Need some psychological comfort, please.

[animal531]

What area of IT are you in?

 

[|tera|]

Unfortunately on a public forum:
- you will get very little sympathy
- advise is going to be all over the place and, the advice that may help, will be obscured by other advice that may just cause more harm

"I need some comfort/consolement to ease my mind.
Yep, it's my time to get meds and I'm overdue again."

Based on the above extract from your OP, you obviously suffer from a medical condition. There is only one solution and that is to get the medicine that you need.

"How do you cope with stress and burnout? I don't have the mechanisms as I thought I had"

I take a Thursday and Friday off and I don't even think about work. I read books, go for a walk, work in the garden and try to stay as far away from any electronic devices and media as possible. However, there is a distinct difference between being tired/overworked and bi-polar disorder/depression.

"I'm alone and have nobody to vent or talk to. So you are my somebody"

So you are on a farm from the sounds of it. Surely there must be other farms/farmers around that you can visit?You have access to the internet, so why not talk to friends/colleagues via whatsapp/teams/zoom? If you belong to a church, talking to the local dominees will cost you nothing and may be a good starting point.

Thanks

I agree with your post, except the last bit.
I have no friends here or anyone else I could visit. Tried the Pastor/Dominee thing. A Man can only receive so many WhatsApp sermons.....

Zoom. Friends? Nope. My own mother doesn't even talk to me. Let alone my family or friends. If I don't reach out I'm ignored. Black sheep r'us.

What area of IT are you in?

Support, Administration and I'm a good WordPress designer.

 

[Sensorei]

Oh look!!!

It's the angry guy who's always complaining with sob stories, but won't take advice from anyone who wants to help because we don't "know his story" and doesn't want to hear the truth because it hurts.

 

[purple face]

Sounds like you need @45Female

huh? why me? don't bring me into anything ive been working I haven't been on here for a few days

 

[|tera|]

Oh look!!!

It's the angry guy who's always complaining with sob stories, but won't take advice from anyone who wants to help because we don't "know his story" and doesn't want to hear the truth because it hurts.

Ignored.

 

[Crayons]

huh? why me? don't bring me into anything ive been working I haven't been on here for a few days

You work too hard. Sounds like you need @|tera|

 

[Bobbin]

Watch this guy build an underground swimming pool house in 60 days with his bare hands. You'll get motivated befok and take on any graft for the next few days Should help at least with work depression.

 

[The_Mowgs]

Tera how are you feeling today?

 

[|tera|]

Tera how are you feeling today?

Feeling a bit better thanks. Lying with the CPAP now and watching TV.

 

[The_Mowgs]

Feeling a bit better thanks. Lying with the CPAP now and watching TV.

Why not go for a quick walk? Just 20min or so

 

[|tera|]

Why not go for a quick walk? Just 20min or so

It's a bit dark now, I'm working tomorrow morning. So I'll be walking

 

[The Trutherizer]

This is an old thread. But...

It is not much, but it helps to feel that you are at least fully cognizant of, and in control, - Even of a s**t situation.
Whenever things got really tough for me all that really worked was detailed and creative budgeting and financial micromanaging it.
Scoring debts and expenses.
Making minute incremental improvements.
That sense of knowing.
That feeling of slowly but surely taking control.
Determination.
Breeding the state of mind to improve one's situation, and embrace opportunities.
No matter how small.
Taking note of every tiny improvement.

Such blues are the enemy. Keeps things the same, even drags you further down.
You must prime yourself for positive action. By being, in a sense, operationally aware.
It is quite possible, and most rewarding, to play it as a game.

 

[The_Mowgs]

It's a bit dark now, I'm working tomorrow morning. So I'll be walking

PM me if you just feel like chatting or venting, Im here for you.

 

[|tera|]

PM me if you just feel like chatting or venting, Im here for you.

Thank you

This is an old thread. But...

It is not much, but it helps to feel that you are at least fully cognizant of, and in control, - Even of a s**t situation.
Whenever things got really tough for me all that really worked was detailed and creative budgeting and financial micromanaging it.
Scoring debts and expenses.
Making minute incremental improvements.
That sense of knowing.
That feeling of slowly but surely taking control.
Determination.
Breeding the state of mind to improve one's situation, and embrace opportunities.
No matter how small.
Taking note of every tiny improvement.

Such blues are the enemy. Keeps things the same, even drags you further down.
You must prime yourself for positive action. By being, in a sense, operationally aware.
It is quite possible, and most rewarding, to play it as a game.

I'll reread this post a bit later. Thanks.

 

[The_Mowgs]

Tera do you have any goals or milestones for this week / month?

 

[|tera|]

Tera do you have any goals or milestones for this week / month?

From the top of my head it would just be to get going with the medication. I'll try and sort it with my family this week. They won't drop me. After that, especially after getting the Jab I'll feel better the next day and really need to change things up. I can't do this same trend anymore.

 

[The_Mowgs]

From the top of my head it would just be to get going with the medication. I'll try and sort it with my family this week. They won't drop me. After that, especially after getting the Jab I'll feel better the next day and really need to change things up. I can't do this same trend anymore.

Try setting 3 small goals per day or week, goals that are easily achievable. Im not saying you cant achieve big goals etc but the small wins helps one through the days when it becomes difficult.

I know its not what you want to hear but try to cut back on the cannabis if possible. Open a jar of bud and just smell it, dont smoke it, just smell it, the cannabinoids in your system will react to it in a positive way.

