Sexual performance anxiety

[Mike Hoxbig]

Seriously starting to consider viagra just to get over the initial hurdle, after the deed is done the pscycolgical part might be a little less afterwards (I think), now I just need to find a way to get viagra before the weekend seeing thats she going to be spending the week...Killa where you at, hook me up

Your issue is mental, not physical. Even if you do use viagra, you're still too shy to expose yourself fully to her, and that's going to spoil the sexual experience for both of you. You've managed to get her in the sack, so short of any weird fetishes (which you would probably need to discuss beforehand) you're basically free to do as you please.

One thing to note: sex in real life is usually very awkward, it's not like a porno. If you're thinking that it should be smoother than it is, then don't. You're not alone.

 

[guest2013-1]

I'm all to aware of the fact that I'm overthinking this, but the more I tell myself to not think about it, the more my mind gets obsessed:erm:

Yea I know dude, trick is to NOT think about it, duh. I was always anxious about "not knowing where to put it in". Silly I know, but inexperience does that.

You just traded in your car for a new model, do you suddenly forget how to drive?

 

[PerfAnx]

put pRon on behind her ?

And how is she going to feel when I manage to get a stiffy while watching porn, but not with her, bad idea

 

[Kloofvreter]

Yea I know dude, trick is to NOT think about it, duh. I was always anxious about "not knowing where to put it in". Silly I know, but inexperience does that.

You just traded in your car for a new model, do you suddenly forget how to drive?

Problem is that you cannot just tell yourself to stop overthinking or worrying about things like this. It's always there.

 

[guest2013-1]

One thing to note: sex in real life is usually very awkward, it's not like a porno. If you're thinking that it should be smoother than it is, then don't. You're not alone.

lol yea, that's something I had to realize. The key is to already be good together before all of that to enjoy the moment. So if you rip a fart while she's busy riding you, you both laugh. Open communication is also key. Definitely not like porn, in fact, I hope I never have a "porn" experience because I like how it is in real life much more

 

[I.am.Sam]

And how is she going to feel when I manage to get a stiffy while watching porn, but not with her, bad idea

thats why we asked for pics

so we can give better advice cause maybe she is not your type even

 

[Rocket Raccoon]

Easy. Picture her as a dude.

 

[guest2013-1]

Problem is that you cannot just tell yourself to stop overthinking or worrying about things like this. It's always there.

Of course you can't tell yourself that, you need to physically concentrate on something else entirely. That's why I said, focus on her, don't whip out your dick at all. The more comfortable he gets with the chick the better

I'm always nervous when entering a new relationship re: this, and I don't have sex with them even if they beg me to because I deal with their pleasure first, not just to get to know them and their bodies/quirks better, but to set my mind at ease too. She will instinctively comfort whatever bothers you without having to talk about it.

If he's not feeling comfortable enough in her presence to fart openly yet, then it's not just the sexual thing. He needs to first be comfortable around her. clothes or no clothes

 

[I.am.Sam]

abzo says you should furk her with a strap on

 

[Ninja'd]

abzo says you should furk her with a strap on

And remember, Boys Don't Cry.

 

[ShaunSA]

abzo says you should furk her with a strap on

Ah so that's what you two get up to! :twisted:

 

[Alan]

Time to put em old stalking skills into action /me thinks

 

[I.am.Sam]

Ah so that's what you two get up to! :twisted:

jealousy is strong in this one

 

[Nick333]

Your issue is mental, not physical. Even if you do use viagra, you're still too shy to expose yourself fully to her, and that's going to spoil the sexual experience for both of you. You've managed to get her in the sack, so short of any weird fetishes (which you would probably need to discuss beforehand) you're basically free to do as you please.

One thing to note: sex in real life is usually very awkward, it's not like a porno. If you're thinking that it should be smoother than it is, then don't. You're not alone.

I don't agree that sex is awkward though I've had awkward sex before. Performance anxiety and awkwardness are both symptoms of something... something - not sure what to be honest.

I think getting drunk will probably help.

 

[I.am.Sam]

the master ...nick has arrived

 

[Nick333]

And how is she going to feel when I manage to get a stiffy while watching porn, but not with her, bad idea

Well, ya know what? If she's the type of chick that would take that sort of thing personally that's half your problem right there. Is she fat and ugly?

 

[Ninja'd]

Time to put em old stalking skills into action /me thinks

/looks at the threads using quick search

Yoh! Even that one guy has anxiety issues. :wtf:

 

[I.am.Sam]

Well, ya know what? If she's the type of chick that would take that sort of thing personally that's half your problem right there. Is she fat and ugly?

now now nick ...i was thinking it ..you didnt have to go and say it

 

[Mike Hoxbig]

I don't agree that sex is awkward though I've had awkward sex before. Performance anxiety and awkwardness are both symptoms of something... something - not sure what to be honest.

I think getting drunk will probably help.

Awkward in the sense that things don't usually flow smoothly. There's a lot of jostling and grappling when trying to change positions, and sometimes you even lose your rhythm a bit during thrusts. In pornos, those bits are usually edited out so it looks a lot smoother than it actually is.

 

[Rocket Raccoon]

Have your friend give you the talk. It worked before so it work again. He does seem to have a way with you.