How has being in a relationship changed you?

satanboy

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fanie.dry said:
That's how all marriages work. Women find something they can work with, and try to make their perfect man.

Men find their perfect woman, and then wedding cake happens.
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Maybe I married a realist.
 
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My hand doesn't ask me if it's ass is fat in those jeans.
 
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fanie.dry said:
That's how all marriages work. Women find something they can work with, and try to make their perfect man.

Men find their perfect woman, and then wedding cake happens.
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@fanie.dry not all marriages work out like that. Sure, I would say the vast majority do, but there are plenty that dont.

I reckon that most of the people I know, have turned out just like you said above, but my relationship and there is one otehr couple that I can think of, do not function like that.

I wouldnt be too quick to paint everyone with the same brush.

My SO married me becoz she saw lots of potential in me, and she says Im good looking :D She knew all about my weakness and bad points, and still went for it. Im glad she did.

I married her because in 40 years time when we both look like ****, she will still be a better person inside than anyone I know.
 
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funkzar said:
Either your spell check is dodge or you drunk. Took me 2 reads to get your point which is totally valid. Look at your 1st sentence. Did "he" make you selfish. Get my point?

What people need to understand is this: some people are happy without the need to be with someone "officially".

I NEVER feel lonely. EVER. People just can't grasp the idea because their mommys and daddies told them you HAVE to be with someONE. " I need to be completed"

I gather that people meet their soul mates. I even appreciate it and to some degree long for it. But it isn't and will NEVER be me.

I'm way too much of a narcissist. I'm COMPLETE. Yes I just said that.

Whenever I'm tired of being happy, I find myself a girlfriend that lasts for longer than a month. The next 6 months is a battle to get out of the relationship. I've left a TITANIC wake of women that hate me. I REALLY dislike them too. Enough to forget them long enough to do it again and again, and again etc. Etc.

So I understand your thinking.

Before everyone else has a moral **** fit, I respect your choices too, and hope you find what you looking for and you stay happily in love.

No matter how many times I've been judged for how I live my life.....
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I found your post interesting because I have recently been thinking about these same things.

As an atheist, I don't believe in souls, and I haven't believed in souls for over 15 years. But isn't it weird that I believed in the existence of soulmates, despite not believing in souls?

I never stopped to think about what I really wanted from relationships. I had been so conditioned to think that marriage for the rest of my life was what would make me happy, that I never stopped to think about it.
 
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I changed.

Was wild and erratic when I met my wife. As Time went on I became tame and predictable. Think it's the kids fault though, not hers.
 
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Mentioned this before somewhere in the Forum's basement....

If it were not for the English HO, I would either be dead or in the jail!

She gives me free reign to go nutters, with only a handful of conditions......(think it is stated on page 4475219 of our marriage contract!)
 
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Pitbull said:
Compared to what I was when I was 22. Not a chance in hell :D

My wife isn't here to keep me in-line now :p
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When we met, you stood out as a person who was very wild in their youth, because you're like 60 now. ;)
 
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