When Should One Move Out?

I don't see that changing any time soon. At least the first two. The third one is very much area dependent and still debatable if it's inflated ( meaning it will one day revert back to lower prices ).
 
Nerfherder said:
Does staying at home in anyway hamper you getting laid? If so then it's to e to move. Of not then stay till you have a big deposit, the housing market is insane at the moment
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A big deposit makes a huge difference.
 
Yeah.. as long as you staying at your folks doesn't hinder your life or theirs... keep staying on the property.. I would potentially consider adding a kitchen to your little cottage so you can become a bit more independent and you can ultimately give your folks a small income stream boost when you do move out and they can rent the cottage out. I pretty much stayed at home till I was around 30.. bought my own house and moved out.
 
ToxicBunny said:
Yeah.. as long as you staying at your folks doesn't hinder your life or theirs... keep staying on the property.. I would potentially consider adding a kitchen to your little cottage so you can become a bit more independent and you can ultimately give your folks a small income stream boost when you do move out and they can rent the cottage out. I pretty much stayed at home till I was around 30.. bought my own house and moved out.
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Correct.

Your parents probably love you staying with them. Just contribute to household expenses and odd jobs.

As was said earlier, many cultures have 3 generations in one house. Too many advantages.
 
maumau said:
Correct.

Your parents probably love you staying with them. Just contribute to household expenses and odd jobs.

As was said earlier, many cultures have 3 generations in one house. Too many advantages.
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Just as an addition to my original post.. I bought a house and moved out.. but when I bought part of what I looked at was space for my folks in the future.. and very shortly they will be building their own little cottage on my property and moving in with me.
 
Personally I think the sooner you do the better for personal growth and future. You need to learn to take care of self, budget, chores, handling independence etc ideally before you get involved seriously with another person and living with folks kinda prolongs the period to get there. This is why guys that stay with folks till about 35 have a high likelihood of ending up being that creepy single dude everyone knows haha.

Yes financially it might not make sense but consider this.. are people who live on own from 24 lesser financially sound? honestly no.. what happens is either they learn to be more fiscally responsible or move back in with parents before trying again. I moved out when i was 28 and with i did a lot earlier because irrespective of what u do.. your life trajectory is pretty much the same and rarely differs i've noticed i.e. someone who lives on own from 22/23 will be ahead in life in many aspects compared to one that leaves at 28 unless something was done wherein staying with folks was used to the advantage (this is rarely the case)
 
If they're happy with the arrangement don't sweat it too much. I just hope it doesn't stunt your emotional maturity. 28 is kind of old to still be a Masters student, you at some point need to get out of the student life and into work and all the other things that go with it.

But far be it from me to tell you what works for you, I moved out at 15 and it sucked. Constantly broke, no support, got mixed up with the wrong people, took far too many drugs, largely squandered my academic potential.
 
krycor said:
Personally I think the sooner you do the better for personal growth and future. You need to learn to take care of self, budget, chores, handling independence etc ideally before you get involved seriously with another person and living with folks kinda prolongs the period to get there. This is why guys that stay with folks till about 35 have a high likelihood of ending up being that creepy single dude everyone knows haha.

Yes financially it might not make sense but consider this.. are people who live on own from 24 lesser financially sound? honestly no.. what happens is either they learn to be more fiscally responsible or move back in with parents before trying again. I moved out when i was 28 and with i did a lot earlier because irrespective of what u do.. your life trajectory is pretty much the same and rarely differs i've noticed i.e. someone who lives on own from 22/23 will be ahead in life in many aspects compared to one that leaves at 28 unless something was done wherein staying with folks was used to the advantage (this is rarely the case)
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Heard this argument a couple times.. Great points! @tsume I believe Mark Manson touches on it at some point too.

From a financial stand point, it's awesome and you'll be able to buy the car you want and save for a deposit.

Personal growth wise, do you feel you've become less independent since moving back home or less "adventurous" ?
 
ToxicBunny said:
Just as an addition to my original post.. I bought a house and moved out.. but when I bought part of what I looked at was space for my folks in the future.. and very shortly they will be building their own little cottage on my property and moving in with me.
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Only child?
 
cerebus said:
If they're happy with the arrangement don't sweat it too much. I just hope it doesn't stunt your emotional maturity. 28 is kind of old to still be a Masters student, you at some point need to get out of the student life and into work and all the other things that go with it.

But far be it from me to tell you what works for you, I moved out at 15 and it sucked. Constantly broke, no support, got mixed up with the wrong people, took far too many drugs, largely squandered my academic potential.
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Exactly. the emo stuff takes time and experience which is not quickly shortcut, best case you learn at the standard rate which most people learn to handle these things. Personally I think folks can be over protective, mine was, and do so at their own detriment. ideally you would live on campus in the last 1-2 yrs (honours degree) or when starting to work in a digs, there after maybe 2 yrs on you move solo etc. that way you well on your way with live by the time you 26-28. i.e. 2-5yr period of learning to live which is more easily done when younger.
 
Why would anybody want to move out? You get your mum to invite all the local girls and your dad to get beer and pizza...
 
Pho3nix said:
From a financial stand point, it's awesome and you'll be able to buy the car you want and save for a deposit.

Personal growth wise, do you feel you've become less independent since moving back home or less "adventurous" ?
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I think the problem with being at home with parentals is subject to how they parenting and what the limits are. Some parents will encroach on their kids lives forgetting that from about 23/25 the kids need to do their own thing(good or bad and learn from it) or risk forever being dependant. The fact that is that living under your parents roof means they have a say in life, this is not always a bad thing but means you don't need to take ownership of choices.

It's ironically the safety net issue.. when a person knows there is a safety net they either take more risks or lesser/no risks than needed in life as they know there is a plan b ready and waiting so don't need everything to work. If you ask most people who are staying with folks if they have been saving up for an apartment, pension, etc i suspect this is no. I also suspect most stay with parents folk are likely to earn less(again unless doing something spectacular) and be content because the cost of living is not really known and not factored into things.

The thing is this.. is buying a fancy car the ideal? Ironically my mom told me this a few yrs ago.. come back to cpt, stay with us and then u can afford to get a super spiffy new car.. isn't that great? <-- in the mean time the proper thing to do is to save the rental funds for housing in future. A parent who is mindful of this and wants their kids to be completely independent will ask for rent.. sounds cold but really they helping the kid and if they want to be nice, will put it in an investment for future when he leaves.
The time i moved back home sucked a lot, really felt like i went backward but ok, i did so because jobs in cpt sucked 5-7 yrs ago but thats just how cpt is.
 
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