
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Why does it have to ruin relationships? If a man can't respect a woman's choice to stay chaste, then that's his problem. Everyone has their own opinion, but to ME, a woman's virginity is something sacred. Again, that's just how I feel about it, but to each their own.
 
miz_pimp said:
Why does it have to ruin relationships? If a man can't respect a woman's choice to stay chaste, then that's his problem. Everyone has their own opinion, but to ME, a woman's virginity is something sacred. Again, that's just how I feel about it, but to each their own.
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Why is it sacred?

And a relationship is more than just about movies, dinner and all the emotional crap you're looking for.
 
Mike Hoxbig said:
Why is it sacred?

And a relationship is more than just about movies, dinner and all the emotional crap you're looking for.
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It's the one thing you have that when lost, you can never get back. It's a sign of purity, and that you have taken care of yourself. Why is it necessary to sleep with every guy you're dating? A relationship is also more than just sex.

Like I said before, to each their own.
 
PythonFSi said:
Oh please! How many of you dudes haven't cheated?
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Just cos you can't fathom how someone can't cheat doesn't mean the rest of us have lax morals.

I have never cheated, and have never even contemplated it.
 
bleh be wise condomize ... thats all I got to say
 
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