open relationships?

enigma243 said:
Blu, this is rather quite simple. We humans, though fairly stupid for the most part, are rather complex in our make-up. A functional relationship needs to satisfy us on a multitude of fronts - mentally, emotionally, economically, spiritually (for those who think we are spiritual) and yes, physically. It is quite conceivable that two people can satisfy each other in all aspects apart from the physical. If two such people are so inclined, an open relationship could be a workable solution for them.
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The bald part is the single reason for steady relationships in todays era.
It's much easier/nicer to have 1 place to stay and 2 incomes. Than 1 place and 1 income.
 
Pitbull said:
Now this post needs a gold star. Well said blunomore
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Just because someone expresses an opinion that corresponds with yours does not make it worthy of a gold star ;)


Blu is expressing an opinion on what her definition of a relationship is, others may, and are within their rights, to take a different view. I would rather be in an honest "open" relationship rather than a dishonest, deceitful "closed" relationship any day of the week...

Most people claim they could never be in an open relationship because they love their partner too much, I tend to think it is driven more by jealousy and fear.
 
enigma243 said:
Blu, this is rather quite simple. We humans, though fairly stupid for the most part, are rather complex in our make-up. A functional relationship needs to satisfy us on a multitude of fronts - mentally, emotionally, economically, spiritually (for those who think we are spiritual) and yes, physically. It is quite conceivable that two people can satisfy each other in all aspects apart from the physical. If two such people are so inclined, an open relationship could be a workable solution for them.
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Now this, Pitbull, is a post worthy of a gold star. It is not merely expressing a society accepted norm but is looking outside the box and recognising the numerous facets that make up a relationship.
 
LancelotSA said:
Just because someone expresses an opinion that corresponds with yours does not make it worthy of a gold star ;)


Blu is expressing an opinion on what her definition of a relationship is, others may, and are within their rights, to take a different view. I would rather be in an honest "open" relationship rather than a dishonest, deceitful "closed" relationship any day of the week...

Most people claim they could never be in an open relationship because they love their partner too much, I tend to think it is driven more by jealousy and fear.
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Not even going to respond. I'll play poker instead
 
LancelotSA said:
Now this, Pitbull, is a post worthy of a gold star. It is not merely expressing a society accepted norm but is looking outside the box and recognising the numerous facets that make up a relationship.
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Erm, I think if you read my response I actually agreed with his post too :o

:p
 
there are swingers clubs in SA. Saw a documentary on it a while ago.

Never been to one & have no intention of going either...

I dont like sharing
 
ChilliGirl said:
Never been to one & have no intention of going either...

I dont like sharing
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As with my response to gdiza, I'd love to have a sit around the table conversation about this and hear the reasons why not... the usual response is that people would never do it but when pushed as to why the answers are never convincing. And this is not a dig at those who say they wouldn't, it is just an attempt to understand the reasoning. Obviously societal norms dictate that it is not "normal" but I always wonder if that is the sum total of it.
 
No thanks, I'm a monogasaurus. Having said that, I won't judge whoever enjoys it ... as long as they're honest and open about it with whomever they hook up.
 
In that case, why in heck enter a RELATIONSHIP with someone and then tell people you are in an open RELATIONSHIP?

Just be single and date!

What do you get out of a relationship if it's an open one?
Your meals? Get takeaways!
Your laundry? Go to the laundromat!

Waste of time if you ask me.
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I've answered this twice already.

Also the reasons people give for being against an open marriage are:

1. Jealousy - They need to possess their partners and cannot stand the idea of someone else having sex with them
2. Insecurity - They are afraid that their partner will leave them for someone else.
 
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Maybe it's insecurity but I don't want some other man touching my girl's junk.
 
^^^And there is nothing wrong with that. Different strokes for different folks.

I'm also monogomous because I'd get jealous about some other guy being with my wife.
 
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