The Friend Zone

Ancalagon said:
@Roxi

Am I right in say, its not just physical, but also things like confidence and game that you look for?

I mean, lets say a guy was drop dead gorgeous, but he was shy and insecure, would you go for him?
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Its difficult to say, it depends on the situation. In some cases confidence can be a real turn-on, but in the case you just mentioned it could be that I don't care about that, because then I know he doesn't care about the way he looks, so he may be a sincere guy.
 
Roxi_B4b3 said:
Its difficult to say, it depends on the situation. In some cases confidence can be a real turn-on, but in the case you just mentioned it could be that I don't care about that, because then I know he doesn't care about the way he looks, so he may be a sincere guy.
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Hmmm but what if he is too shy to approach you and make you feel wanted?

What if he starts calling you 10 times a day to make sure you arent chatting with another man?
 
Roxi_B4b3 said:
Its difficult to say, it depends on the situation. In some cases confidence can be a real turn-on, but in the case you just mentioned it could be that I don't care about that, because then I know he doesn't care about the way he looks, so he may be a sincere guy.
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Are you a woman?
 
Ancalagon said:
Hmmm but what if he is too shy to approach you and make you feel wanted?

What if he starts calling you 10 times a day to make sure you arent chatting with another man?
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I wish I could give you advice - I, myself don't know how to approach guys I like.
Please don't call a girl 10 times a day. That is seriously not cool. You want to let her know you like her, not think she has a stalker.

Fuma said:
Are you a woman?
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Yes I am, I thought my nick would be a dead giveaway
 
Roxi_B4b3 said:
I wish I could give you advice - I, myself don't know how to approach guys I like.
Please don't call a girl 10 times a day. That is seriously not cool. You want to let her know you like her, not think she has a stalker.



Yes I am, I thought my nick would be a dead giveaway
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I invoke rule 30,31,32 of the internet

Rules :
30. There are no girls on the internet
31. TITS or GTFO - the choice is yours
32. You must have pictures to prove your statements
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VioletF said:
Some of the recent threads have made me think and I'm curious... Has anyone ever managed to escape the dreaded "Friend Zone" by ending up in a relationship with that person?

If so, how did you do it?

And yes, this happens to women as well. :)

In my case, I was eventually able to walk away (though not, unfortunately, until I'd basically torn myself to pieces). After a year or so of no contact, we were able to pick up the friendship again - not as close as we had been, but at least without any more romantic interest from either side.

It was the hardest thing I'd ever done, though, and I don't think I'd be able to do that again. So, also, does anyone have advice on how to avoid getting too attached to a good friend in the first place? Not making friends with the interesting sex at all seems a little extreme... :)
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Yes. I manned up, told the girl I like her and I would like to be more than friends and tada. We dated for three years.
 
Roxi_B4b3 said:
I wish I could give you advice - I, myself don't know how to approach guys I like.
Please don't call a girl 10 times a day. That is seriously not cool. You want to let her know you like her, not think she has a stalker.
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Lol, I'm not looking for advice!

I'm just saying, I used to be that shy, insecure guy. I thought, but I'm such a nice guy, why dont the girls like me?

Anyway, many years later, I realized how important confidence is.

So, when I saw your post saying you found physical attraction important, I just thought there is more to it than that. I mean, if you thought about it, some guys have sex appeal, some dont. Right?
 
Ancalagon said:
Lol, I'm not looking for advice!

I'm just saying, I used to be that shy, insecure guy. I thought, but I'm such a nice guy, why dont the girls like me?

Anyway, many years later, I realized how important confidence is.

So, when I saw your post saying you found physical attraction important, I just thought there is more to it than that. I mean, if you thought about it, some guys have sex appeal, some dont. Right?
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I think you and Roxi_B4b3 should meet. You are both into each other. Do it.
 
What's the low-down on the situation where you have actually been intimate with this girl, and in some sort of exclusive relationship, but not 'officially' dating, and one day she just says I think we should just stay friends?
 
Your being friend-boyed.. Means that you were exclusive until she figured she could find someone better.
 
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