Girlfriend letting go

Pitbull said:
God forbid his gf/wife should ever fall pregnant, need cortisone injections or other steroids. I have no issue with a woman keeping her self skinny and tone because she wants to. Forcing it... sorry no dice. He doesn't love her, he loves the idea of her being skinny. It's actually farking sad... No wonder we have all these weird hashtags trending about men... I'm actually pissed off for her sake and I'm not even a justice warrior :D
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Falling pregnant is not permanent, cortisone and steroids probably also not.

I will still love my SO should she become kack vet, but I would no longer be physically attracted to her.
 
Slootvreter said:
Falling pregnant is not permanent, cortisone and steroids probably also not.

I will still love my SO should she become kack vet, but I would no longer be physically attracted to her.
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Nea, I'm sorry but I don't buy it. You telling me that you would not feel the need to have passionate sex with your wife because she's packed on a few pounds? Guess I'm just not a picky eater. I love all shapes and sizes. I will love my wife at 80kgs or 200kgs and still would tap that ass!
 
Pitbull said:
Nea, I'm sorry but I don't buy it. You telling me that you would not feel the need to have passionate sex with your wife because she's packed on a few pounds? Guess I'm just not a picky eater. I love all shapes and sizes. I will love my wife at 80kgs or 200kgs and still would tap that ass!
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Almost doubling in size is not picking up a few pounds. And of course I would feel the need, because I'm not going to look for it anywhere else, but not nearly as often.
 
Cr419 said:
You can say men are trash, but about when woman are the same? I gained a lot of weight a few years ago, my wife told me in no uncertain terms that I was getting fat and that I must work on it. Which I did, because I was actually getting fat. Nothing wrong with some honesty.

If that lacks in a relationship I believe it's doomed.
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And that's fine too. You have been together I suppose years? not 6 farking months and claiming to be loving her but judging her for picking up weight. I can't think of anything more shallow :o
 
halfmoonforever said:
+1 I was going to say just now, 2 things stood out for me in OP's post

1) He loves her. If he loved her, why would she be gross/too fat to him?
2) Honesty above all, if you feel like she needs to lose weight, raise it as a health concern and talk openly about it

Because you can't get over her weight, nor tell her what the problem is, I don't think you're really in love. You just want someone /thing to stick your penis into or keep you busy. Buy World of Warcraft or something instead of misleading this poor woman that you're in love and that the relationship may be going somewhere
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It's easy for people to say this when they're not going through it themselves. Love is not the same thing as being sexually attracted to someone. Loving them might contribute to it, but if they're going to become a total turn off physically, it's going to kill any chance of getting any wood. And if there's no sex in a relationship when you're still relatively young, you may as well call it off.

The people who are saying love must conquer all and they'll still love their partners if they weigh 200kg, that's irrelevant. What they're not saying it's whether they'd still fsck their partners. And if they will, they probably don't mind doing fat chics. Some guys do...
 
Slootvreter said:
Almost doubling in size is not picking up a few pounds. And of course I would feel the need, because I'm not going to look for it anywhere else, but not nearly as often.
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Hey I'm the last one to judge there :D

Point being I would still love my wife dearly and would still want to pork her as I did the day we met. No amount of fat will change that. She's way more to me than an image or an item. What she brings to the relationship trumps any weight gain she might or might not have. Amazing mother, feisty wife... what else can an man want?
 
Pitbull said:
And that's fine too. You have been together I suppose years? not 6 farking months and claiming to be loving her but judging her for picking up weight. I can't think of anything more shallow :o
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We have been together for years. But knowing her she would have told me that even after 6 months. I don't know if I would do the same, hopefully I would. Never been in the position to need to.
 
Mike Hoxbig said:
It's easy for people to say this when they're not going through it themselves. Love is not the same thing as being sexually attracted to someone. Loving them might contribute to it, but if they're going to become a total turn off physically, it's going to kill any chance of getting any wood. And if there's no sex in a relationship when you're still relatively young, you may as well call it off.

The people who are saying love must conquer all and they'll still love their partners if they weigh 200kg, that's irrelevant. What they're not saying it's whether they'd still fsck their partners. And if they will, they probably don't mind doing fat chics. Some guys do...
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Never been picky with my meat. Yet end up being with fantastic women all my life. Can't say I've been with a 120kg woman but I've has my share of sticks and plump. I do prefer a bit plump though, they are the best!
 
Pitbull said:
Never been picky with my meat. Yet end up being with fantastic women all my life. Can't say I've been with a 120kg woman but I've has my share of sticks and plump. I do prefer a bit plump though, they are the best!
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How long have you been married?

You are different. Most people can deal with plump/curvy I think. Obesity is different though.
 
Cr419 said:
We have been together for years. But knowing her she would have told me that even after 6 months. I don't know if I would do the same, hopefully I would. Never been in the position to need to.
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I have a skew nose. Wife met me like that and it doesn't bother anyone. She will sometimes say I should have it fixed in jest or something. I get that, those are things one can fix. My issue here is by the OPs account she gained a pretty big amount of weight in a short time. No way that is natural so she might be on some hormones or steroids for something. Something she can't change at this current time yet he feels it his place to judge her for it.

There is no way he loves her no matter how he tries to cream coat it, he's a dick :p
 
Emjay said:
How long have you been married?

You are different. Most people can deal with plump/curvy I think. Obesity is different though.
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Married 11 years, together 16.

Yea, I don't know about obese I might draw a line there. But where does obese start? 150kgs?
 
Pitbull said:
Married 11 years, together 16.

Yea, I don't know about obese I might draw a line there. But where does obese start? 150kgs?
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100kg is obese. If she weighed 60kg before and weighs 100kg now, she is obese. That is 40kg of fat she is carrying around.

It would be like me going from 80kg to 135kg. The most I've weighed was 110kg or so and that was already obese.
 
Pitbull said:
Married 11 years, together 16.

Yea, I don't know about obese I might draw a line there. But where does obese start? 150kgs?
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Obese starts at a BMI of 30. 150kgs on a woman's frame at around 5ft8 (just above the South African average) would make her morbidly obese.
 
Emjay said:
Obese starts at a BMI of 30. 150kgs on a woman's frame at around 5ft8 (just above the South African average) would make her morbidly obese.
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BMI...lol...

So all body builders are obese...
 
Ancalagon said:
100kg is obese. If she weighed 60kg before and weighs 100kg now, she is obese. That is 40kg of fat she is carrying around.

It would be like me going from 80kg to 135kg. The most I've weighed was 110kg or so and that was already obese.
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My brother weights 128kgs. His a bit taller than me but in no way obese.

So just curious. There is no point of knowing someone's BMI so where does one say... yup, she's obese!
 
Pitbull said:
My brother weights 128kgs. His a bit taller than me but in no way obese.

So just curious. There is no point of knowing someone's BMI so where does one say... yup, she's obese!
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If you nearly double in weight, you are obese, no matter your height. If your brother isn't a bodybuilder or 2.1m or something, he is probably obese too.
 
Gezza said:
BMI...lol...

So all body builders are obese...
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Really? I am talking in general broad strokes. If you visited the Bodybuilding thread, you would know this.

Being 40kgs overweight at 5ft8 would put body fat at around 40 to 50%. You can look up a picture with comparisons to get an idea.
 
Emjay said:
Really? I am talking in general broad strokes. If you visited the Bodybuilding thread, you would know this.

Being 40kgs overweight at 5ft8 would put body fat at around 40 to 50%. You can look up a picture with comparisons to get an idea.
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Are you insane???

So weight has a direct correlation to fat percentage??? Sorry man, try again.
 
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