Need some psychological comfort, please.

RedViking

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So this is self-inflicted poverty?
I think there is a bit of history. I have a friend that is seriously bi-polar. His family has been to hell and back with him. Very selfish person. So there is more to that story. I think it is more of a case of getting them to do at least something or they (the family) needs to deal with a case of self destruction or suicide etc. Obviously the same family that is going through trauma and hell are also some times blamed as not caring etc.

So not sure what exactly OP's circumstances are, although one can draw conclusion based on his various threads , but there is more to the story. I think if his family could come on here and tell you their side of the experience it will paint a much different picture and put things a bit into perspective.
 

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I think there is a bit of history. I have a friend that is seriously bi-polar. His family has been to hell and back with him. Very selfish person. So there is more to that story. I think it is more of a case of getting them to do at least something or they need to deal with a case of self destruction or suicide etc. Obviously the same family that is going through trauma and hell are also some times blamed as not caring etc.

So not sure what exactly OP's circumstances are, although one can draw conclusion based on his various threads , but there is more to the story. I think if his family could come on here and tell you their side of the experience it will paint a much different picture and put things a bit into perspective.
You are assuming I said something negative about my family?
Why? Because I mention my living standards dropped? Heck. I supported myself without any major finance boosts for well over 15 years. I had a solid job. I was part of Management.

Who are they? Or them? Mentally illl people? Go fly a kite please.
 

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Ons sal sien. Die lewe draai ballas. Jy dink jy het dit sooooo lekker. Jou trots sal jou einde wees.
Life is what you make of it? Don't go assuming that everyone else has a wonderful life! Yes, there are some of us that have a better live than others but then there are those that have a better life than me. I make a point of not wallowing in self pity.
 

RedViking

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You are assuming I said something negative about my family?
Why? Because I mention my living standards dropped? Heck. I supported myself without any major finance boosts for well over 15 years. I had a solid job. I was part of Management.

Who are they? Or them? Mentally illl people? Go fly a kite please.
Calm down. That is not what I said.
 

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Life is what you make of it? Don't go assuming that everyone else has a wonderful life! Yes, there are some of us that have a better live than others but then there are those that have a better life than me. I make a point of not wallowing in self pity.
You have no idea about life.
You will see. I have no question about that.
 

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As predicted earlier, OP will start going off the rails when he does not like the questions or comments.
 

|tera|

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As predicted earlier, OP will start going off the rails when he does not like the questions or comments.
You sit back and take it if someone disrespects, mocks and verbally abuse you? You have bigger issues than me.
Jokes are jokes to the jokers. Not those being joked about.

A suicidal guy on a forum needs help with getting coping mechanisms to have a better life. That's what I asked. No? I'm only worth a fking joke?
 

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Yano if you honestly working to 2am - 4am and you are making ZERO money, please stop what ever you are doing because you are wasting time.

Apply to be a cashier at the local shop or start waitering once restaurants open up. You will at least make some money and you won't "work" 18 hour days.
 

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Yep. I do have hobbies. Exercise hurts me physically. Posted a thread recently where my left leg was stuffed for weeks. It's sorted now after the exercise was stopped.
I think the trick is to try new hobbies. We've had this discussion before, you rejected the idea, but really - you could do with a few new reference frames from which to view the world. Everything you do right now is the same stuff you've been doing for the last 5-10 years and so the spaces you occupy and use to think about the world are maybe a bit stagnant aren't aren't affording you any new perspectives.

So something like growing your own food indoors (like microgreens) is an easy hobby to start. Or growing herbs in a few pots around the house. You get food that nourishes you, you get to care for something, and you start thinking differently about things in this new space.
 

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Yano if you honestly working to 2am - 4am and you are making ZERO money, please stop what ever you are doing because you are wasting time.

Apply to be a cashier at the local shop or start waitering once restaurants open up. You will at least make some money and you won't "work" 18 hour days.
Placed people on ignore. I'm done.
Either treat me with dignity and respect or go fk yourselves.

I don't have transport. My health is erroded due to multiple overdosing and injested suicide attempts. I'm a skilled ICT professional. I don't mess around and waste time with nothing. I have a professional goal and aim to deliver on my own goals.
 

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Another thing I find useful is to read out loud stuff that's conducive to your growth or that challenges your beliefs and ideas. Like there's plenty books in the self-help category to pick up...just read out load for 10 minutes a day. Something about speaking out loud seems to be more therapeutic than just mentally skimming over the words.
 

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I think the trick is to try new hobbies. We've had this discussion before, you rejected the idea, but really - you could do with a few new reference frames from which to view the world. Everything you do right now is the same stuff you've been doing for the last 5-10 years and so the spaces you occupy and use to think about the world are maybe a bit stagnant aren't aren't affording you any new perspectives.

So something like growing your own food indoors (like microgreens) is an easy hobby to start. Or growing herbs in a few pots around the house. You get food that nourishes you, you get to care for something, and you start thinking differently about things in this new space.
That sounds like a theraputic approach.
No offense intended, but why do you thinking therapy will improve anything?
I think my bewt bet would just be to ride it out until I can get medication. Once bolted and swallowed I'll have another 4 weeks of sanity. I literally feeling the need for the meds.
Another thing I find useful is to read out loud stuff that's conducive to your growth or that challenges your beliefs and ideas. Like there's plenty books in the self-help category to pick up...just read out load for 10 minutes a day. Something about speaking out loud seems to be more therapeutic than just mentally skimming over the words.
That will be weird. I don't talk to anyone or even have telephone conversations. I only type or text. It's different if I'm with someone physically, then I can talk fine.
 
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