Sexual performance anxiety

Alcohol lowers your inhibitions but affects your performance. Bad idea if she's not drunk too.

Hence my suggestion of getting drunk together. As for affecting performance... /shrugs its less about performing as connecting deeply and feeling comfortable anyway. Obviously, getting pass out drunk defeats the purpose.
 
Sometimes the romance of a new relationship is the problem. You feel like the first time with a person that you possibly care about should be special, in a romantic way. Candles, wine, dinner, bathtub, bubbles, sensual massage. All of this gives you time to think.

Some people say slow it down until you are comfortable. I say push on through with furious vengeance. Basically you need to go from 0 to crazy primal sex in 60 seconds flat. You need to be bumpin uglies before your mind realises what is up. (Pun intended) Sure it wont have the foreplay aspect, but crazy, intense passionate sex; without foreplay can be even more exciting in the right ways.

I am willing to bet that once you get your rocks off with her, and she enjoyed it as much you would hope that she could. Then you will be over it and the normal romantic sex can follow. Just be sure to not confuse intense, foreplayless sex with impersonal porno sex. You can still kiss and keep eye contact while being an animal.
 
Sometimes the romance of a new relationship is the problem. You feel like the first time with a person that you possibly care about should be special, in a romantic way. Candles, wine, dinner, bathtub, bubbles, sensual massage. All of this gives you time to think.

Some people say slow it down until you are comfortable. I say push on through with furious vengeance. Basically you need to go from 0 to crazy primal sex in 60 seconds flat. You need to be bumpin uglies before your mind realises what is up. (Pun intended) Sure it wont have the foreplay aspect, but crazy, intense passionate sex; without foreplay can be even more exciting in the right ways.

I am willing to bet that once you get your rocks off with her, and she enjoyed it as much you would hope that she could. Then you will be over it and the normal romantic sex can follow. Just be sure to not confuse intense, foreplayless sex with impersonal porno sex. You can still kiss and keep eye contact while being an animal.
He's too shy to jerk off in front of her to get it up again within 60 seconds.
 
He's too shy to jerk off in front of her to get it up again within 60 seconds.

I thought I read that he gets it up while the romance is on, but then when he realises that **** is about to go down, he loses wood? I propose simply humping her before he loses anything.

Another option is naked non penetration cowgirl. Even a flaccid member resting over your pelvic bone and onto your low abdomen, can provide some good pleasure for her, rubbing back and forth. Might be a gateway position?
 
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So you tried it ?? the real thing of the counterfeit one ??
 
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I thought I read that he gets it up while the romance is on, but then when he realises that **** is about to go down, he loses wood? I propose simply humping her before he loses anything.

Another option is naked non penetration cowgirl. Even a flaccid member resting over your pelvic bone and onto your low abdomen, can provide some good pleasure for her, rubbing back and forth. Might be a gateway position?
Getting her to soft-tickle your member and his surrounds works wonders too. A flacid dick is only a problem if you make it one, most of the time she won't think much of it, you just need to become less self-conscious about it and don't be afraid to jerk off and/or speak up about what turns you on.
 
I'm thinking the problem here is she's not going down on the OP ... can we get a confirmation here OP?
 
Well, ya know what? If she's the type of chick that would take that sort of thing personally that's half your problem right there. Is she fat and ugly?

Nope petite blonde little girl, 50-55kgs if I had to guess her weight...(And NO, no one is getting pics):D

Maybe he should be boning the friend :D

Surprised it took this long for something like this to pop up, nope I'm 100% sure I don't bat for the other team:D

Alcohol and being spontaneous from her side will likely help.
Dont really give you a chance to get freaked out or anything like that.

Yeah this might also be a bit of a problem, after telling her about my problem, she's not doing much, so I'm assuming its because she doesn't want to get me more nervous, and being very ****ing nervous and trying to get your dick hard on your own, is not always that easy:D

:wtf: you can bone her without farting in front of her. If that's the level of comfort you need before you can get it up then you got 99 problems.

