Not much to say, I understand your point emphatically (I came close to quitting, too, for much the same reasons).
However, one thing to note is that post BC WoW is a slightly different animal. A lot has been done to incorporate the casual. You used to *have* to raid if you wanted to get gear to pvp in, but now you simply rack up some arena points by playing 10 games a week per bracket- thats at most 1 or 2 hours an entire week - and over time the gear will come, and you'll get better, get better ratings and so on. If pvp aint your bag, running heroics for 'badges' can net you some solid gear. Running short of gold? Daily quests can net you about 100g or more from an hour or two. Even levelling is easier, with about 40 to 50% more xp on average being granted from questing and mobs combined from level 20 to 60. People level to 70 in anywhere between 1 to 3 weeks nowdays, if they focus.
Blizzard have gone a *long* way to incorporating the casual player, and it's why the numbers have increased so drastically since the expansion. Pre BC there was a huge gap between casual and hardcore. That gap has since shrunk drastically.
Even the endgame raids, while still hard, have been designed around less trash and more complex/harder bosses.
And virtually all 5man instances are 'winged', and much shorter than the epic snorefests of Scholo, Strat, BRD and the like.
Lastly, moving to EU from US makes all the difference, you can actually *get groups* outside of being in an SA guild, and the ping is far, far better.
Not trying to 'sell' the game to you, don't get the wrong impression, just clarifying that things have changed a lot since the days where farming MC for hours every night was the only option you had. Yes the recipe for 'addiction' into end-game raiding is still there, if you want to explore it, but if you want to enjoy the casual side of the game without being gimp, these days you can.
Dude, if a forum post has ever gotten me close to playing WoW again, it's that one. *loads up TF2 to escape the tractor beam*