The PERFECT first date...

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What would you classify as a good option?

Bird Gardens,
Coffee,
Movie,
Some extreme sports thing (rafting, abseiling etc.).


Oh yeah, only those who had successful ones need apply...

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b or c.
bird garden - WTF dude?
d - only if you can do the sport and its certain you not gonna make a total A#S! of yourself...

Who you trying to impress?
 
tell us more about the lady in question...

would be easier to advise then
 
It would all depend on the woman in question dude...
You know her, or should know her at least "sorta well" and then you decide, chat to her, find out what stuff she likes then decide.

But I'd suggest try doing something 'different' as she's probably done the whole coffee and dinner at a restraunt thing before.
 
Not the movies, you want to chat to her you idiot :p

Also not the extreme sports, except if she is a sports junkie :D

Take her to a nice place where the music is only background music and the food, atmosphere and drinks are good.

Good luck!
 
Coffee at a place where there are other things to do. That way if the situation + vibe isn't working out then one can always pay the bills and try something else.

Def not movies.
 
coffee after a movie gives you something to talk about - their is always the "dvd" option LOL
It also depends if its a first date i.e never met the person or someone you been unofficially dating? Maybe I have been out of this scene too long to give good advice
 
gdiza said:
It would all depend on the woman in question dude...
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+1

I had a "first date/meeting" where we agreed to meet up for a mountain hike.. Was great :)

You could also take her to some kind of show.. something to watch like horse jumping or anything a bit more original than coffee..
 
If you want to try something 'different', but again, depends on what kind of interests she has, try taking her to Salsa Dancing Lessons.....it's actually alot of fun, and as an added bonus, there is direct contact with her the whole time throughout the lesson, which kinda helps to make things a bit more comfortable (@ least for me it did). I can recommend a good place in Lonehill. And after the lessons there is a pub/restaurant at the venue where you can sit back and have a nice chilled evening....the place is called 96, on the corner of Witkoppen and Main and they do beginners classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays....i think. If you on facebook, search for a group called HNS Salsa and just confirm.
 
that lawyer girl?

depends on how well you know each other... if you've only seen each other once but have spoken a bit over the phone/sms/email then i'd go for bird gardens/coffee (or both)

the important thing in a first date is that you dont want her to feel trapped, she should be able to abort whenever she feels like it, this sets her nerves at ease and when she's relaxed she'll be a lot easier to attract. a relaxed smile and a fun, energetic and positive attitude and some kino and you'll have your second date. look for indicators of interest (her leaning in, keeping good eye contact, laughing, touching your arm, winking, teasing you back, punching your arm when you tease her, saying "thats mean" and then laughing etc)

a nice game i like to play during coffee is to get a table where you can see the whole coffee shop, have her sitting next to you (at 90 degrees at least, she should have a good view too...) and then talk about the other people in the shop ("he looks like an accountant, she's a broker, he juggles on the side of the highway while wearing rugby shorts and a parka") its fun and interesting. if you think she's into you but you're not sure, take her hand and squeeze it softly. if she squeezes back then its going pretty damn well, player ;-)

if you've seen each other 2-3 times and have had good convo and some kino then movies are good because she would feel comfortable enough to sit for 2 hours with you. romantic comedies are lame. stay away.

an emotionally charged date (like something extreme) is good for a second or third date after you've built that tiny bit of initial attraction. i like go-carting... challenge her to a race, loser buys coffee. or you can take her to gold reef and ride some coasters. abseiling and rafting might be a bit extreme until you've had 3-4 really good dates, and even then she might not be into something that extreme.
 
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I second the Teazers thing. Was going to post it myself.

But it depends on the woman in question. Make sure it is close to either your or her place, in case the date goes really well - minimize the driving time. I like to do things differently. My dates are more of a day-long outing and I prefer to do the dinner thing at my place, so I can cook. I always encourage her to cook with me then as well which can be a lot of fun and the perfect place to fool around, and show off a sense of humour if you have one (guy in the kitchen, she can come around and cook for you again, now where did I put that chain? - all in good taste though) :D

All that I can suggest is that you make it personal - don't fall for the cliche'd ideas. Be unique. She has probably been on tons of dates befre and you need to be the one she remembers and thinks about when she gets home. And don't call the next day. Send a text that night, then leave it. Be vague about when you will speakt o her next but emphasise you enjoyed it and want to do it again some time (only if you get lucky of course)...:D
 
hxc87x said:
that lawyer girl?
depends on how well you know each other... if you've only seen each other once but have spoken a bit over the phone/sms/email then i'd go for bird gardens/coffee (or both)
the important thing in a first date is that you dont want her to feel trapped, she should be able to abort whenever she feels like it, this sets her nerves at ease and when she's relaxed she'll be a lot easier to attract. a relaxed smile and a fun, energetic and positive attitude and some kino and you'll have your second date. look for indicators of interest (her leaning in, keeping good eye contact, laughing, touching your arm, winking, teasing you back, punching your arm when you tease her, saying "thats mean" and then laughing etc) a nice game i like to play during coffee is to get a table where you can see the whole coffee shop, have her sitting next to you (at 90 degrees at least, she should have a good view too...) and then talk about the other people in the shop ("he looks like an accountant, she's a broker, he juggles on the side of the highway while wearing rugby shorts and a parka") its fun and interesting. if you think she's into you but you're not sure, take her hand and squeeze it softly. if she squeezes back then its going pretty damn well, player ;-)
if you've seen each other 2-3 times and have had good convo and some kino then movies are good because she would feel comfortable enough to sit for 2 hours with you. romantic comedies are lame. stay away.
an emotionally charged date (like something extreme) is good for a second or third date after you've built that tiny bit of initial attraction. i like go-carting... challenge her to a race, loser buys coffee. or you can take her to gold reef and ride some coasters. abseiling and rafting might be a bit extreme until you've had 3-4 really good dates, and even then she might not be into something that extreme.
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Do you have something against paragraphs? :)
 
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