Relationship help thread...

SaoirseB said:
Sorry as a woman I'm very sensitive when it comes to stuff like this. I personally knew two girls who got played like this. One had a nervous breakdown, the other ended up in an institution for 3 months.

But my bad. I didn't realize it was meant as a joke. I read it as the OP should tell her he loves her to get her to forgive/move on with him thereby manipulating/playing with her emotions.
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Oh, hello. I didn't know Dr. Phil is on MyBroadband.

The situation in the first paragraph is caused by their own emotional insecurity, not by the guys. If a guy leaving you has this effect on women, perhaps they're safer off becoming crazy cat ladies instead.

Millions of other women have survived situations like this no problem.
 
SaoirseB said:
Sorry as a woman I'm very sensitive when it comes to stuff like this. I personally knew two girls who got played like this. One had a nervous breakdown, the other ended up in an institution for 3 months.

But my bad. I didn't realize it was meant as a joke. I read it as the OP should tell her he loves her to get her to forgive/move on with him thereby manipulating/playing with her emotions.
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Fair enough. Manipulation is unfair and dangerous. I would not encourage it.
 
SaoirseB said:
[-]Sorry [/-]as a woman I'm very sensitive [-]when it comes to stuff like this. I personally knew two girls who got played like this. One had a nervous breakdown, the other ended up in an institution for 3 months.[/-]
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:p
 
SaoirseB said:
Sorry as a woman I'm very sensitive when it comes to stuff like this. I personally knew two girls who got played like this. One had a nervous breakdown, the other ended up in an institution for 3 months.
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You must be hellu crazy already for something like that to drive you to an institution. :wtf:
 
Ho3n3r said:
Oh, hello. I didn't know Dr. Phil is on MyBroadband.

The situation in the first paragraph is caused by their own emotional insecurity, not by the guys. If a guy leaving you has this effect on women, perhaps they're safer off becoming crazy cat ladies instead.

Millions of other women have survived situations like this no problem.
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The girl who ended up the institution. The guy kept telling her he loved her. I and several other women (who he flirted with) told her he was seeing other women on the side, but she wouldn't listen cause she was so in love with him. He even asked her to marry him, then a week before they were supposed to get married he dumped her to be with his sister-in-law. Dumped her after everything had been done. Dress bought, invitations sent, kitchen tea done. It was horrific. What kind of human does that to another human? But I don't know why I even bother. Men will always defend each other.
 
SaoirseB said:
The girl who ended up the institution. The guy kept telling her he loved her. I and several other women (who he flirted with) told her he was seeing other women on the side, but she wouldn't listen cause she was so in love with him. He even asked her to marry him, then a week before they were supposed to get married he dumped her to be with his sister-in-law. Dumped her after everything had been done. Dress bought, invitations sent, kitchen tea done. It was horrific. What kind of human does that to another human? But I don't know why I even bother. Men will always defend each other.
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Sounds like she was crazy, tbh. Her craziness led her to see whatever she wanted to see and this allowed the guy to abuse her indefinitely.

BTW, nobody is defending men who lie to their partners. It will be a good start if you wouldn't put words in our mouths.
 
SaoirseB said:
The girl who ended up the institution. The guy kept telling her he loved her. I and several other women (who he flirted with) told her he was seeing other women on the side, but she wouldn't listen cause she was so in love with him. He even asked her to marry him, then a week before they were supposed to get married he dumped her to be with his sister-in-law. Dumped her after everything had been done. Dress bought, invitations sent, kitchen tea done. It was horrific. What kind of human does that to another human? But I don't know why I even bother. Men will always defend each other.
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No one is defending the guy. However, well balanced, women don't fall for that sort of shyte. Also, there are plenty of stories of guys getting fccked over by women just as badly.
 
SaoirseB said:
The girl who ended up the institution. The guy kept telling her he loved her. I and several other women (who he flirted with) told her he was seeing other women on the side, but she wouldn't listen cause she was so in love with him. He even asked her to marry him, then a week before they were supposed to get married he dumped her to be with his sister-in-law. Dumped her after everything had been done. Dress bought, invitations sent, kitchen tea done. It was horrific. What kind of human does that to another human? But I don't know why I even bother. Men will always defend each other.
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One man being a complete douchebag does not mean every single man is like that.

I can find you LOTS of examples of women doing that and worse to men - does that mean all women are evil?

Fact is, you get screwed up men and screwed up women.
 
