The Friend Zone

[Slootvreter]

TL;DR all posts - best way to get out of friend zone is

1: become a different person
ie: If you were shy and bashful, force yourself to be confident - this will throw her off her stride and make her look at you differently

2: Disappear - probably the most effective method - find a reason to cut contact - then wait a few months - this resets relationship to nothing - then come back in a blaze of glory

oh wait its a necro thread meh

Point 2 might work, I did it and when I came back in this blaze of glory, she was no longer the person I was interested in. Meh.

 

[Velenoso]

This is why I always maintain that men and women can never really be friends. Someone always wants to screw the other. In the case of th of fugly fatty she's the one who wants to screw you!

 

[I.am.Sam]

TL;DR all posts - best way to get out of friend zone is

1: become a different person
ie: If you were shy and bashful, force yourself to be confident - this will throw her off her stride and make her look at you differently

2: Disappear - probably the most effective method - find a reason to cut contact - then wait a few months - this resets relationship to nothing - then come back in a blaze of glory

oh wait its a necro thread meh

anyone taking advice from you doesnt know how to use the search function

 

[Went_For_Beer]

Sorry to hear. But staying with the ex was a warning signal... how do you stay/live with your ex? And she boinking you, then all of a sudden, marries the ex bf... is a WTF on its own.

At least you scored

Yes - and now she is inviting me to braai's with the "fiance" - Im not stupid, she prob told him and now he wants to prob moer me for sleeping with his chick

 

[TelkomUseless]

Yes - and now she is inviting me to braai's with the "fiance" - Im not stupid, she prob told him and now he wants to prob moer me for sleeping with his chick

OMW.. that is even more wack!! Maybe she wants a 3 some ?

But yea.. that would be just akward situation. I would skip too.

Edit: How would convo go with him

You : "Dude you gf gives good head"
Him : "Yea.. she gives the best head. Did you enjoy her performance too?"

 

[tsume]

Well I have ended in the "Friend Zone"

Its a long story, here is the short version...

Met a girl, we went on dates and ect ect, 3 months in, she tells me she still stays with her ex, but reasures me that they just friend... Everything was good, sex was great and the one day out the blue she tells me she just wants to be friend... WTF

Turns out the ex asked her to marry him and she jumped at the oppertunity

I'd say you dodged a bullet

 

[tsume]

Point 2 might work, I did it and when I came back in this blaze of glory, she was no longer the person I was interested in. Meh.

The thing about the first time you have an attraction for a girl, you don't see they flaws & probably make excuses for they actions. But when you disappear and better yourself, I'm sure they might be the same person but you just removed the rose tinted glasses you were wearing

 

[InternetSwag]

Ehh, I can bull**** on the whole friendzone thing.

If a single girl 'friendzones' you its because she does not find you attractive and was not going to have sex with you either way. Before puberty I was fugly compared to the hot metro dude I am now. A large number of old high school (and even primary school) friends have since hooked up with me.

It's all about being sexy really... Makes you hard to turn down.

 

[Nick333]

Well I have ended in the "Friend Zone"

Its a long story, here is the short version...

Met a girl, we went on dates and ect ect, 3 months in, she tells me she still stays with her ex, but reasures me that they just friend... Everything was good, sex was great and the one day out the blue she tells me she just wants to be friend... WTF

Turns out the ex asked her to marry him and she jumped at the oppertunity

Same for me... except I fccked her within an hour of meeting her and continued to fcck her till I left town (9months or so) while he slept on the couch.

True story.

You got laid. And you dodged a bullet.

 

[winner]

Dont have chick friends because i have noticed the pattern of inevitably falling for them. if the girl i ask out is unavailable, then i am off. That actually gives me the implied right to ask her out anytime she ever gets closer to me for some reason

 

[azbob]

Ehh, I can bull**** on the whole friendzone thing.

If a single girl 'friendzones' you its because she does not find you attractive and was not going to have sex with you either way. Before puberty I was fugly compared to the hot metro dude I am now. A large number of old high school (and even primary school) friends have since hooked up with me.

It's all about being sexy really... Makes you hard to turn down.

You're getting more ass than South African butcheries maaaafuka

 

[InternetSwag]

You're getting more ass than South African butcheries maaaafuka

hah, i get the reference cheeky abzo

 

[Roxi_B4b3]

Ehh, I can bull**** on the whole friendzone thing.

If a single girl 'friendzones' you its because she does not find you attractive and was not going to have sex with you either way. Before puberty I was fugly compared to the hot metro dude I am now. A large number of old high school (and even primary school) friends have since hooked up with me.

It's all about being sexy really... Makes you hard to turn down.

I tend to agree on this. I've never turned down a guy because we are friends. If I don't find him attractive, I wont hook up with him, if I do find him attractive, then I will. But for me, its not just about looks- I don't like guys who are good looking, but with whom I can't have an intelligent conversation

 

[Alan]

So you like dumb ugly guys

 

[RazedInBlack]

I tend to agree on this. I've never turned down a guy because we are friends. If I don't find him attractive, I wont hook up with him, if I do find him attractive, then I will. But for me, its not just about looks- I don't like guys who are good looking, but with whom I can't have an intelligent conversation

You refer to attraction unlike InternetSwag who says its all about "being sexy". He can be sexy all he wants but if a chick doesn't have that attraction, being sexy ain't gonna help one bit.

 

[Roxi_B4b3]

So you like dumb ugly guys

Well obviously I should be attracted to him on a physical level, but it doesn't stop there

You refer to attraction unlike InternetSwag who says its all about "being sexy". He can be sexy all he wants but if a chick doesn't have that attraction, being sexy ain't gonna help one bit.

yes, you are completely right in saying that. But the point I'm trying to make is that it has nothing to do with being friends or being in the 'friendzone'. If I'm attracted to the guy, friend or not, I'm going to be interested in pursuing a relationship

 

[azbob]

yes, you are completely right in saying that. But the point I'm trying to make is that it has nothing to do with being friends or being in the 'friendzone'. If I'm attracted to the guy, friend or not, I'm not going to be interested in pursuing a relationship

So you only pursue relationships with guys that you're not attracted to?

 

[RazedInBlack]

You refer to attraction unlike InternetSwag who says its all about "being sexy". He can be sexy all he wants but if a chick doesn't have that attraction, being sexy ain't gonna help one bit.

You're not?

 

[Roxi_B4b3]

So you only pursue relationships with guys that you're not attracted to?

oops... sneaky little 'not' crept in there

 

[Ancalagon]

@Roxi

Am I right in say, its not just physical, but also things like confidence and game that you look for?

I mean, lets say a guy was drop dead gorgeous, but he was shy and insecure, would you go for him?