You can do this man, you have come a long way but you also need to listen to people and accept constructive criticism without blowing, people want to help you, not out to get you.

People care about you, think about you and love you, accept it without thinking theres nefarious reasons behind it.

 

[Pixual]

OP, I have always considered myself a mentally tough person. Grew up poor and life hasn't ever stopped taking pot shots at me. Whenever the cannonballs have hit me sideways in the past I have managed to pick myself up one way or another.

However, this lockdown stuff has put me on a mental health roller coaster ride. I work freelance in various fields, two of which got shut down by the elitists trying to save themselves from this perceived pandemic. I've lost about 70% of my normal income but somehow I have managed to pull through to this day by exhausting savings and selling things I used to think were important. Yesterday I felt like crap. Today I feel better. Tomorrow I try not to think about.

While my phone doesn't ring for work for weeks on end I try to find something to occupy my mind. It could be designing something. Writing something. Rearranging furniture. Whatever. It helps to a point. But then I need something deeper.

What I do instead is look for inspiration. I have found it in certain Christian material and testimonies - not all of them. I stay away from the likes of John MacArthur. Very learned bible teacher, but he seemingly doesn't understand grace much in a human context. Go check out Andrew Farley. Be wary of Joel Osteen. Read C.S. Lewis. Check out the testimonies of people like Alice Cooper and Brian Welch (Korn). Not the kind of guys you would associate with religion, right? But there's a story of hope there that I found exciting. If guys like that could find inner peace with Christ, surely I could too?

We can do this, because we can do all things through Christ who gives us strength. He lives inside you. He lives inside me. Most of the time we ignore Him, but when we pay attention to what He says, things get clearer in our minds and our true purpose emerges. Jesus never promised us a rose garden. Quite the opposite (which is something the unbelievers are usually agog at). He said that in this world we will have trouble. It's guaranteed. We will suffer. We will be downtrodden and ridiculed for being believers, but... we will also overcome, because, my God, He rose from the grave! That really happened!

The promise of salvation has kept me strong. I believe it. I accept it. I forge forward in spite of my circumstances.

I hope you find your way, my friend. It's there waiting for you if you want it.

 

[|tera|]

OP, I have always considered myself a mentally tough person. Grew up poor and life hasn't ever stopped taking pot shots at me. Whenever the cannonballs have hit me sideways in the past I have managed to pick myself up one way or another.

However, this lockdown stuff has put me on a mental health roller coaster ride. I work freelance in various fields, two of which got shut down by the elitists trying to save themselves from this perceived pandemic. I've lost about 70% of my normal income but somehow I have managed to pull through to this day by exhausting savings and selling things I used to think were important. Yesterday I felt like crap. Today I feel better. Tomorrow I try not to think about.

While my phone doesn't ring for work for weeks on end I try to find something to occupy my mind. It could be designing something. Writing something. Rearranging furniture. Whatever. It helps to a point. But then I need something deeper.

What I do instead is look for inspiration. I have found it in certain Christian material and testimonies - not all of them. I stay away from the likes of John MacArthur. Very learned bible teacher, but he seemingly doesn't understand grace much in a human context. Go check out Andrew Farley. Be wary of Joel Osteen. Read C.S. Lewis. Check out the testimonies of people like Alice Cooper and Brian Welch (Korn). Not the kind of guys you would associate with religion, right? But there's a story of hope there that I found exciting. If guys like that could find inner peace with Christ, surely I could too?

We can do this, because we can do all things through Christ who gives us strength. He lives inside you. He lives inside me. Most of the time we ignore Him, but when we pay attention to what He says, things get clearer in our minds and our true purpose emerges. Jesus never promised us a rose garden. Quite the opposite (which is something the unbelievers are usually agog at). He said that in this world we will have trouble. It's guaranteed. We will suffer. We will be downtrodden and ridiculed for being believers, but... we will also overcome, because, my God, He rose from the grave! That really happened!

The promise of salvation has kept me strong. I believe it. I accept it. I forge forward in spite of my circumstances.

I hope you find your way, my friend. It's there waiting for you if you want it.

I appreciate the sentiment.

My relationship with God (including Christ) is perfect. This is a health issue. Faith can only do so much. If God wanted to heal my Bipolar disorder He would. He can. He hasn't and unfortunately won't though. I've made peace with that.

I've lived alone a long long time. God becomes your all, your only. The only company you have

 

[|tera|]

Try setting 3 small goals per day or week, goals that are easily achievable. Im not saying you cant achieve big goals etc but the small wins helps one through the days when it becomes difficult.

I know its not what you want to hear but try to cut back on the cannabis if possible. Open a jar of bud and just smell it, dont smoke it, just smell it, the cannabinoids in your system will react to it in a positive way.

You can do this man, you have come a long way but you also need to listen to people and accept constructive criticism without blowing, people want to help you, not out to get you.

People care about you, think about you and love you, accept it without thinking theres nefarious reasons behind it.

It's difficult on a forum when I can't comment on each part of advice as @Affieplaas pointed out earlier.
I'm trying to acknowledge that I read and understand the advice given without making an issue of anyone's advice.
There's just some comments which are blatantly trying to provoke a reaction from me. I'm ignoring those people. The ignore function here has given me much needed sanity on the forum as a whole. I can talk with almost any one in life. I can be chill and accepting of anything. Just don't treat me like sht. I won't stand for it. Never have. Never will.