SaoirseB said:
The girl who ended up the institution. The guy kept telling her he loved her. I and several other women (who he flirted with) told her he was seeing other women on the side, but she wouldn't listen cause she was so in love with him. He even asked her to marry him, then a week before they were supposed to get married he dumped her to be with his sister-in-law. Dumped her after everything had been done. Dress bought, invitations sent, kitchen tea done. It was horrific. What kind of human does that to another human? But I don't know why I even bother. Men will always defend each other.
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Was your friend dating Ryan Giggs or News24?
 
SaoirseB said:
The girl who ended up the institution. The guy kept telling her he loved her. I and several other women (who he flirted with) told her he was seeing other women on the side, but she wouldn't listen cause she was so in love with him. He even asked her to marry him, then a week before they were supposed to get married he dumped her to be with his sister-in-law. Dumped her after everything had been done. Dress bought, invitations sent, kitchen tea done. It was horrific. What kind of human does that to another human? But I don't know why I even bother. Men will always defend each other.
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You have a *** attitude. Plenty of women have left men standing at the alter too and i do not know your friend, but if she had such little self worth that she knew that he was seeing multiple women, why did she think he would change?

He didn't suddenly one day jump out of bed, proclaim "I must cheat, for I am a man." and run off to find more women to screw over
 
SaoirseB said:
The girl who ended up the institution. The guy kept telling her he loved her. I and several other women (who he flirted with) told her he was seeing other women on the side, but she wouldn't listen cause she was so in love with him. He even asked her to marry him, then a week before they were supposed to get married he dumped her to be with his sister-in-law. Dumped her after everything had been done. Dress bought, invitations sent, kitchen tea done. It was horrific. What kind of human does that to another human? But I don't know why I even bother. Men will always defend each other.
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Look at the positives. Your friend eventually got the much needed psychological help and she avoided making a huge mistake in marrying the guy.
 
STS said:
You have a *** attitude. Plenty of women have left men standing at the alter too and i do not know your friend, but if she had such little self worth that she knew that he was seeing multiple women, why did she think he would change?

He didn't suddenly one day jump out of bed, proclaim "I must cheat, for I am a man." and run off to find more women to screw over
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Only men hurt women, but what women do a man must just deal with.



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SaoirseB said:
The girl who ended up the institution. The guy kept telling her he loved her. I and several other women (who he flirted with) told her he was seeing other women on the side, but she wouldn't listen cause she was so in love with him. He even asked her to marry him, then a week before they were supposed to get married he dumped her to be with his sister-in-law. Dumped her after everything had been done. Dress bought, invitations sent, kitchen tea done. It was horrific. What kind of human does that to another human? But I don't know why I even bother. Men will always defend each other.
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I met a girl last year, she was obsessed with me from first sight. Her one friend told her to calm down, not be so obsessed. She did not listen and proceeded to manipulate things to accelerate our relationship. She was paranoid and possessive. As her mental issues started to manifest more and more I could not really trust that I wouldn't be stabbed to death in my sleep. Once we broke up (she initiated the break up - as a test I presume, to see if I would fight to have her back) I decided I had enough of crazy town and let the breakup stick. Much drama ensued (she insisted I had women on the side) and now 3 months on I have a distant cyber-stalker and get the odd little message of harassment.

So, a bit different to your friend who landed up in an institution but there are some parallels to be drawn. The girl I was seeing would only hear what she wanted to hear. She would jump the gun and told me of these extravagant gifts she had bought me (she only mentioned them after the breakup). So it could be (MAYBE) that the guy who strung her along was trying to tell her no and she would not hear it? I say MAYBE because if you saw hard evidence of him being a douche then that is a different story.
 
STS said:
You have a *** attitude. Plenty of women have left men standing at the alter too and i do not know your friend, but if she had such little self worth that she knew that he was seeing multiple women, why did she think he would change?

He didn't suddenly one day jump out of bed, proclaim "I must cheat, for I am a man." and run off to find more women to screw over
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That's the problem. She didn't respect or love herself enough to protect herself. But that ass-hole still took advantage of her. I'm not saying only men hurt women, but I've seen way to much to ever believe anything a guy ever says.
 
SaoirseB said:
That's the problem. She didn't respect or love herself enough to protect herself. But that ass-hole still took advantage of her. I'm not saying only men hurt women, but I've seen way to much to ever believe anything a guy ever says.
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So all men are liars?
 
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