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That was a heck of a roundabout way, to call her a dumb blond
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That was a heck of a roundabout way, to call her a dumb blond
Mila
Honorary Master
LOLZ!!!
Macaranga
Active Member
Hi Mila,
I also find I have very few friends, and in many ways I reckon I could go without them. But it gets lonely. One does need live human interaction, but small doses are good.
I've often thought that it would be a good idea to start a commune. That way you can have company when you want it, and be alone when you don't. Best of both worlds.
One other thing. I don't know you at all, so it's not directed at you specifically. But if it does apply to you, you should take it personally ! And that is excessive talking. Many people only look upon friends or other people they meet, as listening boards. They are there to hear. If you are guilty of that, then you must work at it. I go out of my way to avoid people who simply talk at me. They are exhausting. Conversations are a two-way street.
Tips : Ask more questions. LISTEN to the answers. Don't use what people tell you as a springboard for you to say more. Use it as a way of asking them more questions.
Next time you're in a "conversation" with someone, stop and think who has been doing most of the talking. If it's you, stop and do more listening !
Dave.
I also find I have very few friends, and in many ways I reckon I could go without them. But it gets lonely. One does need live human interaction, but small doses are good.
I've often thought that it would be a good idea to start a commune. That way you can have company when you want it, and be alone when you don't. Best of both worlds.
One other thing. I don't know you at all, so it's not directed at you specifically. But if it does apply to you, you should take it personally ! And that is excessive talking. Many people only look upon friends or other people they meet, as listening boards. They are there to hear. If you are guilty of that, then you must work at it. I go out of my way to avoid people who simply talk at me. They are exhausting. Conversations are a two-way street.
Tips : Ask more questions. LISTEN to the answers. Don't use what people tell you as a springboard for you to say more. Use it as a way of asking them more questions.
Next time you're in a "conversation" with someone, stop and think who has been doing most of the talking. If it's you, stop and do more listening !
Dave.
Kornhub
Blackburn Fan
Yes indeed I have friends
esp my Girlfriend
Though I must say only around 10 or so proper friends
seems to decrease every year?
esp my Girlfriend
Though I must say only around 10 or so proper friends
seems to decrease every year?
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That was a heck of a roundabout way, to call her a dumb blond
Normally I'd agree and say something to the girl in the lines of "You're not as pretty as you think you are. So get over yourself" if she was one of those snobs, but I'm merely clutching at straws in this case.
Anyway, Mila ... listen to Dave.
Also remember that online people are real too. I've been on irc (if you don't know what this is, then this sentence isn't directed at you.) since '99 and one or two of my, what I consider to be very dear, friends I still have never met face to face.
I hope you find happiness soon...
BinaryJack
Spam
While on holiday i did a lot of thinking. I am a sad loser with no fiends
I like to tell myself it is because i moved around so much and just never do the BFF thing.
Where do you get these things other people call friends?
And does this mean i'm a really irritating anoying loser nobody wants to be friends with?
And how do i start to change my nasty friend off putting habits?
Hmmm...dont know you well...well actually at all.
The posts that you have posted was always sharp, to the point and very honest.
It is dificult to find/make friends when you tend to say what want to.
People dont like it when you are too honest, a bit of lying mixed with some truth is much easier to swallow.
I have 2 friends and then a few aquintances.
The friends you will make when you do, the tend to appear in your life.
You will know who the friends are, they are the ones that will bite you back when you are too bitchy with them but will still give you a hug when they leave.
Just chill about yourself.
I dont think there is anything wrong with you from your posts, perhaps a bit too honest.
+100
Peder
Hobbit
Hmmm...dont know you well...well actually at all.
The posts that you have posted was always sharp, to the point and very honest.
It is dificult to find/make friends when you tend to say what want to.
People dont like it when you are too honest, a bit of lying mixed with some truth is much easier to swallow.
I have 2 friends and then a few aquintances.
The friends you will make when you do, the tend to appear in your life.
