Just bought the ring...

rvZA said:
Dude, congrats. Don't listen to silly comments about symbolic this or that. A ring is a ring. Hope you have a long, faithful and happy marriage and many, many kids as well. FTW!
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He lives in South Africa there can be nothing but trouble ahead.
 
Corelli said:
Congrats however.....the reason why people choose mined diamonds and not lab grown diamonds is symbolic that a mined diamond took a million years or so to form, and as such the relationship will last long.

With lab grown, it is purely about the shiny stone, and not about being symbolic about a long lasting marriage. For some women thats a big no no, others may be more accomodating.

ie lab grown takes a few days, mined took 1 million years.
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lame
 
Firstly congrats, dont let me spoil it for you, but alas.... As for the diamond...

gregmcc said:
What? Never heard such kak before.
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A Natural Diamond has a rarity factor. Generally speaking, a natural diamond will hold its value better than a lab grown diamond because there is a finite supply.

Nationwide surveys show that the vast majority of women still want natural diamonds. In a 2018 survey by the Diamond Producers Association (DPA) and The Harris Poll, only 16 percent of women claimed that they believed lab-grown diamonds were “real” diamonds. This is another reason why 90% of the diamonds we choose to carry are natural. Surveys (and our personal interactions with guests) have shown us that man-made products are simply not what people want.

But like I said for some it will matter for others not.
 
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Quite honestly congratulations. My sister is a platinum diamond designer, was one of the top in SA till she got up and quit, and moved abroad to be a farmer. She still makes Jewellery but for really select clients. So I got taught all about diamonds etc.

But in all honesty, if the girl loves you and really loves you, then she couldnt care less if its a cheap steel ring or diamond ring. Sure diamond is just bling but anyway. It's the love that counts. Guess you have a keeper.

Ok next step. You have to deside if prenup or not. SA court lately has been chucking out prenups and out of community faster than people use toiletpaper which is a worrysome sign. I think its targetting a specific religion.

However...
1. In community of Property. Everything you have and hers gets split 50/50, you would also need her permission to take a loan, and with some banking etc. If you do own a business and it goes bankrupt (some sadly do), then she is liable too.
2. Out of Community. What's yours is yours and hers is hers. However a judge can still overrule this and give her half or more. SA Judges lately.
3. Out of Community but with Accrual. So you have to list everything you bring into the marriage ie property, vehicles, investments and pensions, and can list what to exclude. From there on whatever you build up together gets divided into 2 if it ever leads to divorce. However.... you are allowed to apply for loans on your own name, and she wont be liable for this, and if a business goes bankrupt, they will only go after you and not her. Generally this is the way to go.

Now these items are difficult to discuss, but yet divorces do happen, and so does bankruptcies. You can however still with the out options give her access to your accounts etc.

Inheritance is normally not shared with spouses, but you have to invest it specifically otherwise it can fall part of the marriage estate.

Also normally with pensions, the wife is allowed pension interest. This is 15% per annum interest, whether you got this on your pension or not is your own issue. Some does walk away with 100% of their husband's pensions.

Do consider that although marriage is love and all that, its also a financial contract between 2 and more parties. If you ever watched a series like "The Heirs" or "Inheritors" on Netflix. Its pretty spot on how it is in some countries. Its a joining of two families.

Lucky for you she isnt Asian because that can be costly.

Typical engagement of an asian couple. Yip the groom to be has to give a lot of gifts to the bride and her family

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My sister was one of the top Jewellery designer
gregmcc said:
What? Never heard such kak before.
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The diamond ring represents an evolved and more grounded version of love – the love that exists in the mundane day-to-day tasks that make up a life together. Love can truly last if it is built with effort every single day, as reminded by the constant unchanging presence of a diamond.

A diamond represents strength, permanence, purity, and love, all valuable qualities in a relationship. Thus it takes very long for a diamond to be created in the toughest of conditions, but at the end it becomes that beatiful stone as your marriage will be when you reach those silver/greying years.

Why on earth did you think you gave your wife to be a diamond ring? Just because they are shiny? Its symbolic.
 
As for Platinum, its non allergenic. Some people are allergic to gold and silver. Gold is worth more than Platinum at the moment, but Platinum is more rare. They are using Palladium a lot lately but still Platinum is more rare.

Its heavier though on the finger than gold. Platinum is heavy.
 
Corelli said:
Congrats however.....the reason why people choose mined diamonds and not lab grown diamonds is symbolic that a mined diamond took a million years or so to form, and as such the relationship will last long.

With lab grown, it is purely about the shiny stone, and not about being symbolic about a long lasting marriage. For some women thats a big no no, others may be more accomodating.

ie lab grown takes a few days, mined took 1 million years.
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How to tell us you are from the old regime without telling us.

Literally nobody in the modern world even knows about this, never mind cares for it.

It’s all a sham anyway. Buy the nicest and hardest think you can afford without going into debt and call it a day.
 
Corelli said:
Congrats however.....the reason why people choose mined diamonds and not lab grown diamonds is symbolic that a mined diamond took a million years or so to form, and as such the relationship will last long.

With lab grown, it is purely about the shiny stone, and not about being symbolic about a long lasting marriage. For some women thats a big no no, others may be more accomodating.

ie lab grown takes a few days, mined took 1 million years.
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Same with getting a pear ring (oyster tears) - it's a sign that your relationship will be emotional.
 
Corelli said:
The diamond ring represents an evolved and more grounded version of love – the love that exists in the mundane day-to-day tasks that make up a life together. Love can truly last if it is built with effort every single day, as reminded by the constant unchanging presence of a diamond.
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So what happens if you lose this diamond ring? Marriage over, she threw our love away. Bitch! The one thing.. the ONE THING that kept this marriage going, the cornerstone of our love and you washed it down the drain :(
 
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Congrats OP!!

Question: is a synthetic diamond as strong as natural diamond which is near indestructible and as such used for industrial purposes?

When it was my time all those years ago, got my wife an international brand for engagement and wedding (platinum with a big near flawless). Thousands of GBP. I was rich before I got married haha. I wonder what it worth all these years later .

Personally, I don't care about them (have never wore mines except on the day and I don't know what she has done with it) but as long as she continues to love me as I love her thats all that matters .
 
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