Gf's Past Bother you?

AcidRaZor said:
No. And here's why.

It's none of your business.

Plain and simple.
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What he said.

Judge her for what she's doing, not for what she's done. Deal with it or break up, but don't you dare use it as leverage.
 
Hobagoas said:
60 people in 10 years comes down to an average of about 6 men per year. Now I know quite a few guys who probably shag a lot more chicks than 6 a year, and for some reason nobody calls them sluts. I just find it odd that in the 21st Century it's still cool for guys to have sex with anything that moves, but when females do it, they're sluts and need to be shunned...
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True.

In her specific case, the 10 years was 14 years to 24 years. The majority of the 60 men happened from about 14-16 before she got a boyfriend (and fell pregnant). So that's about 20 a year ... and the caliber of men is :sick:

But I understand what you're saying.
 
Oh how these threads get so amusing...

Oh and Tamerlane, my point from your original epic thread still stands.

You do need to learn to use the English language properly. I would suggest going back to primary school to learn basic spelling and sentence structure.
 
AcidRaZor said:
No. And here's why.

It's none of your business.

Plain and simple. If it does bother you, I'd recommend talking to her about it now, so that you can ruin the relationship you have now instead of later. It'll hurt less for you both.

Why? Easy. What is in the past is in the past. If she had the entire Soccer team up her at one point, who are you to judge her on her one weak moment? You're her choice now. So if you can't get over that, then it's not worth going on in this relationship.

Time to nut up or shut up.
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Why would you want to be with someone who had an entire soccer team up them?
You might be her choice for now but someone who has done that is most likely not a good long term bet.
 
SlinkyMike said:
Is your concern more around what she has done or more around how much of it she hsa done?

I totally agree with AcidRaZor but there is a distinction in the case that it is something that she has done in the past that bothers you as this might indicate that there are deeper incompatibility that could leave you both unfulfilled and/or hurt.
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Mike hit the nail on the head. Say your girl had one session and in that session she willingly had things done to her that would make a pronstar cry:eek: what would you do then? If she let a guy carry out every fantasy he had?:sick: Now reach back into the recesses of your own twisted mind and think about the stuff that you wish you could do. The number of people becomes irrelevant. Besides, even if she tells you something to appease you, would you believe it after reading all these posts? Deal with it or move on. you dont really have another choice, you opened pandoras box. excuse the pun lol:D
 
Grates me no end :/

to think she loved someone else, maybe more then you even ! i like to win in all things so :/

and to think of her naked humping some other dude being so happy and satisfied... makes me mental !

i would struggle to date any girl with more then 1 sexual partner at this stage (bear in mind my age to go for is about 18 :P)

its strange, i like to think im special with a girl. But to me if she has experienced it before, your not special :)

suppose different okes hey ;)

my one mate couldn't care if she has bashed 400 guys. but i dunno, i could never, then your just a number :/

i don't know how you guys can just be like ah the past is the past.. my logic, if she wanted to shag 50 guys this year, she doesnt deserve a decent guy, so therefore a decent guy should give her bat. on the other hand if you have also slept with 100's of girls then its no issue i suppose :P

i dont even like to hook up with a chick if i know she pulls "dirty" guys
 
Self esteem and sexual inadequacy issues galore in here.
 
4cer said:
i don't know how you guys can just be like ah the past is the past.. my logic, if she wanted to shag 50 guys this year, she doesnt deserve a decent guy, so therefore a decent guy should give her bat.
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Again - accept it or break up. Staying with someone AND still holding it against them makes you the bastard.

You need to realize, she didn't know you, so don't make her feel guilty for being with someone and heaven forbid enjoyed it - since you WEREN'T there for her from the start.. Her past shaped her into the person she is today, both through good and mostly bad experiences.

If you're not cool with it. Walk away and write it off as incompatibility. But don't you dare judge her for it as if you've never done regretful things.
 
Guys, the word I probably missed in this thread is TRUST. A girl/woman who has had 50 men was probably 'looking for love and got banged instead', have you thought of that? The question is would you be ok with this past and go on your merry way at work wondering if she's at work or shagging some guy during her lunch break?

