Single mom & dating

[Nanfeishen]

I dated a number of single mothers through the years, and I am glad to hear you value your son over the relationship, you would be supprised how many single mothers are more involved in the relationship than the child.
The biggest problem I had was when the relationship ended, and having to say goodbye to the kids. They become attached to the male figure in their lives, and vice versa.
Always consider the possibility of the relationships termination, and the possible negative effects of that situation on your childs life. As your child grows and matures, it will become easier to deal with these sort of issues, as it is easier to explain and reason out the break up with older children, however the younger they are the harder it is, and the more damaging it can be to them as well.
I found a number of single mothers that prefered to keep their relationships away from their children altogether until such time as the relationship seemed to settle and give some sign of lasting, before introducing the 3rd parties involved.
WRT your age , whats the rush to settle ? So you are 30, what does that mean ? , absolutely nothing.
You are a single mother with all the time in the world to spend with your child, value that time, because it is fleeting and brief, enjoy your singlehood.

 

[killadoob]

Geez 16 months without sex and you have not slept with him yet? I would get on top of that ASAP. Nothing worse when you go out and think hmmmmmmm maybe i get laid tonight and you hear I JUST WANT TO TAKE IT SLOW. Wow mood killer of note

Sex is not always about love and the right person, it is sometimes about just enjoying yourself doing something fun, i mean i have never heard of someone turning down a movie because they want to take it slow .

 

[Keeper]

I dated a woman who had a son older than me

LMOA @ 25 year old guy calling a 19 year old kid "Dad"

 

[techead]

but I am lonely.

Cheri, isnt this one of the worst reasons to get into a relationship?

I cant count how many times (including myself) people I know have gotten involved because they are lonely, then end up being stuck in some loser relationship..

Just a thought... use it, dont use it...

 

[techead]

Geez 16 months without sex and you have not slept with him yet? I would get on top of that ASAP. Nothing worse when you go out and think hmmmmmmm maybe i get laid tonight and you hear I JUST WANT TO TAKE IT SLOW. Wow mood killer of note

Sex is not always about love and the right person, it is sometimes about just enjoying yourself doing something fun, i mean i have never heard of someone turning down a movie because they want to take it slow .

omg that has to be some of the worst advice I have ever seen....

seriously, if she hasnt been getting action for 16 months, its more than likely by choice... No need to go and fck that up now just for a shag. She is obviously looking for something meaningful... I respect that

 

[killadoob]

lol no it's not . Maybe for a female yes because sex is all about love and feelings and blah blah, that is why females who sleep around are so awesome. They just want to have fun .

 

[techead]

lol no it's not . Maybe for a female yes because sex is all about love and feelings and blah blah, that is why females who sleep around are so awesome. They just want to have fun .

killa... omg dude... Im a guy, and we think VERY differently

went through that phase... fck fck fck fck *pause* *opens window* fck fck fck fck..

just gets a bit old and after a while you actually do want something MEANINGFUL

how old are you?

 

[Keeper]

OK, lets look at the facts.

- She's not had sex in 16 months.
- She actually wants to have Sex.
- She has a BF currently.
- Boyfriend probably wouldn't mind sex either.

now, I'm no maths genius or anything but:
"Horny Woman" + "Horny Guy" + "In a Relationship" x 16 months = Do it already.

 

[Cheri_N]

Any day!



Huh? Why?

I jumped the gun here... I'll reconsider

 

[techead]

Keeper, stop posting rubbish and come play HoN

 

[wetkit]

Eish, there is nothing worse than investing more than 3 months in a relationship and then finding out the sex is bad
And yes, there is such a thing as bad sex.

 

[killadoob]

killa... omg dude... Im a guy, and we think VERY differently

went through that phase... fck fck fck fck *pause* *opens window* fck fck fck fck..

just gets a bit old and after a while you actually do want something MEANINGFUL

how old are you?

Did i say anything about her becoming a slut and nailing every guy who looks at her? I said she has not have sex for 16 months and has a bf why not engage in something fun. I am not saying all you need to do in a relationship is fsk fsk fsk but once again fsking is just as fun as going to the movies/club or dinner so there is no real reason not to have a bit of sex here and there.

Wet there is only bad sex when 2 people do not communicate what they like. If you are open and have fun as opposed to being worried and having sex for love then sex can be bad . Porn movies although over the top at times show you sex is not always about making love and connecting .

Keepers maths seems pretty sound to me.

 

[Dolby]

Killa is hurt ...

I think a group hug is in order

 

[killadoob]

/hopes for shower time and someone dropping the soap .

 

[Cheri_N]

/puts man suit on
Cheri_n, it depends on how hot you are.

