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Sergey

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Been married 6 years, something terrible happened in my family earlier today. Is it wrong to expect my wife to accompany to visit my family who experienced this traumatic ordeal. She didn't even offer, just allowed me to go alone. Even though it's on my side of the famil, is it too much to support her husband? Am I being over sensitive?
 
No, Your wife is a beech. Unless she doesn't want to get emotional or feels she'd be imposing?
 
Talk to her and hear the reason. If she was scared she might be imposing, that would be understandable. Else, you got to tell her how you feel about it
 
No, It seems odd she didnt want to support you unless she isnt very close to your family. I would never willingly let my husband suffer something traumatic without being beside him.
 
It is strange but find out her side of the story first.
 
If one of my parents died, I would not expect my wife to accompany me (except to the funeral, maybe).
 
satanboy said:
If one of my parents died, I would not expect my wife to accompany me (except to the funeral, maybe).
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But hopefully she would anyway because you are her husband and even if you think now that you wouldnt need her, you might just very well change your mind when the time comes.
 
Carol35 said:
But hopefully she would anyway because you are her husband and even if you think now that you wouldnt need her, you might just very well change your mind when the time comes.
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Nope.

I didn't accompany her when her parents died (two separate occasions).
 
Carol35 said:
But hopefully she would anyway because you are her husband and even if you think now that you wouldnt need her, you might just very well change your mind when the time comes.
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The offer of support should be at least forthcoming.
 
As a wife I would be there for my husband in any situation and I expect and get the same from him
 
satanboy said:
If one of my parents died, I would not expect my wife to accompany me (except to the funeral, maybe).
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If someone in my side of the family dies I would expect her to come with and vice versa. You are suppose to support each other.
But unless it is real serious like death then I don't think they have to come along - would be nice I suppose.
 
Either she doesn't care
Or she's giving you space
Or she doesn't know how to support you

Could be too many things, best to discuss
 
Why didnt you ask her to come with? She's your wife, you should be comfortable asking her such questions.
 
Hamster said:
If someone in my side of the family dies I would expect her to come with and vice versa. You are suppose to support each other.
But unless it is real serious like death then I don't think they have to come along - would be nice I suppose.
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There isn't only ONE way to show support to another.
 
She might want to avoid traumatic experience but will support you when you come back. If you return and she couldn't care less then you can worry.
 
Sergey said:
Been married 6 years, something terrible happened in my family earlier today. Is it wrong to expect my wife to accompany to visit my family who experienced this traumatic ordeal. She didn't even offer, just allowed me to go alone. Even though it's on my side of the famil, is it too much to support her husband? Am I being over sensitive?
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No. She should have given support. She would surely expect your support if something happened to her blood family.

That to me would be that she should be there for you even if she does not like your family and then you for her even if you don't like your family.

This support is after all for your loved one....
 
Thanks for feedback, much appreciated. The incident that occurred was that my father got hijacked at gunpoint, pushed and slapped around and is really shaken up by it, and obviously my mother as well. So I went with my brothers and sisters to see them, really expected wife to just come, no question or fuss about it, instead had arrangements with friends that didn't want to cancel
 
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