Thank you! there's no way I farting in front of her, think I was boning my ex SO for about 4 years before I ever farted in front of her (by accident the first time) surely not a measure that tells if you're sexually comfortable with someone or not...

Sometimes the romance of a new relationship is the problem. You feel like the first time with a person that you possibly care about should be special, in a romantic way. Candles, wine, dinner, bathtub, bubbles, sensual massage. All of this gives you time to think.

Some people say slow it down until you are comfortable. I say push on through with furious vengeance. Basically you need to go from 0 to crazy primal sex in 60 seconds flat. You need to be bumpin uglies before your mind realises what is up. (Pun intended) Sure it wont have the foreplay aspect, but crazy, intense passionate sex; without foreplay can be even more exciting in the right ways.

I am willing to bet that once you get your rocks off with her, and she enjoyed it as much you would hope that she could. Then you will be over it and the normal romantic sex can follow. Just be sure to not confuse intense, foreplayless sex with impersonal porno sex. You can still kiss and keep eye contact while being an animal.

Yup, thats the plan, as with my previous girl, I know if I can get over the hurdle once the problem will be solved
 
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I thought I read that he gets it up while the romance is on, but then when he realises that **** is about to go down, he loses wood? I propose simply humping her before he loses anything.

You read right, and then mike sugested I mastrubate in front of her once I lose wood, erm....not going to work for me...but yeah you understood the problem, and I'll keep your more aggressive approach in mind thanks

For the OP's prostrate? Might work OP ...



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I'm thinking the problem here is she's not going down on the OP ... can we get a confirmation here OP?

Yap no going down, but I'm **** scared that if I ask her to do it, and it still doesn't work, she'll feel stupid, **** I'm really starting to overthink this situation now:wtf:
 
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Yap no going down, but I'm **** scared that if I ask her to do it, and it still doesn't work, she'll feel stupid, **** I'm really starting to overthink this situation now:wtf:

I highly doubt it will be a problem ... might take a minute but you're not going to have a choice in the matter ;)
 
You are a scared a petite blonde sucking your knob will keep you soft? Your mind is out of the game. You either need to fix your mind or you need a hardcore proven drug.

Ok i think we just went to the worst possible level, if a man cannot get a boner while getting sucked off by a hot blonde wow viagra brother,alcohol, coke, whatever gets it hard go get that shyte.

If your brain is not registering that she is willing to suck you off to get you back then i dunno but o brother you are in trouble, you are so mind fked by this situation you need viagra china. Your biggest issue is you are not willing to ask her or perhaps she is not willing to say lie down big boy, lemme get this shyte going.

Dude if you are afraid to ask a girl to suck it, then long term isn't an option. She should do what needs to be done. I think you are beyond talking yourself into boning her and you need to chose the next encounter to see what she will and won't do. You need to sit her down and tell her about this mental block and explain that she needs to help you get past it or take viagra if you have strong feelings for her. You either to fix this mental block or get something that will ensure you don't have to worry about your boner, You risk being stuck with performance issues for good if this goes long term using drugs though, so you will need to stock pile the viargra/drug and be able to call when the sexiness will go down.

You need to talk yourself into boning this girl or get Viagra. You would do well to test her and say could you suck for a bit if she turns you down, viagra or new girl. You are only as confident as the girl you are fking makes you. For many men it isn't a problem sober but you seem to have gone beyond the point of return, unless you can get your mind right you will need something to help you along. Alcohol i would not suggest. Cialis or viagra is the good shyte but jeepers keep trying the mind thing because once you go sober on viagra there is no going back i would imagine. Never used it sober only when i have been drugging it up but yea that happens to some men what you have is a mental issue and you need to get it under control before you cannot bone without a drug.

It is possible to stop thinking? you need your boner to take over bud, your mind is fcking both you and him. You gotta stop over thinking it. Stop thinking if possible, use your smaller head or if you are from congo your bigger head to do the thinking :D
 
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You are a scared a petite blonde sucking your knob will keep you soft? Your mind is out of the game. You either need to fix your mind or you need a hardcore proven drug.