Only joking. I guess it would be diffrent for each guy.
I dated a woman who had a son older than me, but we both knew it was not going to be something permanent.
I guess if he likes you he would accept your child as part of the deal.

Unfortunately diabolus mentioned the EX. That could always pose a problem. Best there would be to discuss it before hand.

The ex is fortunately out of the picture - he will never darken my doorstep again... (insert evil smiley here) - He walked out of his son's life - now he will remain out... Till such time my son turns 18 and want too see him again.

I dated a number of single mothers through the years, and I am glad to hear you value your son over the relationship, you would be supprised how many single mothers are more involved in the relationship than the child.
The biggest problem I had was when the relationship ended, and having to say goodbye to the kids. They become attached to the male figure in their lives, and vice versa.
Always consider the possibility of the relationships termination, and the possible negative effects of that situation on your childs life. As your child grows and matures, it will become easier to deal with these sort of issues, as it is easier to explain and reason out the break up with older children, however the younger they are the harder it is, and the more damaging it can be to them as well.
I found a number of single mothers that prefered to keep their relationships away from their children altogether until such time as the relationship seemed to settle and give some sign of lasting, before introducing the 3rd parties involved.
WRT your age , whats the rush to settle ? So you are 30, what does that mean ? , absolutely nothing.
You are a single mother with all the time in the world to spend with your child, value that time, because it is fleeting and brief, enjoy your singlehood.

This is good advice. Thanks!

Geez 16 months without sex and you have not slept with him yet? I would get on top of that ASAP. Nothing worse when you go out and think hmmmmmmm maybe i get laid tonight and you hear I JUST WANT TO TAKE IT SLOW. Wow mood killer of note

Sex is not always about love and the right person, it is sometimes about just enjoying yourself doing something fun, i mean i have never heard of someone turning down a movie because they want to take it slow .

Don't get me wrong - I love sex! I had my rebound sex (once) after the end of my relationship...

Cheri, isnt this one of the worst reasons to get into a relationship?

I cant count how many times (including myself) people I know have gotten involved because they are lonely, then end up being stuck in some loser relationship..

Just a thought... use it, dont use it...

I know, but it is hard to be on your own. Since I turned about 18 I never went longer than a couple of weeks without having someone in my life - It is now almost 2 years - I'm want to have great conversation, great sex and quality time with someone I can trust.

omg that has to be some of the worst advice I have ever seen....

seriously, if she hasnt been getting action for 16 months, its more than likely by choice... No need to go and fck that up now just for a shag. She is obviously looking for something meaningful... I respect that

Right now, I won't mind a good shag... no strings attached LOL

 

[killadoob]

Hahaha nice cheri now show your bf the love

See HTC i think there is something wrong with you sexually . Maybe to much pc gaming has numbed your sexual manly ways .

 

[Alan]

Here's the truth:
It really all depends on how hot you are...

Yeah pics are essential for an accurate answer to her question.

 

[Cheri_N]

OK, lets look at the facts.

- She's not had sex in 16 months.
- She actually wants to have Sex.
- She has a BF currently.
- Boyfriend probably wouldn't mind sex either.

now, I'm no maths genius or anything but:
"Horny Woman" + "Horny Guy" + "In a Relationship" x 16 months = Do it already.

Okay, I get the maths. He will probably thank you for this

Did i say anything about her becoming a slut and nailing every guy who looks at her? I said she has not have sex for 16 months and has a bf why not engage in something fun. I am not saying all you need to do in a relationship is fsk fsk fsk but once again fsking is just as fun as going to the movies/club or dinner so there is no real reason not to have a bit of sex here and there.

Wet there is only bad sex when 2 people do not communicate what they like. If you are open and have fun as opposed to being worried and having sex for love then sex can be bad . Porn movies although over the top at times show you sex is not always about making love and connecting .

Keepers maths seems pretty sound to me.

How do you initiate first time sex? I know ridiculous question but with a child involved - drop the child off at grans and cook a romantic dinner and take it from there? Wear something sexy? Should I seduce him?

 

[Cheri_N]

Yeah pics are essential for an accurate answer to her question.

I am keeping anonymous - for obvious reasons mate. In any case, I could post any random pic of a hot babe and claim is me... Not a very reliable way to do a survey... lol

 

[Kilgore_Trout_Redux]

How old are you? Older guys are obviously more mature about these situations and if they are emotionally ready for the situation that is fine.

My advice is to let the guy know but keep contact between him and the child to a minimum until things start getting more serious.

I just read the bit where you said you were 30 and the guy is divorced with his own kid.

I think you shoild just relax and enjoy the relationship. You both seem to be at the right place in life to deal with this properly.