So do you think that there are only a very few select people watching and listening to the sky?Who is "we"? You got some HAM radio or something, or expecting this telepathically?
Bottom line, "we" as in you and I wouldnt be any the wiser if comms have or would happen.
The we I talk about is ALL of us. just like the broad messages we have broadcast into space we (the entire fsking planet) would receive a similar message. It would be impossible to hide.
When your theory depends on a conspiracy you cant prove or even define then you need to take a hard look at it.