Should I contest the divorce

I am really sorry to hear it, but hopefully you can both get out without too much emotional baggage if it is handled professionally and fairly - hard I know when emotions are involved.

When it's time to move on you just gotta cut your losses and move... You both still have your whole lives still to live. What's a bit of money anyhow when you can earn more and perhaps have more joy cross your paths hey?

It is really hard now I know, but in a year or two you will be cruising. So suck it up and look ahead - that's what I would do.
 
3G4me said:
I am really sorry to hear it, but hopefully you can both get out without too much emotional baggage if it is handled professionally and fairly - hard I know when emotions are involved.

When it's time to move on you just gotta cut your losses and move... You both still have your whole lives still to live. What's a bit of money anyhow when you can earn more and perhaps have more joy cross your paths hey?

It is really hard now I know, but in a year or two you will be cruising. So suck it up and look ahead - that's what I would do.
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Thanks
 
Slootvreter said:
This is the kind of bull**** that makes many guys NOT want to get married. I know I'm already convinced I'm better off not married. **** that. Makes me ****ing sick.
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NoLimit sorry to hear that it's come to divorce. Glad to hear that kids aren't involved though. When my parents got divorced my mum went for everything my dad had. It destroyed him and he never recovered from it. I hope you pull through and find new joy in your life. (p.s. - the pension thing?? they can take that too:eek: Mother....er:eek:!!)
 
well the first thing that you have to do, is to go to your boss, if you have one, and make sure he fires you! but only for a month of two! this means that when you get divorced, she cant ask for a monthly income because you dont have one!

get a few contracts with friends or attorney stating that you owe them money! the date has to be changed to 10 years ago. 5 or more contracts worth 200k each. all cash amounts that have to be paid off! get a attorney friend to sign the docs and give him a case of beer. transfer cash to their bank accounts. okay.

have your pension paid out and have a few buddies to take it out of the country! rule of thumb, 500k per person per year to Australia for holiday money. or some other country!

need more ideas ?
 
thedutchman said:
well the first thing that you have to do, is to go to your boss, if you have one, and make sure he fires you! but only for a month of two! this means that when you get divorced, she cant ask for a monthly income because you dont have one!

get a few contracts with friends or attorney stating that you owe them money! the date has to be changed to 10 years ago. 5 or more contracts worth 200k each. all cash amounts that have to be paid off! get a attorney friend to sign the docs and give him a case of beer. transfer cash to their bank accounts. okay.

have your pension paid out and have a few buddies to take it out of the country! rule of thumb, 500k per person per year to Australia for holiday money. or some other country!

need more ideas ?
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Inventive. In a another situation and at the different time I would almost be tempted :)
 
Any chance of breakup sex? :D

Maybe she meets another lowlife dude that bleeds her dry, happens a lot.
 
j3n0va said:
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NoLimit sorry to hear that it's come to divorce. Glad to hear that kids aren't involved though. When my parents got divorced my mum went for everything my dad had. It destroyed him and he never recovered from it. I hope you pull through and find new joy in your life. (p.s. - the pension thing?? they can take that too:eek: Mother....er:eek:!!)
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Thanks. Recovery I fear is likely to remain elusive for me too.
 
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ponder said:
Maybe she meets another lowlife dude that bleeds her dry, happens a lot.
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I think that would make hime feel alot better. Although its someone that you once cared for, I'm sure you wouldn't really want that . . . but still, when they get so arrogant . . . :(
 
I'd fight it. Probably the wrong thing to do but my biggest problem with woman is I'm more stubborn than they are.
 
hyperian said:
What if you spend all the money before she gets a chance to grab it? Or can't you transfer a large part of it into a trust fund for your kids which will mature once theyre 21 or something?
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There's a chance his ex wont want to have kids with him at this juncture.
PythonFSi said:
I think that would make hime feel alot better. Although its someone that you once cared for, I'm sure you wouldn't really want that . . . but still, when they get so arrogant . . . :(
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Are you kidding - my ex ran back to an ex of hers who subsequently dumped her and on top of that she gained 15kg - I really didn't mind. ;)
 
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THANK YOU all for your amazing contributions. It covered the full spectrum, ranging from play the game and up the ante, fight until the bitter end, to, be pragmatic and settle.

I have MUCH to chew on. For the moment I have decided to bravely fight on and will see what her next move is.
 
NoLimit said:
No children. Grounds - 'irreconciliable differences'. We have fixed property and 'in-community'.

I could burn some but not a huge amount.
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Hedonism is the only way. Gambling, booze and other things - enjoy your downfall more than she can enjoy a potential windfall. Also, it would be worthwhile to hire a private investigator to dig up some dirt that you could possibly use.

Sorry to hear that this is happening...
 
@NoLimit, Give me her contact details. I will be her next bf, take all her stuff and bring it back to you. You have to give me something in return. 10% at least. :)

This really sucks. What the difference between out of community of property and a prenup?
 
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