Lets say you sound like a moron and like my one neighbour before I moved abroad. He was spongueing off his gf and cheated on her. When she got pregnant he booted her out and refused to assist with anything. Since she is now a big boss at a new company he wants her back, just cause he has money.
So my advice for you. Pull ureself together. Its not about partying or smokes or anything. Its really about your son. As the parent your main priority is your kid and after 2 years the pooh in the potty or toilet and the bring you pictures home and love you no matter what. They will cuddle you in bed and think youre their superman. Wake the f up dude.
You can look for a full day day mother or childcare.
Kids are the best. I had to change both my kids nappies24/7. Made them formula even 3am whenever hungry. Fed them cleaned nappies etc. That passed quick. Now they are the coolest.
However if you cant handle speak to your and her parents and decide a way forward. Because if you do hurt your child i will personally come after everything you have and death wouldnt come sooner.
If you want to see what a good dad does. Look at this.
Now to help if youre serious...
1. Get a goos formula (nestle nan)
2. Get a hot water flask and coldwater flask. Boil water and pour the hot water in the flask and rest in the cold water flask (tupperware). When you mix the formula make use a bit of both so the formula is mild. Makes it easier and bottle warmers are crap.
3. Invest in nappy towels. Theyre waterproof. Have some handy if baby want to throw up. They absorb and easy to clean. I found these indespensible.
4. Go for a drive. Babies love to sleep in their car seats. Even around the block.
5. Remember after feeding to lightly pat the baby back. This allow for air to be burbed out. Less constipation.
6. Buy some bibs and clothes from pep. U dont need fancy as baby outgrows it soo quick.
7. Get a changing mat rather than a changing mat on a cot. Works easier.
8. Avoid baby powder. Get fissan bum cream. It works well. Also avoids rashes.
9. Purity food works for some. Bananas for other but only intro food after 6 months. Get teejelly for the teething pain. Grumpy baby is grumpy parent.
10. Dont freak out or argue. Babies are insecure and panic when the parent does. Do this all with a poker face.
11. Always have nurofen and panado for babies nearby. Both are good for fever. You cant give it more than 6 hours at a time but you can give nurofen and if the fever doesnt calm down after 3 hours give panado. Theyre slightly different.
11. Get a good swinging chair (fisher price). Buckle them in. It helps with putting babies to sleep.
12. Do kangaroo care. Take off your shirt and hold baby to your chest. They will become more attached when older.
13. Take lots of pictures. They grow up fast.
14. Look for a full day daycare. Some take babies from 3 months and you drop them at 7am and pick up 5pm. It gives you time to rest.
15. Dont smoke around the baby. Not good for them.
If you follow these tricks you will score quickly. Get a combo pram baby carrier. Chico makes great stuff. Push baby around. They sleep easier.
Pigeon makes the best bottles.
Dont panic. And speak to your boss calmly. Unless their some crypto exchange that hates people with kids. They will be understanding.
