When Should One Move Out?

Family members got married at 24 and still heavily dependant on parents to survive.
 
krycor said:
I think the problem with being at home with parentals is subject to how they parenting and what the limits are. Some parents will encroach on their kids lives forgetting that from about 23/25 the kids need to do their own thing(good or bad and learn from it) or risk forever being dependant. The fact that is that living under your parents roof means they have a say in life, this is not always a bad thing but means you don't need to take ownership of choices.

It's ironically the safety net issue.. when a person knows there is a safety net they either take more risks or lesser/no risks than needed in life as they know there is a plan b ready and waiting so don't need everything to work. If you ask most people who are staying with folks if they have been saving up for an apartment, pension, etc i suspect this is no. I also suspect most stay with parents folk are likely to earn less(again unless doing something spectacular) and be content because the cost of living is not really known and not factored into things.

The thing is this.. is buying a fancy car the ideal? Ironically my mom told me this a few yrs ago.. come back to cpt, stay with us and then u can afford to get a super spiffy new car.. isn't that great? <-- in the mean time the proper thing to do is to save the rental funds for housing in future. A parent who is mindful of this and wants their kids to be completely independent will ask for rent.. sounds cold but really they helping the kid and if they want to be nice, will put it in an investment for future when he leaves.
The time i moved back home sucked a lot, really felt like i went backward but ok, i did so because jobs in cpt sucked 5-7 yrs ago but thats just how cpt is.
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Agree with your entire post. Sound advice.
 
On one hand you are saving up for potential future travel and home ownership. On the other hand you are missing out on the joys of renting a property, scraping by every month and basically gaining an appreciation for the end goal of true independence.

Move out, rough it and you will ultimately be better motivated to achieve all that you want to achieve. Comfort zoning it at home will not get you there
 
I've been living on my own since age 19. I believe this has made me more mature than my sister who's 28 and still living at home. However I was called a momma's boy recently :wtf:

Anyway to answer OPs question, the sooner the better.
 
tsume said:
So I still kinda stay with the rents.

Here's a little life story:

I first moved out when I was turning 19, stayed in a flat which was walking distance from my university.
I moved back in with my parents around 25 cause I was doing my Masters, I didn't need to on campus on campus as much as the previous years so this was a logical step to just drive there on the odd days.I started working last year, I was originally going to move out cause the drive from my parents house to work was 45km one way...so in a week I kinda a drive to Durban. Luckily I got to car pull with a friend and that made things easier as it gave me a break on alternating weeks. With the cash I saved I decided to build a cottage in the backyard of my parents house. It's got a bathroom, bedroom & a small entertainment area. No kitchen, I still have to go inside the main house to get food. But I save a bunch (in my eyes) not paying rent, electricity, groceries & other expenses. I do contribute to the household, but definitely not as much as other bachelors need to set aside for their own expenses.

Now I got a new job, so no more car pulling. The drive is about 36km one way, so not that bad but still horrible since I get hit by the Gillooly's traffic interchange if I don't exit the house by at least 6am.

Anyway, I realised next year I'll be turning 28...28!
I was planning on the stuff I need to do like travelling. I've never traveled much & I need to do that. I was even thinking of getting a new more comfortable car for travels. But then it hit me, I'm 28 & still living with my parents...is that a bad thing? Financially, it has been the best decision I could make. But has this set me back in other regards like getting proper independence? Like I said, I stayed on my own for years before, so not sure on that. Is it bad for someone my age to still be living with rents? Of course their needs to be a limit, I can't be 30 & staying here.

But there are other factors, I don't want to be paying someone's bond off. Do I rent or take my savings & dump it in an apartment/town house or something of that nature? Can I balance this & still be able to travel? Of course if I move out I need to can the idea of a new car.

Hey, so lots of text...but I'm just looking for advice and what other people ended up doing.
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Why move out? Seems like you have it nice now. Personally I would try buy a place now and rent it out. Stay with your folks till you meet someone and the two of you want to settle. Why rush out if you have it all nice? :p
 
Been out the house since 18. Bought my place at 25.

I've got a friend who's almost 30 and stays at home - how do you function and take women home to your parents house? I couldn't do it.
 
My dad kicked me out the house when I turned 18. We had quite a bad relationship, but moving out was the best thing I ever did.
 
Parents moved out when I was 23… :whistle:
 
OrbitalDawn said:
Carpooling*.

And yeah, financial independence is probably more important in the long run than some arbitrary age when you feel you 'have' to live on your own. Do what makes the most sense, considering all involved.

Are you actually putting the money you save to good use?
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I've been putting it in the Absa Depositors Plus cause it has a good interest rate.
But I need to start looking what else I can invest in.
 
tsume said:
Get laid? What is this getting laid?:cry:

Most of the time I do it at their place,even though I invite girls over they always seem some what intimidated to come here.
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Lol
Babe, lets go back to my spot and get frisky, you can meet my Mom and Dad as well, keen?

Suppose if there's not a separate covert entrance to your pad it may put a damper on activities. I have meet some pretty chilled parents though, they'll just carry on carrying on, at most just ask if you are using protection if they get an inkling of what's going down. Some will offer chilled beverages, what's not to love?
:D
 
I find it difficult being in my parents company for more than one hour. Live with them...I'd rather kill myself.
 
Pho3nix said:
Heard this argument a couple times.. Great points! @tsume I believe Mark Manson touches on it at some point too.

From a financial stand point, it's awesome and you'll be able to buy the car you want and save for a deposit.

Personal growth wise, do you feel you've become less independent since moving back home or less "adventurous" ?
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Actually more adventurous.
When i was staying alone I was so much a book worm. But once I moved backed I worked on balancing myself a bit more on the social side.
 
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