Why have kids?

Pr⊕phet said:
so

having children is being alive ?
having children is enjoying life ?

and

one can't be alive without children ?
one can't enjoy life without children ?

i'm quite happy with life as it is and actually do enjoy it, but why have children ?

so far it seems that you should have children when :

you want to enjoy life.
feel alive.
be alive.
make good on what your parents did wrong.
get enjoyment out of it.
teach someone something good.
have someone to look after you.
<insert> to be/have <insert>.

i would wonder... would you say the same things if you had to adopt children over getting them naturally...
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I was essentially directing my comment at satanboy.

Look, you don't need kids to make you happy, but its also true there are things you simply won't fully understand or experience unless you have or adopt kids. Its a decision really. Having kids ties you down, which might prevent you doing other things which to you might be more important. For some, having kids is the right choice, for others it clearly isn't.

Most people live the 9 to 5, each day dragging into the next and at the end of life they die. Sure there are highs and lows but its all much of a much. Those who have kids enjoy something extremely special, probably more precious than anything else they will ever experience. For them it makes a lot of sense to have or adopt kids.
 
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Having my son has changed my life. He's only 7 months old, but it is IMMENSELY satisfying to know that I can help him become whatever the hell he wants to.

Seeing that little face in the morning and when I get home EXCITES me. I can't WAIT to play with him, love him and tickle him. I watch my wife with him, and I am amazed (although not surprised) at how BRILLIANT a mother she is, patient, encouraging, proud, loving and informed.

Children isn't for everyone, but I'll tell you, 1.5 years ago, I wasn't sure what I wanted. I am glad I made the choice I did, because my son has changed my and my wife's lives for the better.

Now I want to go home and give the little monster a hug.
 
I guess people have kids for a million different reasons.

It's pretty much similar to asking someone why they chose to get married, or chose to be in a relationship. In a sense, some part of it may also be borne out of selfish reasons.
 
Everyone says its a miracle to have a baby - I say its a miracle not to have one. About every person I know has had a child in their early 20's and can't afford parenting.
 
Nokkie said:
Everyone says its a miracle to have a baby - I say its a miracle not to have one. About every person I know has had a child in their early 20's and can't afford parenting.
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Say it aloud and look at all the condescending stares or comments you get.
 
I believe that many people shouldn't have kids, it is a huge responsibility and it's not for everyone. When i think of how much life has to offer and what an absolute gift it is i would love to give that gift to someone else. If my parents hadn't danced the dance and all of your parents none of us would be here having this lively discussion to begin with.
 
satanboy said:
Say it aloud and look at all the condescending stares or comments you get.
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I think your point is more why do people who cant afford / shouldnt have kids...still have them.

Why am I going to have kids? I suppose i can break it down quite simply,
I think its something that I will enjoy and get great pleasure out of doing.
Sure, as you have said, I could get a dog. Would it be the same kind of challenge and therefore the same kind of reward? Certainly not.
 
I think people who don't want to have kids shouldn't.

Voluntary cleansing of the gene pool FTW.
 
tau1z said:
I think your point is more why do people who cant afford / shouldnt have kids...still have them.

Why am I going to have kids? I suppose i can break it down quite simply,
I think its something that I will enjoy and get great pleasure out of doing.
Sure, as you have said, I could get a dog. Would it be the same kind of challenge and therefore the same kind of reward? Certainly not.
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Financially afford? = No...psychologically afford...is more the issue
 
Another point I would also like to make is, that no one on this earth is actually ready to have kids even if they think they are. This is just a though of the day.
 
Nokkie said:
Another point I would also like to make is, that no one on this earth is actually ready to have kids even if they think they are. This is just a though of the day.
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Damn right! But I can't put in words how much having a child has enriched my life.
 
Nokkie said:
Everyone says its a miracle to have a baby - I say its a miracle not to have one. About every person I know has had a child in their early 20's and can't afford parenting.
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Who says you must have kids in your 20s? Enjoy life, travel, have all the fun you want, get ahead in your career and THEN have kids.
 
satanboy said:
I have asked all my friends this question and have never received a decent/logical reply.

Why have kids? What is the purpose of it? Why do you want to have them?

Don't give me this typical BS answer, "To continue the family name." unless your name is fecking Einstein or Copernicus.
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You know that if you reverse this question to "Why not have children?" you will find the same kind of non logical/decent replies?

It's a matter of choice. I love having kids and it's something I won't change for the world. I can't explain to you why, but they make my life complete.
 
blunomore said:
Who says you must have kids in your 20s? Enjoy life, travel, have all the fun you want, get ahead in your career and THEN have kids.
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+1 My wife and I were in our early 30s. More mature, had a whack of a time traveling and partying before that, financially and career-wise more secure - just settled in general. I am not saying that there is only one correct way, but it worked for us.

BTW, congrats Blu!
 
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