She is not the one.

:D all those stars will make the guy think you not serious and you approve of his fantasy of being with Lady A after humping then dumping Lady B but he forgets to ask what does Lady Gaga say about all this. He (anon) thinks it's a "Love Game". :D

I only approve of kikkin him ina groin.


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Impotant statements :

1: This thread stopped being serious when anon stopped being a part of it.
2: Kikim ina groin!
 
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1: This thread stopped being serious when anon stopped being a part of it.

I am glad you think so! When the Bulls hoist the Currie Cup, I will very seriously forget all about anon, A and B. And the Bulls seriously will win!

I am very very serious. So serious, I am serial!
 
...And then Lady A turns into Lady B and you go looking for Lady C.
You're never gonna be satisfied, learn to work things out with Lady B .It was your choice to start with and if you're weren't sure ,why did you start making babies?
 
you want to tell me that children from split parents have the best their parents can offer, nope, parents have been selfish, i feel for children who have lost a parent through death, thats harsh and I have seen first hand the effects it can have, not having a mother and father figures together affects you no matter how hard the split parents try



i have made mistakes in my life and learn't many a lesson from them, but none of them involved creating another human being whom I am responsible for and could potentially screw up for life.

You're full of **** and so are a lot of others. I was married for 8 years to my son's mother and it was the unhappiest time of my life because we were not meant for each other I tried staying but it was screwing up my son, because he was hearing and seeing the arguments.

I eventually had the cahoonas to open up and say how I felt, and I couldn't be any happier than I am now...

My son's turned out pretty ok so far. If the OP wants to leave he should BUT he should make sure he's doing it for the right reasons and talk it through with both women and of course be there for his child at ALL times.
 
You're full of **** and so are a lot of others. I was married for 8 years to my son's mother and it was the unhappiest time of my life because we were not meant for each other I tried staying but it was screwing up my son, because he was hearing and seeing the arguments.

I eventually had the cahoonas to open up and say how I felt, and I couldn't be any happier than I am now...

My son's turned out pretty ok so far. If the OP wants to leave he should BUT he should make sure he's doing it for the right reasons and talk it through with both women and of course be there for his child at ALL times.

+1

There's nothing worse than staying together and being unhappy for the "children's sake". Children are more intuitive and resilient than you think.
 
Lady A to Z is not the problem. The mistake made was having children.
That is one of the dumbest mistakes one can make.
 
I really think a lot of people are unfair in this thread.
Its obvious he doesnt want to hurt anybody but he also doesnt want to be unhappy for the rest of his life.
People make mistakes. The fact that he asked for advise should show that he knows he made a mistake.

Society has gone to the dogs if love doesnt matter anymore .
 
I really think a lot of people are unfair in this thread.
Its obvious he doesn’t want to hurt anybody but he also doesn’t want to be unhappy for the rest of his life.
People make mistakes. The fact that he asked for advise should show that he knows he made a mistake.

Society has gone to the dogs if love doesn’t matter anymore .

Love DOES mattery. Love is the ONLY thing that matters.

Its when people think that love is something outside of their control that it screws things up. Lust is the thing that out of your control. I'm not talking about biblical sin or whatever. I'm talking about the lust for something you may not have right now. Be it a piece of ass or the need for affection, its all a kind of lust.
Love = giving.
Lust = taking.

Love is something you choose to do. If you really choose to love your partner you will get the things you lust from the person.

The general conception of love is "How can you make me feel love?"
Its wrong. It should be "How can I make you feel loved"

If someone takes something from you your natural instinct is to guard what you have left. So a relationship based on lust will end up empty.
If someone gives you something valuable that you want and need, your natural instinct is to give something of value back. That’s why a relationship based on love (not the warm fuzzy feeling in your stomach or a tingly feeling in your crotch, but a decision to love) ends up full and happy.

This idiot is just trying to justify his Lust.

Kikim inna crotch!
 
Ok...I kind of think anon isn't coming back to the thread but whatever, never stopped me chipping in my 0.02c now did it.

Unlike what some others have said, I strongly believe that there is such a thing as 'the one'. And I'd say I've known couples who have found their counterpart. That doesn't mean that 'the one' will never irritate you, or you will never fight or get bored or have issues - but it's a great, great blessing if you have found that one.

However there are also a slew of aphorisms - the grass is greener, a bird in the hand, etc and etc - pointing to a truism: the woman you have never been with will always be idealized, and the one you are currently with will always be de-romaticized through familiarity. You have never fought with this woman, you've never grown bored of her company, never struggled over financial decisions, and the woman you are currently with can't compare. Fantasy affair woman has a strong competitive advantage.

So I can't offer real advice. I'd personally cut off my ties with this woman and make myself happy with my wife. And by cutting off I mean forever, with absolute finality. Don't leave doors open, don't retain her picture or her phone number, don't think about her in your daydreams.
 
