When Should One Move Out?

airborne said:
Lol
Babe, lets go back to my spot and get frisky, you can meet my Mom and Dad as well, keen?

Suppose if there's not a separate covert entrance to your pad it may put a damper on activities. I have meet some pretty chilled parents though, they'll just carry on carrying on, at most just ask if you are using protection if they get an inkling of what's going down. Some will offer chilled beverages, what's not to love?
:D
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Funny enough I do have a proper covert entrance from the garage to my cottage. Guess I'm not that convincing :(
 
AndyC said:
On one hand you are saving up for potential future travel and home ownership. On the other hand you are missing out on the joys of renting a property, scraping by every month and basically gaining an appreciation for the end goal of true independence.

Move out, rough it and you will ultimately be better motivated to achieve all that you want to achieve. Comfort zoning it at home will not get you there
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Might want to read my post again. I did the moving out thing & scrapping by, which is furiously difficult when your a student. So I've roughed it out more than other people who have a steady income. Oh & most of my income then was from scholarships (which barely covered my accommodation costs) & tutoring as much I possibly could. Worst was having to ask my mom or dad back then for R200 just to get some groceries.
 
tsume said:
Actually more adventurous.
When i was staying alone I was so much a book worm. But once I moved backed I worked on balancing myself a bit more on the social side.
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Then you are golden. Work on the convincing maybe :p
Trying to do the same, like pulling teeth to rather go to their place.
 
Thanks to everyone who really contributed sound wisdom. after talking with my parents I have come to some good decisions:

1) Don't rush moving out. So I will look for places here & there, but will do it at my own pace & when I'm entirely comfortable.
2) When I do move out, I must not rent. I need to buy.
3) Move out when I can afford buying all the extra things a home needs like an extra bed, couches...all things you fill a house with. So that not only means putting money aside for the buying a house but put money aside for this any other added things.

So the plan is to stay at home for another year. In the interim get a new car, do some travelling, investing, saving & during the year look around for places which I might be interested in.
 
You move out when you are financially stable and able too...
I had to live with my mom till she passed away (31 days ago) because she was a pensioner and couldn't afford the rent.
I had a GF here and there that thought it was pathetic, but you know what, screw them.
Family stick together.
If you can move out, move out, if you can't, stay at home.
 
medicnick83 said:
You move out when you are financially stable and able too...
I had to live with my mom till she passed away (31 days ago) because she was a pensioner and couldn't afford the rent.
I had a GF here and there that thought it was pathetic, but you know what, screw them.
Family stick together.
If you can move out, move out, if you can't, stay at home.
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How old are you?
 
tsume said:
Actually most girls would rather have me come to their place.
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Maybe due to all the depraved experiences they've had going back to wretched bachelor pads. Some dudes live like animals but you'd never tell from how they present themselves when going out or by the cars they drive.

I've heard some classic stories, start getting it on in the lounge, things are a bit icky but bearable, get to the room half naked and realise the sheets haven't been changed for 2 months and you can smell that fact from the doorway, gear change reverse, hehehe.

Also in terms of safety its wiser for girls if they take guys back to their place, so it's probably just that you look like a stalker
 
Stay for as long as your parents will have you around. It's a tough economic climate so every bit of saving helps.

Just keep in mind that at some point you will have to leave. Getting girls is hard when you don't have your own place. Even a separate cottage isn't as private because it's still on your folks premises...
 
I guess it depends on your circumstances. I am in the same situation as you, turning 28, living at home. I want to move out, I have the financial means, emotionally ready etc but it's just me and my mum who stay here, I would feel really bad leaving her by herself. I contribute to the household costs and pay for her medical aid.

Women do think it is lame, and I've tried to explain the situation to them but they don't really understand.

I am in the process of building a granny flat for my personal space, and when the time comes that I get married I can move into the main house and she can move into the granny cottage.
 
While I agree that financially it would be ideal to save up prior.. Do so with a target end date(time) or else watch how this will just be prolonged
 
tsume said:
Thanks to everyone who really contributed sound wisdom. after talking with my parents I have come to some good decisions:
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3) Move out when I can afford buying all the extra things a home needs like an extra bed, couches...all things you fill a house with. So that not only means putting money aside for the buying a house but put money aside for this any other added things.
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Don't stress the furniture. Rather buy as soon as you are able to, properties do not get cheaper, so the longer you wait the more expensive it gets. Just make sure you have the necessities like a bed and fridge, the rest will come. For almost a year I had a TV and camping chair in my lounge while I saved up for decent couches.
 
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