You will know who the friends are, they are the ones that will bite you back when you are too bitchy with them but will still give you a hug when they leave.
Just chill about yourself.
I dont think there is anything wrong with you from your posts, perhaps a bit too honest.
+100
HMM... sounds like me being too honest...
I doubt i have 1 single friend who i can say yes they'll be there for me through thick and thin...
Maybe i'm still young.
And going out to a mall with more than 2 people is TOTALLY boring.
So yeah maybe sometime i will find friends hope someday.
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also watch Jim Carrey's "Yes man!"
feo
Honorary Master
I'm glad someone made this thread.
Ever since school, even through campus I feel as if I have fewer friends. During school days, we used to go out to movies, supper, go-karting and other stuff. On campus though, things changed. I was brought up by a single parent and because of that, I didn't want to be like the rest of the world and flunk 1st year and waste my mom's money so I basically gave up my friendships to make sure I pulled through varsity. In the end I got a BSc degree with Hons Cum Laude.
Ever since then, it seems I'm a bit of a loner. I still have a couple of friends that I see once in a while and my buddies at work I see every day. I've made one or 2 solid (kinda) friendships at work but I still have a bit of a hollow lonely feeling and lately it's been pretty bad.
I also don't have a girlfriend and that adds to the loneliness but hey, I'm 22 and earn a lot so that kinda keeps me going.
Ever since school, even through campus I feel as if I have fewer friends. During school days, we used to go out to movies, supper, go-karting and other stuff. On campus though, things changed. I was brought up by a single parent and because of that, I didn't want to be like the rest of the world and flunk 1st year and waste my mom's money so I basically gave up my friendships to make sure I pulled through varsity. In the end I got a BSc degree with Hons Cum Laude.
Ever since then, it seems I'm a bit of a loner. I still have a couple of friends that I see once in a while and my buddies at work I see every day. I've made one or 2 solid (kinda) friendships at work but I still have a bit of a hollow lonely feeling and lately it's been pretty bad.
I also don't have a girlfriend and that adds to the loneliness but hey, I'm 22 and earn a lot so that kinda keeps me going.
killadoob
Honorary Master
Feo earning a lot of money does not make one happy without something to do with that money and people to share stuff with.
Don't fall into the trap of thinking money will solve your loneliness because it won't.
Don't fall into the trap of thinking money will solve your loneliness because it won't.
Kornhub
Blackburn Fan
Listen to killadoob though you are 22 so your still very young .
feo
Honorary Master
Dude, I never said that. I know that money doesn't buy happiness and I'd much rather have less money but more people around me than the other way round. It just helps when you can splurge a bit to temporarily take your mind off things..
i dont go to church
Mila, instead on trying to make lots of friends.. try to make one friend for the time being - then another - then another.. but first just focus on one friend, focus all you energy into trying to please this person, invite him/her to lunch, go drinking, play a game of squash... your efforts will not go by unnoticed
Mila, instead on trying to make lots of friends.. try to make one friend for the time being - then another - then another.. but first just focus on one friend, focus all you energy into trying to please this person, invite him/her to lunch, go drinking, play a game of squash... your efforts will not go by unnoticed
feo
Honorary Master
Trying to "please this person"?i dont go to church
Mila, instead on trying to make lots of friends.. try to make one friend for the time being - then another - then another.. but first just focus on one friend, focus all you energy into trying to please this person, invite him/her to lunch, go drinking, play a game of squash... your efforts will not go by unnoticed
Lots of suggestions here to find friends by going clubbing, pubbing and church. What if you're not Christian, don't drink and don't club (aka. like clean fun)...which I am?
What then?
feo
Honorary Master
I was serious dude. I missed a couple of classes, even flunked one subject in my varsity career but never fell behind. I also have a fear of failure and felt that hanging out with friends would bugger up my prospects for the rest of my life so I made the "smart" choice and studied instead.Feo, good on you...
working hard so that your mom doesn't waste her money- good morals..
many students lack these so called 'morals'"