When Should One Move Out?

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tsume

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So I still kinda stay with the rents.

Here's a little life story:

I first moved out when I was turning 19, stayed in a flat which was walking distance from my university.
I moved back in with my parents around 25 cause I was doing my Masters, I didn't need to on campus on campus as much as the previous years so this was a logical step to just drive there on the odd days.I started working last year, I was originally going to move out cause the drive from my parents house to work was 45km one way...so in a week I kinda a drive to Durban. Luckily I got to carpool with a friend and that made things easier as it gave me a break on alternating weeks. With the cash I saved I decided to build a cottage in the backyard of my parents house. It's got a bathroom, bedroom & a small entertainment area. No kitchen, I still have to go inside the main house to get food. But I save a bunch (in my eyes) not paying rent, electricity, groceries & other expenses. I do contribute to the household, but definitely not as much as other bachelors need to set aside for their own expenses.

Now I got a new job, so no more carpooling. The drive is about 36km one way, so not that bad but still horrible since I get hit by the Gillooly's traffic interchange if I don't exit the house by at least 6am.

Anyway, I realised next year I'll be turning 28...28!
I was planning on the stuff I need to do like travelling. I've never traveled much & I need to do that. I was even thinking of getting a new more comfortable car for travels. But then it hit me, I'm 28 & still living with my parents...is that a bad thing? Financially, it has been the best decision I could make. But has this set me back in other regards like getting proper independence? Like I said, I stayed on my own for years before, so not sure on that. Is it bad for someone my age to still be living with rents? Of course their needs to be a limit, I can't be 30 & staying here.

But there are other factors, I don't want to be paying someone's bond off. Do I rent or take my savings & dump it in an apartment/town house or something of that nature? Can I balance this & still be able to travel? Of course if I move out I need to can the idea of a new car.

Hey, so lots of text...but I'm just looking for advice and what other people ended up doing.
 
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What did you do your masters in? This story reads like it was written by my ten year old son.
 
pinball wizard said:
What did you do your masters in? This story reads like it was written by my ten year old son.
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Computer Science.
This is what happens when your doing multiple tasks. I'll fix the grammar for you later on.
I have been thinking of doing a PhD, but getting accepted in a international university has been much tougher than I had planned out. Might do it locally if I find the correct supervisor.
 
As long you can endure it. Luckily you have a separate ebtrance at the back. I also want to stay with then but also be independent,like a separate entrance. I'm 22.
 
I was 18 when I left home, just wanted to get away from my parents and make my own way in life
 
OMB said:
I was 18 when I left home, just wanted to get away from my parents and make my own way in life
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Depends on your generation and color scheme. If you were born in the 40's to 50's and you're white, leaving at 18 was not a big deal.
 
I support parrents partially financially its a mutually beneficial living arrangement . Im 38
 
If your parents are happy to have you around, then there is no reason to move out.
In this modern economic climate, you can save a lot (and invest a lot) by staying at home.
But you should be contributing a bit more to your staying there with buying stuff, cleaning and fixing and paying rent.
Sit your parents down and have a talk with them.
What do they expect of you? Are they happy to have you around?
How much do they want you to contribute?
 
Drone said:
Depends on your generation and color scheme. If you were born in the 40's to 50's and you're white, leaving at 18 was not a big deal.
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I have a few friends that were born in the 80s and still live with their parents (including my sister).
 
tsume said:
Now I got a new job, so no more car pulling. The drive is about 36km one way, so not that bad but still horrible since I get hit by the Gillooly's traffic interchange if I don't exit the house by at least 6am.
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:wtf: is car pulling? Are you a part time tow truck driver? :confused:

You should at the very least be paying them some rent.
 
Carpooling*.

And yeah, financial independence is probably more important in the long run than some arbitrary age when you feel you 'have' to live on your own. Do what makes the most sense, considering all involved.

Are you actually putting the money you save to good use?
 
I moved out when I was 18, best decision ever. For me but also for my parents took a huge financial strain of them since I financed myself.
 
You could stay with your parents and buy a place and rent it out.
 
My parents were clever.

My rent was a percentage of my salary. Can't remember exactly But it was either 15 or 20%.

That way it was almost automatic that I would move out when it made more sense to go somewhere else.

I was fortunate enough to go straight from my parents and into my own house and dodging the rest game and I would recommend it to anyone else to rather rent from your parents and buy your own place than to rent from someone else.
 
If it works for you and your parents then why do otherwise. If it feels like you are staying on because of some unhealthy emotional need then perhaps look into making a break that will help you grow.

For many societies across the world residences are shared by various generations of the same family, it's a sound and positive support structure for all involved if it's done right. Granted some family situations are something you'd want to exit as soon as possible but if yours is a positive healthy place enjoy it while you can.
 
I was 17 and half years when I left home. Uni was 130 km away from home.

4 of us rented two rooms , kitchen and bathroom in someone's basement. We roughed it out.

Leaving home was one of several character defining points in my life.

Edit : the same happened with my two siblings when they finished matric.
 
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Does staying at home in anyway hamper you getting laid? If so then it's to e to move. Of not then stay till you have a big deposit, the housing market is insane at the moment
 
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