Sex Addict

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Don't buy it FFS, keep your pride and dignity intact :twisted:
 
R13... said:
I don't remember:p the details and it looks like smalls wants to forget it. Maybe best we let him decide to share (or not):o
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i could always share links in private to the kinky stuff out there if anybody is brave enough :p i can even have a scale for you from 1 being tame to 10 being worst.

you'd be surprised at the kind of things you find online when you go into fetish forums ;) i know my homosexual necrophiliac penguins
 
Oh just come out with it already ffs. Stop beating around the proverbial bush. Everyone already assumes you're a whackjob in the bedroom - perceptions can't be lowered...
 
DJ... said:
Oh just come out with it already ffs. Stop beating around the proverbial bush. Everyone already assumes you're a whackjob in the bedroom - perceptions can't be lowered...
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i'd probably make news24 backaway from the thread :p
 
Does this turn you on, smalls?

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smalltownsky said:
well i'm not a violent person, and she said it was okay. we spoke a lot about our pasts and growing up and i thought she understood that side to me and she was the one that volunteered to try my fetish, but i always felt kind of guilty doing it so didn't do it as much and spent more time on porn. she mentioned that she was always unsure about our future because of it and could see it's affected me deeply.

thing is it is bad, i can't talk about it really, i always have to hide it, i'm always paranoid about my family finding out that i was a little sociopath, i can never really do the things i want to do as they are really dark, so it's like a guilty pleasure which i'll never be able to do. it isn't healthy for me, but there isn't much else to me really.

the scary part is that i deal with it and it does go, but then that is a big chunk of my life gone, that is a big part of my identity gone, i don't know what will take its place
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It really seems that you feel terrible about your fetish, smalltownsky.

I cant really see why, because you were born this way, with an altered love map.(John Moneys theory)

I have done alot of reading up on fetishes and have some of my own, and although really strange it isn't harmful, but damn if i can unlike something like this even if i tried.

Have you joined a support forum with like minded and nice people that you can discuss this with at length?


Hell i found people living in this very same country/town with my weird fetish and most with a fetish seem to have trouble dealing with being different, until they reach balance and acceptance kicks in.

Please don't call yourself a sociopath, because that is reserved for the truly narcissistic, selfish people who suffer no guilt for their harmful actions, which doesn't sound like you.

What you need to be doing is accepting yourself for who you are with the unwillingness to bend for what society considers the norm and embrace being different.

Ultimately, balance is the key to your happiness, that and acceptance.

Imagine living in Japan, you would be considered vanilla!:D

So crack out your leathers and know that there are MANY like you who live rich fulfilling lives and have a kinky side whilst being great parents, who reach ripe old ages.

Its well hidden and it should stay that way, because what goes on behind closes doors is nobody's business.

This taboo on sexuality need to bugger of, because homosexuality was also seen as an abomination a few decades ago and was even considered a mental disorder.

I truly believe in time all fetishes will be more openly spoken about and eventually the taboo will fade.

Think of it this way, for humans to multiply we need individuality, and what more so then fetishes.

Stay unique buddy.

Regards.;)
 
Sexual addiction is no joke. This is one of our most powerful drives, and lack of control can ruin our lives and families.

http://saa-recovery.org/ - read excerpt from book

Are you a Sex Addict?

“Before coming to Sex Addicts Anonymous, many of us never knew that our problem had a name. All we knew was that we couldn't control our sexual behavior. For us, sex was a consuming way of life. Although the details of our stories were different, our problem was the same. We were addicted to sexual behaviors that we returned to over and over, despite the consequences.” — Sex Addicts Anonymous, p. 3


Although sex addicts may act out sexually in many different ways, there are common elements that seem to characterize our addiction:

Powerlessness over addictive sexual behavior.

Resulting unmanageability of his/her life.

Feelings of shame, pain, and self-loathing.

Failed promises and attempts to stop acting out.

Preoccupation with sex leading to ritual.

Progressive worsening of negative consequences
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i'll reply to everyone tomorrow, bathing baby. thanks guys :)
 
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