Ok i think we just went to the worst possible level, if a man cannot get a boner while getting sucked off by a hot blonde wow viagra brother,alcohol, coke, whatever gets it hard go get that shyte.

If your brain is not registering that she is willing to suck you off to get you back then i dunno but o brother you are in trouble, you are so mind fked by this situation you need viagra china. Your biggest issue is you are not willing to ask her or perhaps she is not willing to say lie down big boy, lemme get this shyte going.

Dude if you are afraid to ask a girl to suck it, then long term isn't an option. She should do what needs to be done. I think you are beyond talking yourself into boning her and you need to chose the next encounter to see what she will and won't do. You need to sit her down and tell her about this mental block and explain that she needs to help you get past it or take viagra if you have strong feelings for her. You either to fix this mental block or get something that will ensure you don't have to worry about your boner, You risk being stuck with performance issues for good if this goes long term using drugs though, so you will need to stock pile the viargra/drug and be able to call when the sexiness will go down.

You need to talk yourself into boning this girl or get Viagra. You would do well to test her and say could you suck for a bit if she turns you down, viagra or new girl. You are only as confident as the girl you are fking makes you. For many men it isn't a problem sober but you seem to have gone beyond the point of return, unless you can get your mind right you will need something to help you along. Alcohol i would not suggest. Cialis or viagra is the good shyte but jeepers keep trying the mind thing because once you go sober on viagra there is no going back i would imagine. Never used it sober only when i have been drugging it up but yea that happens to some men what you have is a mental issue and you need to get it under control before you cannot bone without a drug.

It is possible to stop thinking? you need your boner to take over bud, your mind is fcking both you and him. You gotta stop over thinking it. Stop thinking if possible, use your smaller head or if you are from congo your bigger head to do the thinking :D

Killa, it aint the weekend yet, why you so high???
 
You are a scared a petite blonde sucking your knob will keep you soft? Your mind is out of the game. You either need to fix your mind or you need a hardcore proven drug.

Ok i think we just went to the worst possible level, if a man cannot get a boner while getting sucked off by a hot blonde wow viagra brother,alcohol, coke, whatever gets it hard go get that shyte.

If your brain is not registering that she is willing to suck you off to get you back then i dunno but o brother you are in trouble, you are so mind fked by this situation you need viagra china. Your biggest issue is you are not willing to ask her or perhaps she is not willing to say lie down big boy, lemme get this shyte going.

Dude if you are afraid to ask a girl to suck it, then long term isn't an option. She should do what needs to be done. I think you are beyond talking yourself into boning her and you need to chose the next encounter to see what she will and won't do. You need to sit her down and tell her about this mental block and explain that she needs to help you get past it or take viagra if you have strong feelings for her. You either to fix this mental block or get something that will ensure you don't have to worry about your boner, You risk being stuck with performance issues for good if this goes long term using drugs though, so you will need to stock pile the viargra/drug and be able to call when the sexiness will go down.

You need to talk yourself into boning this girl or get Viagra. You would do well to test her and say could you suck for a bit if she turns you down, viagra or new girl. You are only as confident as the girl you are fking makes you. For many men it isn't a problem sober but you seem to have gone beyond the point of return, unless you can get your mind right you will need something to help you along. Alcohol i would not suggest. Cialis or viagra is the good shyte but jeepers keep trying the mind thing because once you go sober on viagra there is no going back i would imagine. Never used it sober only when i have been drugging it up but yea that happens to some men what you have is a mental issue and you need to get it under control before you cannot bone without a drug.

It is possible to stop thinking? you need your boner to take over bud, your mind is fcking both you and him. You gotta stop over thinking it. Stop thinking if possible, use your smaller head or if you are from congo your bigger head to do the thinking :D

This post just made it worse, see the bolded parts, you're not helping:(
 
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This post just made it worst, see the bolded parts, you're not helping:(

Don't mind killa, giving head is a skill most women aren't very good at. She might just give you all teeth making things bad for you. Just get the Viagra hookup and get started. Once you do it the first time you shouldnt be needing any more help.
 
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