I s'pose one has to look at the person, take away the physical aspect which attracted you to her, and look at the real person she is. Love indeed has no boundaries but one of the most important aspects of love is trust. She may have been a virgin when you met, but is she 100% loyal to you i.e. are you the one that comes first, not her career, work, her family (her mum, dad, bro, etc). Does she have your back in a crisis, is she your soul mate, your friend?......Can you TRUST her with your life???

So ja, go on question how many times she banged some random oke and how she may have climaxed with him or them as compared to you and balance that thought with she may have given her all at that moment thinking that he was the one. Or going to sleep after a steamy session with your SO who you deflowered safe in the knowledge that she'll never put anything in your supper and that she'll bang 50 guys once you gone with all the molla you left her.

Trust gentlemen is one of the key factors of love, cheers :)
 
cryptic1 said:
Guys, the word I probably missed in this thread is TRUST. A girl/woman who has had 50 men was probably 'looking for love and got banged instead', have you thought of that? The question is would you be ok with this past and go on your merry way at work wondering if she's at work or shagging some guy during her lunch break?

I s'pose one has to look at the person, take away the physical aspect which attracted you to her, and look at the real person she is. Love indeed has no boundaries but one of the most important aspects of love is trust. She may have been a virgin when you met, but is she 100% loyal to you i.e. are you the one that comes first, not her career, work, her family (her mum, dad, bro, etc). Does she have your back in a crisis, is she your soul mate, your friend?......Can you TRUST her with your life???

So ja, go on question how many times she banged some random oke and how she may have climaxed with him or them as compared to you and balance that thought with she may have given her all at that moment thinking that he was the one. Or going to sleep after a steamy session with your SO who you deflowered safe in the knowledge that she'll never put anything in your supper and that she'll bang 50 guys once you gone with all the molla you left her.

Trust gentlemen is one of the key factors of love, cheers :)
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That is one of the best posts I have ever read on Myadsl
 
cryptic1 said:
Guys, the word I probably missed in this thread is TRUST. A girl/woman who has had 50 men was probably 'looking for love and got banged instead', have you thought of that?
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Look for love every weekend and mistake it? ;)
 
4cer said:
Grates me no end :/

to think she loved someone else, maybe more then you even ! i like to win in all things so :/

and to think of her naked humping some other dude being so happy and satisfied... makes me mental !

i would struggle to date any girl with more then 1 sexual partner at this stage (bear in mind my age to go for is about 18 :P)

its strange, i like to think im special with a girl. But to me if she has experienced it before, your not special :)

suppose different okes hey ;)

my one mate couldn't care if she has bashed 400 guys. but i dunno, i could never, then your just a number :/

i don't know how you guys can just be like ah the past is the past.. my logic, if she wanted to shag 50 guys this year, she doesnt deserve a decent guy, so therefore a decent guy should give her bat. on the other hand if you have also slept with 100's of girls then its no issue i suppose :P

i dont even like to hook up with a chick if i know she pulls "dirty" guys
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You summaried me in one beautiful post.
 
Hobagoas said:
Ok, so let me get this straight. It is ok for you to have shagged more than one girl, but if your gf has had more than one guy then you all of a sudden don't feel special? Guys who think like that seriously need a reality check.
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ya well i haven't ;) and it was a long term GF, i could easily be on the 2 digit figures now, but its not what i want. As gay as it sounds i have to be really close to someone to want to bang them !

and about how you should move on and forgive her for her mistakes, cause no one has no regrets.

Yes this is true, but makeing the same mistake 40 odd times ? thats plain stupidity then, if she doesnt want to be a slut dont sleep with so many guys.
 
Tamerlane said:
Should your gf's sexual past bother you? If it does how is this dealt with?
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If someone even ask the question then he/she should not even be in such relationship unless its only based on platonic sexual pleusure in the first case. It's the old story of if she is/was easy with you and was easy with others the question is why? would it stop in future when the relationship becomes more "permanent" and is going for the long haul? The age old question is: how' can you cement a relationship on the basis of mistrust and possible many old skeletons in the cupboard/past? The way to do it is to start anew, no skeletons, talk about it. If that makes the relationship fail then you got your answer and you are better of, never mind the fear or pain, that will come to pass. Look at interaction of the partner with others and try to determine sincerity and honesty. Full trust and respect is the only way a relationship can stand tides and the proof of time in the LONG HAUL, else the ship will run aground and/or sink anyway. Rather sooner than later when there are kids involved.
 
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