Single mom & dating

[killadoob]

Well initiating first time sex is not difficult, tell him the kid is at your mother's place and the 2 of you will be all alone. He will be ready for sex every time you guys go out regardless. Just hope he is not slow and gets the message .

There is no doubt the oke wants to have sex so that is sorted unless he is like HTC, then you may have a problem . Brendan does make a good point about keeping him away from kid until you think he could be the one to settle down with.

 

[techead]

Hahaha nice cheri now show your bf the love

See HTC i think there is something wrong with you sexually . Maybe to much pc gaming has numbed your sexual manly ways .

with respect, you dont know me at all, so plz dont make retarded comments

omg some people...

 

[Cheri_N]

How old are you? Older guys are obviously more mature about these situations and if they are emotionally ready for the situation that is fine.

My advice is to let the guy know but keep contact between him and the child to a minimum until things start getting more serious.

I'm 29, he is 36. How do I let him know? Next time he gets "fresh" just go with the flow? Or should I do something special?

 

[techead]

There is no doubt the oke wants to have sex so that is sorted unless he is like HTC, then you may have a problem

you know what killa, not everyone is like you. wtf dude

 

[Cheri_N]

Well initiating first time sex is not difficult, tell him the kid is at your mother's place and the 2 of you will be all alone. He will be ready for sex every time you guys go out regardless. Just hope he is not slow and gets the message .

There is no doubt the oke wants to have sex so that is sorted unless he is like HTC, then you may have a problem . Brendan does make a good point about keeping him away from kid until you think he could be the one to settle down with.

Thanks, got it. Only saw this now - Brendan ignore previous post

 

[I am Penguin]

I'm 29, he is 36. How do I let him know? Next time he gets "fresh" just go with the flow? Or should I do something special?

Nope, just take/use precautions. Lock the kid in the bathroom!

 

[Keeper]

Cheri, I have a few questions though.

how long have you been seeing this guy?
Have you two ever slept in the same bed
Are you two living together yet

and...if you guys haven't had sex yet....what DO you guys do in the evenings (either it's sleep on the same bed and nothing happens or you wave him byebye at the end of each visit ?)


and another thing....you should ask him what is HIS opinion of the situation - then you will get the real answers you are looking for.

 

[killadoob]

you know what killa, not everyone is like you. wtf dude

HTC dude i am just kidding around with you hence the . I just thought after asking how old i am and then seeing that not everyone wants a relationship before sex you might see the funnier side of these last posts .

I would say just with the flow hey, sometimes if you set something up as special you put pressure on the situation which makes it awkward.

 

[Kilgore_Trout_Redux]

Cheri, you guys seem to be at the right place in your lives to know where you stand. My advice to initiating sex is buy some condoms and the next time you are alone and going hot and heavy unzip his pants and do what comes naturally.

Saying "I want you inside of me." has been known to work on me too.

 

[Cheri_N]

with respect, you dont know me at all, so plz dont make retarded comments

omg some people...

you know what killa, not everyone is like you. wtf dude

HTC I think you have a valid point. If this was just about sex, I should keep my child out of the equation. I do like this guy however, I can see things happening between us.

 

[killadoob]

Cheri, you guys seem to be at the right place in your lives to know where you stand. My advice to initiating sex is buy some condoms and the next time you are alone and going hot and heavy unzip his pants and do what comes naturally.

Saying "I want you inside of me." has been known to work on me too.

Hahaha i cannot see how that could possibly fail . If he is a bit slow and not sure those words will clear anything up.

 

[Cheri_N]

Cheri, you guys seem to be at the right place in your lives to know where you stand. My advice to initiating sex is buy some condoms and the next time you are alone and going hot and heavy unzip his pants and do what comes naturally.

Saying "I want you inside of me." has been known to work on me too.

Now you got me hot... lol

 

[techead]

HTC dude i am just kidding around with you hence the . I just thought after asking how old i am and then seeing that not everyone wants a relationship before sex you might see the funnier side of these last posts .

oh.. I thought you were being serious and here I am getting quite bev0k I think I just tend to get annoyed with the whole mentality of that guys just wanna fck the whole time and there is zero emotional side to it.. maybe its just me...

I would say just with the flow hey, sometimes if you set something up as special you put pressure on the situation which makes it awkward.

Gotta agree with Killa here though... dont put too much pressure on it, just go with the flow... A guy is ALWAYS ready! haha!

 

[techead]

HTC I think you have a valid point. If this was just about sex, I should keep my child out of the equation. I do like this guy however, I can see things happening between us.

then by all means... go for it! enjoy!

 

[techead]

Now you got me hot... lol

/hands Cheri a ice lolly and opens a window

 

[killadoob]

Glad we cleared that up haha looked like you took wrong . HTC answer this, if you go on a date do you take condoms in case something happens? I mean let's say on the first date you have the chance to get laid do you turn it down?

 

[Kilgore_Trout_Redux]

Now you got me hot... lol

Hey, don't tell me. Not much I can do about it. (-:

 

[Cheri_N]

Cheri, I have a few questions though.

how long have you been seeing this guy?
Have you two ever slept in the same bed
Are you two living together yet

and...if you guys haven't had sex yet....what DO you guys do in the evenings (either it's sleep on the same bed and nothing happens or you wave him byebye at the end of each visit ?)


and another thing....you should ask him what is HIS opinion of the situation - then you will get the real answers you are looking for.

About 8 weeks
Nope, haven't slept in the same bed
Nope...
If he comes over and LO goes to sleep there is some kissing, cuddling, feeling etc If we go out alone (dinner or the movies whatever) he kisses me good night and that's it. I don't really want him to stay over and let my son see him in the morning and ask questions. Normally I ask my mom to look after him for the evening and go and pick him up afterwards... I know she won't mind if he sleeps over occassionaly so maybe that is the way to go? Also if the kids are with us we keep PDA to the minimun (if we go to Harties for instance or lunch etc)

I don't want to open a can of worms so I have kept quiet. I can't say for sure that things will develop into a serious relationship or not... this is just the first time I am actually dating someone since his father.

 

[techead]

hmmm

I think when it comes to sex, most of us are weak... I mean we are just animals after all... arent we? I have my ideals, doesnt mean I always stick to them... pttth!

If the first date is a real cracker, then maybe... but it would have to be one hell of a first date. I've had some seriously bad experiences when diving in too soon, not like emotional stuff, Im mean some FCKED up stuff... Wont get into that here haha lol

And yes I carry a condom, a quality one, in my wallet... no glove no love baby!

 

[Cheri_N]

/hands Cheri a ice lolly and opens a window

Hey, don't tell me. Not much I can do about it. (-:

Thanks HTC... BrendanD youl put such vivid mental pics in my head...