Same with a player not willing to submit FRAPS screenshots to prove he is not hacking. If he doesn't or is unwilling, ban. Easy as that. I am not willing to let our server get like half the games in MW2/BC2. I pay for it I will enforce my rules...
Your rules suck. Not everyone runs fraps on their pc's. People who own servers should be considered of other players, as if no one is playing on your servers, then your server, which you pay for, will be useless.
The whole swearing thing in games is k@k, but the age restriction on the package is their for more than the violence.
If some little brat somewhere is playing on your server and someone says a word thats offending the lil' mofo, then he shouldn't be playing the game. The whole swearing rule is like telling a cinema full of people watching a age restricted horror film not to scream or swear when they get a scare.
Sure, you pay for it, but you will be wasting your money if you ban people left and right because you cant handle the "heat".