I am having a breakdown

[STS]

as someone that is divorced, been cheated on and rejected on multiple occasions, i often feel more sympathy for the cheaters than the people being cheated on.

obviously for your current husband not to kick you to the curb and just leave, he is either comfortable/wants to avoid the costs of divorce, he cares about you and your child or is just looking to fill a void in his life. out of interest, if you see him less and less these days, how is your sex life? how often are the two of you romantic?

we know nothing about you or your husband, but some people don't simply cheat for the sake of cheating, and i failed in a lot of ways in my relationships as well as made up for the damage i had done.

personal advice: don't use your child as a source for drama. if your child isn't sick, don't act like your child is sick and make your partner panic, you wouldn't like to worry about your child and neither should he. talk about it like an adult with him. i went thru my partner's phone when i was cheated on and also discovered that way from the messages, but it's odd behaviour that makes one curious

 

[Pitbull]

Write down everything and take photos of proof. If you are going to end up in court you need some sort of evidence.

Why would you need evidence for a divorce?
If both wants to part ways then it's consensual no need for proof. Unless it gets messy. But sounds like he's having a blast, I can't see why he would not agree to it.

 

[EMAM]

@headache........from one woman to another (and, according to the men on this forum, we are few and far between)......let me just tell you that there is light at the end of every dark, dark tunnel and I am talking from experience.

What you are going through now is horrendous, and I know exactly how you feel - been through it plus so much more, including fighting aggressive cancer at the same time as my marriage was falling apart. I didn't have any hope of carrying on and my greatest wish was for my cancer to not respond to treatment but then I started believing in myself and thinking about myself for once in my life and realising that the battles I was fighting were all the wrong battles. I turned that around and things started falling into place.

Yes, it is hard. It is hard to let go of the person that you think is the love of your life, it is hard to try carry on when you are in such a dark place that you see no light, but just take one look at your child and think of him. If I can do it, I promise, ANYONE can!

If you want, please PM anytime........you need to be careful sometimes with these guys on here - they are jokers........some (no names mentioned), will be asking if they can tap you soon

 

[Sinbad]

........some (no names mentioned), will be asking if they can tap you soon

far, far too late...

 

[EMAM]

far, far too late...

He didn't use the word "tap"......he was starting out like a gentleman!!

 

[Pho3nix]

Front passenger seat works best.

Interesting. Back seat always gave more room for variety.

 

[Pitbull]

@headache........from one woman to another (and, according to the men on this forum, we are few and far between)......let me just tell you that there is light at the end of every dark, dark tunnel and I am talking from experience.

What you are going through now is horrendous, and I know exactly how you feel - been through it plus so much more, including fighting aggressive cancer at the same time as my marriage was falling apart. I didn't have any hope of carrying on and my greatest wish was for my cancer to not respond to treatment but then I started believing in myself and thinking about myself for once in my life and realising that the battles I was fighting were all the wrong battles. I turned that around and things started falling into place.

Yes, it is hard. It is hard to let go of the person that you think is the love of your life, it is hard to try carry on when you are in such a dark place that you see no light, but just take one look at your child and think of him. If I can do it, I promise, ANYONE can!

If you want, please PM anytime........you need to be careful sometimes with these guys on here - they are jokers........some (no names mentioned), will be asking if they can tap you soon

Eish, that boat has sailed

 

[Sinbad]

Interesting. Back seat always gave more room for variety.

Seatback goes flat ...

 

[joeyhza]

@headache........from one woman to another (and, according to the men on this forum, we are few and far between)......let me just tell you that there is light at the end of every dark, dark tunnel and I am talking from experience.

What you are going through now is horrendous, and I know exactly how you feel - been through it plus so much more, including fighting aggressive cancer at the same time as my marriage was falling apart. I didn't have any hope of carrying on and my greatest wish was for my cancer to not respond to treatment but then I started believing in myself and thinking about myself for once in my life and realising that the battles I was fighting were all the wrong battles. I turned that around and things started falling into place.

Yes, it is hard. It is hard to let go of the person that you think is the love of your life, it is hard to try carry on when you are in such a dark place that you see no light, but just take one look at your child and think of him. If I can do it, I promise, ANYONE can!

If you want, please PM anytime........you need to be careful sometimes with these guys on here - they are jokers........some (no names mentioned), will be asking if they can tap you soon

OMG! I'm so down now after reading this! True Monday blues full on now

Glad you got through that though

 

[Pitbull]

OMG! I'm so down now after reading this! True Monday blues full on now

Glad you got through that though

Hey she might have had a rough time. She's having the time of her life now.

 

[Pho3nix]

Seatback goes flat ...

/learns from the master

 

[ShaunSA]

Hey she might have had a rough time. She's having the time of her life now.

In the nick of time too

 

[Pitbull]

In the nick of time too

I see what you did there

 

[EMAM]

Hey she might have had a rough time. She's having the time of her life now.

And it's all thanks to this forum

 

[Hemi300c]

The harsh truth is:-
1) Start preparing for a divorce
2) Start proceedings against your ex for maintenance (wasn't there an amount in your divorce settlement?)
3) Move out with your child and start living your own life.

Once things have gone wrong in a marriage it is extremely difficult to reconcile, I think he is too scared to confront his family with it and will ride you like a wave till there is no alternative.

You and your child deserve better and the little one needs to be in a happy environment.

 

[EMAM]

In the nick of time too

Lol!!!!

 

[Pitbull]

And it's all thanks to this forum

See, we might be a lot of things, but boring... this forum is not.

 

[Progenix Oj101]

The harsh truth is:-
1) Start preparing for a divorce
2) Start proceedings against your ex for maintenance (wasn't there an amount in your divorce settlement?)
3) Move out with your child and start living your own life.

Once things have gone wrong in a marriage it is extremely difficult to reconcile, I think he is too scared to confront his family with it and will ride you like a wave till there is no alternative.

You and your child deserve better and the little one needs to be in a happy environment.

You're jumping to conclusions, as I've shown there could be logical explanations for the husband's behaviour. It is absolutely a possibility that he is cheating, but it's not a certainty.

 

[Pho3nix]

You're jumping to conclusions, as I've shown there could be logical explanations for the husband's behaviour. It is absolutely a possibility that he is cheating, but it's not a certainty.

Why a box of condoms?

 

[RazedInBlack]

Damn it's good to be single...

So its you and your hand only?