question about friendship

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So is a thread post offering to bet a million rand that 99% of all men feel the same way you do. :rolleyes:

/really hope I 'm on the "never go out with" list. :D
 
Hmmm .... don't have the time to read through what everyone has said, but is the bet that 99% of men would cheat? Or keep quiet if a friend does?
 
Wouldn't it depend on how well you know the friend? How well you know his girlfriend? Was it a once in a lifetime lapse or has it happened before? Also depend it was flirting or sleeping with?

I won't have to deal with any of that though : I have a cool friends ;)
 
Dolby said:
Wouldn't it depend on how well you know the friend? How well you know his girlfriend? Was it a once in a lifetime lapse or has it happened before? Also depend it was flirting or sleeping with?

I won't have to deal with any of that though : I have a cool friends ;)
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That is my point.

I have known my friends longer than my wife or even anyone else but my family. It's like telling on your brother for setting fire to the "veld". It's not on, no matter how much woman want that privilage they will never stand in that place where long time man friends are. We are borthers and I never pimp on my brother so why would I do it on my friends :confused:
 
Pitbull said:
U guys seriously will let a friend of about 18 years crash and burn because you can't keep your trap shut ?

Damn

/adds a few names to my "never go out with" list :(
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What I mean is that most guys wouldn't rat out although they may claim that they would. Hope this clears it up :D
 
ShaunSA said:
What I mean is that most guys wouldn't rat out although they may claim that they would. Hope this clears it up :D
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Sounds about right :)

I'd need to check the circumstances though
 
Skeptik said:
I shared a house with a very attractive girl once. She gave the outward impression to every boyfriend that she was theirs and butter wouldn't melt in her 'girl-next-door' mouth. We all saw what she was really about. Just playing each one off until she made up her mind. Shehad three on the boil at the same time, none the wiser for it.

The point we are all missing is that the fiancee may also be up to no good.

Besides, men-women relationships can end very quickly and you lose both friend and spouse. The dynamics are quite fragile and can never be compared to close friendships with members of the same sex.
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QFT !
 
Dolby said:
Sounds about right :)

I'd need to check the circumstances though
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This is 100% spot on. We can all claim that we would behave in a certain way in a certain situation. The reality is very far off.

In killa's case the only reason he ratted was because it could have cost him his relationship if it came out eventually. If the circumstance were different he would not have.
 
Skeptik said:
I shared a house with a very attractive girl once. She gave the outward impression to every boyfriend that she was theirs and butter wouldn't melt in her 'girl-next-door' mouth. We all saw what she was really about. Just playing each one off until she made up her mind. Shehad three on the boil at the same time, none the wiser for it.
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Been in the exact same situation. In fact, just checked your stats to see you aren't the person that was her housemate ;)

In that situation when I was the 'victim', I'd really like to have been told about the other guys actually :( It probably would've saved me some heart ache *sigh* I even ASKED the house mate but he just denied she was seeing others.
 
It was a lose lose situation. If you did not tell your fiance and your friend split with his GF and the story came out, your fiance may have suspected you were part of it. I came from the era of "what goes on tour stays on tour". So when we guys went away on weekends or sports tours, I turned a blind eye and just made sure I stayed on the straight and narrow. Not the right moral track but it was what was expected and I would have been given the cold shoulder by all the guys if I told on one. I respect the fact that you did what you did, not sure if I could/would have.

The one thing about society and particularly SA society is the hang up with sex as being the BIG sin. It is way down on my list. Some religions are hung up on the sex issue but if a few people are kileed it's no big deal.

A word of advice, stay away from the pills, even recreationaly, they are not good for you.
 
Pitbull said:
That is my point.

I have known my friends longer than my wife or even anyone else but my family. It's like telling on your brother for setting fire to the "veld". It's not on, no matter how much woman want that privilage they will never stand in that place where long time man friends are. We are borthers and I never pimp on my brother so why would I do it on my friends :confused:
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He is putting her at risk of aids, and basically anyone who sleeps with her, and him too obviously. Its a comparison of numbers and he loses. Just because you know him, doesn't make him more important in the larger scheme of things. She might cure cancer, but instead she dies because your buddy wanted to bang a prozzi? Homey dont play dat..
 
Pixie22 said:
He is putting her at risk of aids, and basically anyone who sleeps with her, and him too obviously. Its a comparison of numbers and he loses. Just because you know him, doesn't make him more important in the larger scheme of things. She might cure cancer, but instead she dies because your buddy wanted to bang a prozzi? Homey dont play dat..
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Wow, Pixie you actually swayed me on this specific scenario. The OP didn't "rat out" he's mate on that reason though. He did it cos he felt they will be caught out. There is a difference.

But I fully agree with the Prossie thing ;)

If a mate has a nice warm and cozy kissing excapade with a woman at a night club as an example, do you still think it's my duty to rat him out ?
 
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