1. the whole "soulmate" crap is fail. marriages don't work just because you're soul mates. Sure I believe in destiny and all but leaving the mother of your kid just because you're having second thoughts? Shame on you.

You just wanna be friends?
How sweet.
It's too late for "just wanna be friends". The minimum you 2 can be is parents.

+1000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000

gimp suits FTW!

WTH:erm::D

If by hand you mean a push over the railings - then yes.

@anon - Just do it you woman. You have already decided, stop using this forum to get people to morally justify it. We won't.

+1

Get a vasectomy.

+1
Spare the gene pool plz... oh wait.....

He wasn't kidding!

I loled:D
 
What is stopping him from finding happiness with B is that he can't put the fantasy of A out of his head. Been there, done that.
 
What is stopping him from finding happiness with B is that he can't put the fantasy of A out of his head. Been there, done that.

Just for interest sake , what did you do in the end and how did it work out?
 
This is Lady B

Yes anon thinks Lady B is stupid but Lady B is alot more intelligent than what he gives her credit for, as you can see everything comes out, lies never let lie.

Let ME give you the true picture.
When i met anon he was broken from this previous relationship, i picked up the pieces. he professed his undying love to me for 8 yrs,I dedicated my life to this man, my every being, i served him cooked, cleaned all the time. He came home dinner was on the table, i pour his bath for him in the morning, pack him his lunch, sometimes with nice notes in, i get his clothes ready i do everything short of wiping his ass for him. I handle the accounts, make him breakfast on the weekends.
I supported him financially every time he was fired, dismissed or just walked out of his job, i NEVER turned my back on him. I looked for all his new jobs, he never lifted even a finger to do that, he was just happy to continue living a lie so i can continue to serve him. I believed in him when NOBODY would.
HE convinced me to fall pregnant, HE convinced me he wanted a family, he even proposed in March. against my better judgment and knowing that my previous relationship ended the same way, my partner left for another woman and then came crying back to me, begging me to stay with him because he had realized what he lost and no i denied him because i was already in love with ANON and i do not believe in cheating.

He more than anyone knows the pain i suffered, how much it took to put my trust in someone again and now he does the same?
i caught him not once, not twice, not thrice having 'affairs on the internet' still i forgave him and took him back, yes my own stupidity but i loved him. Him trying to justify that its not physical so its not really cheating, just as he is looking for justification now.
He spent all his time on his laptop, i would cry and beg for him to give me the same attention but he never did, o but he used me up and now he is content to take the man that i built up to someone else who dumped him in the first place.
He has just started working again, a job once again that i found for him and knowing im still on maternity leave, yes the baby is only 2 and half months old, knowing i don't get paid on maternity leave, i am totally dependent on him for the first time in our whole relationship because i have never been unemployed, HE LEAVES me for another woman. Yes he is looking for justification.
Yes i have become less attentive and not able to be at his beck and call because i have another little life i have to constantly care for. He complained i don't cook anymore, he complained we don't have sex as much,complain, complain, complain i ASKED him to give me time to adapt, yes i asked him why doesn't he cook dinner for me, why doesn't he attend to the baby so i can get rest and be there for him. He feels the hour he spends a day with his son is enough. I asked him why doesn't HE be romantic and woo me again. You know after a woman has a baby the last thing she feels is sexy but alas nothing, only the laptop gets attention. Yes im tired of competing with the pc for attention, its quite pathetic how it defines him, without it he is nothing. also pathetic how he posts as anonymous but also posts as himself, being sympathetic to himself, conceited maybe?

He so busy with it he doesn't realize the blessings he has been given. Funny how he says he never felt i was his soulmate, everytime i wanted to leave he BEGGED me back, strange isn't it.

Well i thought i would fill you gents in on the real truth not the lie he is painting again and yes he DOESN'T deserve me, Lady A can have him, how she thinks a man who lies in a relationship for 8 yrs, knocks me up and leaves will be true and faithful is beyond me, they deserve each other, they both live in fantasy worlds.
yes im awesome, yes im gorgeous, yes HIS LOSS. Leave me space to have a REAL man step in, reality is i haven't lost you, you have lost me. i now i have one baby to look after not 2.

EAT my dust
 
Post of the year.

All the absolute best in life ahead, miss B!
 

Wow, you do sound pretty awesome, and that's not a badge I hand out very easily. As I said at the beginning of this thread: he's a stupid fool to do what he's doing, and after this post, that opinion was just reinforced.
Good luck with your free (better) new life. I wish you all the best.
 
All the best B. As you can see, most of us are on your side :)

Do you happen to know his real nickname so we can tar and feather him?
 
I concur with the previous posters. You sound like an amazing woman and I wish you all the best for the future.
 
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