She is not the one.

[Ou grote]

I think I saw this on Egoli

 

[Mars]

I think I saw this on Egoli

 

[phoneJunky]

I think I saw this on Egoli

lol

OP, you should give more detail. This is the internet, we will judge you without any remorse, give more detail and we might be more sympathetic.

 

[Old_Username]

To the OP

Please don't even try to justify your decision. You have stuffed up so so badly :/

You should've worked through your issues with Girl A when you had the chance. Chances are you both just desire what you cannot have Pursue her if you want but I honestly do not see it ending well for anyone. Girl A is selfish to even let you know she still has feelings for you- she should've let it be.

I feel so sorry for Girl B... She has a life with you and has committed to you. Not cool

 

[Sensorei]

Wow. Just wow. You weren't sure you wanted her, yet you got her pregnant? You're being a massive idiot(child), frankly.

Decide whether you're not in fact just in love with the idea of A instead of the person, and then decide whether "the one" as you understand it, isn't just a product of Hollywood and their drivel.
Either way, you have a child now to whom you have responsibilities as a parent, and if you feel anything for the child, as you say you do, you need to ensure stability in his/her life, which may require you to avoid contact with A until you can sort yourself out.

Agree completely. As adults we have to accept the consequences of our actions. You also have no guarantee that a relationship with 'A' will work long term. I have been in a similar situation (but no child involved) after 6 years in a relationship and my friends got through to me and I realised I was being rediculous.

My cousin was in the SAME situation as you a year and a half ago. At 40 years old he felt his wife was really more like a friend and he left her for another woman who he thought was 'the one'. The woman left her loving husband as well and my cousin and her moved in together. Well, they just broke up and now they have ruined 2 families (including broken the hearts of their 3 children who will be bare the scares of a broken home) due to their childish selfishness.

Having a child in a marriage/relationship always changes things and the relationship is always more difficult. Priorities change and its expected that the love you felt a few years will now have changed. Its not only about you now, your child should come first. Eish!

 

[Sensorei]

Leave your kid with the grandparents for a week and go away with 'B' somewhere and talk. Tell her what you miss in your relationship, take responsibility for your part in the change and work on it together. Many married couples go through times when they don't know who the hell they are married to only to fall in love with their partner again and again.

 

[medicnick83]

Follow your heart?!?

 

[RazedInBlack]

@ the op!

Post a pic of Girl A and Girl B, so we can decide who is hotter then we can make an informed decision and get to the bottom of this!

 

[The_Pumpkin_King]

/doesnt care

/moves along

 

[HapticSimian]

Someone needs to HTFU.

There is no 'the one' - doesn't exist... deal with it. You owe it to both your child and its mother to dig until you discover something about her, the woman you've been with for 8 years, that you can love and lust after.

It's you spineless types that give men the world over a bad name.

 

[matt loves telkom]

awww dude heavy!
the sad fact is that your mind is already made up. you still love 'A' more than 'B' and thats just the way it is.... i understand that you should try and work/improve things with B but you are ALWAYS gonna have this silly niggly thought in your mind about A being the one.
i really hope you can find love and that 'spark' in your current spouse again but the fact you are already telling ppl (okay a forum) that you have made a mistake, i think its gonna be real tough to mend it.good luck bud

 

[RazedInBlack]

Hey! All these people that say you can only have one or the other! Just ignore them!

Dude! You can have both, if you play your cards right.

 

[Dixie]

@ the op!

Post a pic of Girl A and Girl B, so we can decide who is hotter then we can make an informed decision and get to the bottom of this!

Lol! You chop!

@ OP

Messugga, Sensorei and Voicy makes the most sense...

Good luck...

Edit:
...and enigma243

 

[The_Pumpkin_King]

OBVIOUSLY she is not the one! Neo is the one. dude you put on the wrong channel

 

[making_hay]

Hey! All these people that say you can only have one or the other! Just ignore them!

Dude! You can have both, if you play your cards right.

says the 20 year-old

tough one anon, i think you need to spend a lot of time examining how much of your reality is based on fact and how much on fantasy.

 

[Dixie]

Dude! You can have both, if you play your cards right.

Thank goodness you're not into marriage counselling :erm:

...or maybe you should be!

 

[RazedInBlack]

says the 20 year-old

tough one anon, i think you need to spend a lot of time examining how much of your reality is based on fact and how much on fantasy.

Much like the Matrix as per PK's suggestion:

OBVIOUSLY she is not the one! Neo is the one. dude you put one the wrong channel

 

[RazedInBlack]

Thank goodness you're not into marriage counselling :erm:

...or maybe you should be!

Everybody has to make a buck!

 

[smokey]

Someone needs to HTFU.

There is no 'the one' - doesn't exist... deal with it. You owe it to both your child and its mother to dig until you discover something about her, the woman you've been with for 8 years, that you can love and lust after.

It's you spineless types that give men the world over a bad name.

I love it when enigma ventures out of PD

+1

 

[smokey]

says the 20 year-old

tough one anon, i think you need to spend a lot of time examining how much of your reality is based on fact and how much on fantasy.

That comment is sooooooo 60's. Hippy