Getting over ex's: How do you do it?

[I.am.Sam]

Don't stress it. Sam's only love life exists in his head or his hands

haha i have a love life thats non existant at the moment ...im also suffering from a break up

but mine is better since having few dates

refering to head again i c ?

Yep. Cos it's your head that gets you the @ss

But then again you wouldn't know about getting in any event

furking indians ...cant take them anywhere

 

[DrewChan]

dont drink. time heals.

dont take her back. if she comes back tell her to gtfo

I won't I am sad enough without alcahol luckily not a big drinker anyway. Taking her back - if by some miracle she did my pride would want to kick her out on her ass - everything else would fawn over her like a lost puppy.

Why does love make you so weak - I used to be the "don't take **** from anyone" kinda guy.

blargh

 

[DrewChan]

Thanks VernD that message is pretty inspiring will keep it

 

[DrewChan]

haha i have a love life thats non existant at the moment ...im also suffering from a break up

but mine is better since having few dates

I have had rebound offers not sure if it will make things better or worse though so soon after break up

 

[FrankCastle]

Together only a year, but it was a really good year, break up blind sided me - everything was going well - then bam. Asked for a reason - reply - I don't know

Looks like she got tire(d) of you.

 

[DrewChan]

Looks like she got tire(d) of you.

Its possible, but this was not a thread asking why she broke up with me, it was more getting over it. Thanks for keen observation though.

 

[USZA]

I have had rebound offers not sure if it will make things better or worse though so soon after break up

Don't do it; it'll just screw up your already-fragile state.

In the aftermath of a break-up your self-esteem/self-worth takes a knock and thus you might be tempted find validation from others, whether it be just spending time with someone else or sex. If it goes pear-shaped, you'll just be worse off.

PS: I've been fighting that temptation this past few weeks and thank Gawd that I haven't given in to it.

 

[I.am.Sam]

I have had rebound offers not sure if it will make things better or worse though so soon after break up

wont work for now ....i broke up 2 months ago (after 3 and half years) but been meeting new woman so it does take the thought of ur ex away but when you alone its a bitch ...so thats why find things to do ...play games for out with people ...try not to be alone tooo much

 

[SinghDude]

wont work for now ....i broke up 2 months ago (after 3 and half years) but been meeting new woman so it does take the thought of ur ex away but when you alone its a bitch ...so thats why find things to do ...play games for out with people ...try not to be alone tooo much

She told me that you couldn't get it up ......

 

[techead]

Don't do it; it'll just screw up your already-fragile state.

In the aftermath of a break-up your self-esteem/self-worth takes a knock and thus you might be tempted find validation from others, whether it be just spending time with someone else or sex. If it goes pear-shaped, you'll just be worse off.

PS: I've been fighting that temptation this past few weeks and thank Gawd that I haven't given in to it.

this ^^

most guys dont have the balls to deal with a breakup and the associated pain, so they either drink themselves into a coma... go into a state of denial and make a joke about everything related to the event, or rebound sex with anyone/everyone they can find.

 

[DrewChan]

this ^^

most guys dont have the balls to deal with a breakup and the associated pain, so they either drink themselves into a coma... go into a state of denial and make a joke about everything related to the event, or rebound sex with anyone/everyone they can find.

I think the only one im feeling is denial - a kind of sense of this cant be happening, felt a similar way when someone tried to stab my friend.

 

[Chaos247]

oh I was just talking about the combination of Foreign (Russian), stunning, spontaneous, and insanely cute (personality). How many of them do you see walking the streets, but luckily im still relatively confident, so my heart is shattered but my ego is intact. Thanks for advice everybody - some of it helped (Specially the don't drink) I will be avoiding that - last thing i want to do is embarass myself by drunk dialing/begging

I see you going back to her physical aspects. sure she was hot but what does that count for if she puts you in this state? Dont chase some one that isnt willing to do the same for you. Now shoulders back, tummy in and keep your chin up. Get back on the interwebz and order yourself another russian mail order bride

just go with the flow, life has a way of working its self out.

 

[techead]

I think the only one im feeling is denial - a kind of sense of this cant be happening, felt a similar way when someone tried to stab my friend.

The Kübler-Ross model, commonly known as the five stages of grief, is a theory first introduced by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book, On Death and Dying.[7] The theory describes in five discrete stages a largely untested, but popular process by which people deal with grief and tragedy. Such events might include being diagnosed with a terminal illness or enduring a catastrophic loss. The five stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

sounds about right...

 

[ShaunSA]

Don't do it; it'll just screw up your already-fragile state.

In the aftermath of a break-up your self-esteem/self-worth takes a knock and thus you might be tempted find validation from others, whether it be just spending time with someone else or sex. If it goes pear-shaped, you'll just be worse off.

PS: I've been fighting that temptation this past few weeks and thank Gawd that I haven't given in to it.

The only problem with this one is 6 months down the line when the dust has settled you wish you had gone for the shag

 

[USZA]

The only problem with this one is 6 months down the line when the dust has settled you wish you had gone for the shag

6 months down the line he/me might be in a better frame of mind to actually shag someone.

 

[Fader4]

In the past i have found that a bit of mary jane and rough sex did wonders to sooth an aching heart.

 

[FrankCastle]

Its possible, but this was not a thread asking why she broke up with me, it was more getting over it. Thanks for keen observation though.

I think you missed my intentional pun but anyway from what I observed the ex's usually come crawling back when you hook up with someone better,especially if she had no valid reason for breaking up with you.
What happened, happened its time to move forward to the hundreds of better more deserving prospects available everywhere.
She wasn't meant for you and you should be grateful for that.No man deserves to be alone and eventually you will find your soul mate.
Be positive and keep looking.

 

[I.am.Sam]

She told me that you couldn't get it up ......

haha thats what your wife told me about you

 

[DrewChan]

haha thats what your wife told me about you

buuurn

 

[DrewChan]

Thanks DrYes - Shes not the crawling back type- so doubt im gonna have that issue - n hopefully I wont do anything stupid - haven't spent much time alone yet apart from last night in the fetal position smoking and watching the simpsons