Relationship Complications

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What Nick333 said.

First kid out of wedlock should've been a warning sign.

First guy probably made a run for it and should you.
 
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Goliath said:
Had similar incident recently.. met an awesome girl that is 2 years younger than myself, we hit it off great and then short while after she left her boyfriend(went out +-16months) and wanted to get in relationship with me.. told her lets take it slow because of the ex and get to know each other first, we hardly know each other but the attraction was there! (Wanted to make really sure because perhaps she can do the same to me when new guy comes along and few other serious reasons)

Very very long story short, I took it too slow for her, she went back to the ex(who I met and could understand why she left him, she's a 10 and he a 4 - looks like the the 5th teletubby) and basically crushed me in the process while I've played it as it should have been..

Lesson learned: Never make impulse decisions, no matter how good you hit it off etc, there's a reason you need to check things out first! Oh and also to stay away from crazies! ;)

Good luck with your choices and decisions!
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Good thing you took it slow then shew...
 
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SlickChick said:
Firstly, you must realise that you are not responsible for her happiness. She must sort out her own inner demons and you can't do that for her. If she has issues, no matter how small some of them may be, it will now be amplified because of the pregnancy. Small things become big things. I think it is important to communicate very well and clearly. You may perceive yourself as the one causing the unhappiness when that may not be true. Women don't always understand how men tick and we sometimes send out the wrong message to you guys without intending to.

I am a little worried about the fact that you say she was always ready for another baby and that she wanted one with you. I am sorry to say but it sounds like a bit of a trap.

The question is do you really want to marry her or are you pressurized into marrying her? If you really want to, why don't you just get married legally so long, and then when the baby is here then have a ceremony? It is important though that you don't do this without your family knowing. They are going to have to know sooner or later so it might as well be sooner. They may not like it, but the fact is you seem to love her, and now there is a innocent baby on it's way, so you have to do what is best for you guys in this situation now.
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who has time to listen ti your excuses? Women are shyte. Prove otherwise.
 
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@Nick I won't be able to sleep for months and it's all your fault :crying:
 
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Um. You don't get someone pregnant if you don't want to have a shotgun wedding.
 
Nick333

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SlickChick said:
What?? I didn't make excuses!! Sis Nick... and here I thought we were hitting it off nicely :crying:
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I don't remember posting that at all. On the other hand I was black out drunk at the time. I'm still half convinced I didn't post it though. Sorry, either way. :eek:
 
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Goliath said:
Yep, was the right course of action but still took bit of a hit! But nothing compared to what Daddy2b is sitting with, shyte!
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At least you took an early hit. What if you got married? It sucks either way I guess... Yup he is in a bit of trouble here.
 
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Nick333 said:
I don't remember posting that at all. On the other hand I was black out drunk at the time. I'm still half convinced I didn't post it though. Sorry, either way. :eek:
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Seems like alcohol has an aggressive effect on you...:D. Sorry Nick but that alone makes me reconsider you...:eek:
 
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Get a room Slick and Nick.

Sounds like the OP has bad luck with women.

Now is the time to put on your big boy pants OP. Lay down the law. Tell her an abortion is fine but if she gets one she will never see you ever again.

Grow a pair and talk to your dad. No wonder she is feeling insecure if you are too scared to tell your parents.

Make her feel safe that if she is serious about making the relationship work, stops with the ****ty ultimatums and acts more like a woman a man would want to marry then you'll be serious by marrying her and not leaving her to raise two kids.

If you want to marry her then give her no reason to doubt you.

Be the man in the relationship and take control.
 
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She has you by the short and curlies
She needed a baby poppa

Tag, she made you it.

That there bitch be crazy, and she's taking you down boy....
 
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Nick333 said:
Let's see. You hook up with a chick you've known for a while, fall in love quickly, move in together quickly, get engaged quickly and she falls pregnant. Now she's pressuring you into marrying her by threatening to abort your kid. She needed a sucker to look after her and her kid financially. You're it.
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Sad to say but I agree!

I've never really understood how people meet, marry and have babies 3 months after meeting each other.
 
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