Sexual performance anxiety

Mike Hoxbig said:
Awkward in the sense that things don't usually flow smoothly. There's a lot of jostling and grappling when trying to change positions, and sometimes you even lose your rhythm a bit during thrusts. In pornos, those bits are usually edited out so it looks a lot smoother than it actually is.
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F@rk it. We're all supposed to be grown ups here.
 
Nick333 said:
F@rk it. We're all supposed to be grown ups here.
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Edit: quoted the wrong post. Was supposed to be the sam's.

I like my porn pretty raw. Your cock slipping out and her desperately, grabbing it and shoving it back in is part of the experience.

Sex should be more like good porn.
 
I'm sucking at quoting and editing today.
 
At OP: talk to your woman about sex. Share fantasies. Get drunk together, get naked or semi naked and talk. You'll become way more comfortable with each other. If she's not into it its a good reason to ditch her. Sex is very important in a good relationship.
 
cerebus said:
Man I never post on threads of this nature but whatever. You need to slow yourself right down. Have dinner together. Have some time together in the bathtub, wash each other. Massage each other. Start the night together at 6 or so and it will be impossible to hold back by 9.
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Romance is just the most socially acceptable sexual fetish but its by no means the most prevalent except in that it's the one that's foisted on us by the media as what women want.
If it's what gets you going go for it but seriously it's not the cure to all sexual problems.
 
Nick333 said:
Romance is just the most socially acceptable sexual fetish but its by no means the most prevalent except in that it's the one that's foisted on us by the media as what women want.
If it's what gets you going go for it but seriously it's not the cure to all sexual problems.
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I'm not talking about romance. I'm talking about just letting his body get comfortable and sufficiently warmed up that he wasn't freaked out by the time he got going. If he had other 'desires' or issues he would surely have brought them up by now.
 
Nick333 said:
At OP: talk to your woman about sex. Share fantasies. Get drunk together, get naked or semi naked and talk. You'll become way more comfortable with each other. If she's not into it its a good reason to ditch her. Sex is very important in a good relationship.
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You really think substituting his issues with drinking and nakedness will help, why can't they be naked without drugs and get used to one other. Watching each other get off by their own doing can go a long way, don't use drugs to overcome this issue.

Be a BOSS bro and go in thinking you are going to bang her something stupid, don't think anything other than i am going to bang this broad like a porno, porn is edited, cut to make it look so easy but new sex is mostly awkward and pretty horrific. Porn makes it look so easy but then again the females in the porno do their bit to make it look that way, they fk as hard as they get fked and honestly if you are with a chick who only likes missionary run for your life pal. If she isn't into sucking your dick or kissing your entire body to get you hard run forest run.

Viagra is a good option though, just the thought of fking makes you hard. Then you will only ever be able to bang her with Viagra though. Same as any drug.
 
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Alcohol and being spontaneous from her side will likely help.
Dont really give you a chance to get freaked out or anything like that.
 
Alcohol lowers your inhibitions but affects your performance. Bad idea if she's not drunk too.
 
It only takes 3.5 inches to please a woman, it doesn't matter if its Visa or MasterCard.

Go and buy her some sexy undies, then go and undress her and put them on to her to see if they fit nicely.
You will wonder how fast they come off, or partly off again, before "it" happens automatically.
 
Mike Hoxbig said:
Alcohol lowers your inhibitions but affects your performance. Bad idea if she's not drunk too.
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there's a certain threshold, if you can find how much booze you can handle before losing wood, you last a looooong time
 
The only way he'd achieve anything is to first be comfortable in her presence. Rip one in front of her and see what happens. if you can't because you still putting up that facade then you not ready or comfortable to let them be as intimate with you yet
 
AcidRaZor said:
The only way he'd achieve anything is to first be comfortable in her presence. Rip one in front of her and see what happens. if you can't because you still putting up that facade then you not ready or comfortable to let them be as intimate with you yet
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Lol I'm not if throwing out a fart is the best way to test comfort levels. Some women find it disgusting no matter how comfortable you are with them.
 
Mike Hoxbig said:
Lol I'm not if throwing out a fart is the best way to test comfort levels. Some women find it disgusting no matter how comfortable you are with them.
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ALL of them do. The point is to see if you're comfortable enough with her TO do it. All my friends wives/gf's go "ewwwwwww stoppit what the hell!" but all of them laugh at it or pretend to be cross.

I think the OP's issue isn't so much overthinking it as much as it is, he can't do it because he's not comfortable with her around yet.
 
aggg sis man, there is nothing more disgusting than farting in front of your partner, some people stink something horrific.

You really think she is gonna be ready to go if he pushes one out the her eyes start watering? Ummmm no that right there would send her running if he smells and isn't afraid to let her enjoy it :eek:. Be comfortable with someone has nothing to do with farting, my gosh. Terrible idea. Keep that air bubble in there or rush to the bathroom or outside.

He may as well and eat his snot and see how she handles that, where else can we go with this. Perhaps she can sit in the bathroom while he takes a dump. ummm yikes. Some people including women smell like something has died inside their asses when they fart.

Comfortable is being naked with each other without having to test their sense of smell.
 
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AcidRaZor said:
The only way he'd achieve anything is to first be comfortable in her presence. Rip one in front of her and see what happens. if you can't because you still putting up that facade then you not ready or comfortable to let them be as intimate with you yet
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:wtf: you can bone her without farting in front of her. If that's the level of comfort you need before you can get it up then you got 99 problems.
 
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